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To Forget

Me and my husband have just been on the phone and I got really really upset. Just talking about all the pain and hurt we've causwd each other over the past - I can't let it go. He hurt me so badly, and I hurt him, he seems to be able to move on though and I can't. I want to, I want to forget, but I always bring it up and I know I can't keep doing it. We have been so much better but I'm going to ruin it all by going on and on about the past - and it's not like any of us can change it............ any one have any tips on how to move on together in a relationship after there has been a lot of hurt caused? We haven't cheated on each other but have both lied to each other, and both done things that make us not trust each other much anymore.

AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 1, 2008

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Something that many people have found helped them release the hurt is to think about what positives have come from your experience. You are stronger for having been through it. You understand others' pain better. There may be other ways that this has been a positive experience. When you think of moving forward together from here, what do you see? Hypnosis can definitely help you with imagining and feeling a brighter future, as well as putting the past feelings where they belong, in the past.

On the other hand, what you're feeling may well be something that is still hurting you and needs to be addressed. Hypnosis can help you surface exactly what the trouble is so that you (and your husband) can deal with it.

All the best!

Being able to forgive both yourselves and each other is a step in the right direction. It won't necessarily fix anything, but it makes it much easier to let go, and move on.<br />
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Should you feel that you need hypnosis to lessen the emotional trauma, and enable yourself to move on, you are welcome to leave me a message, and we can discuss what potential options are available. Sometimes, all anyone needs is someone to listen first. If you still feel, at that point, that hypnosis would help, I am happy to deliver a pleasant trance state, to allow you to let go of the emotional turmoil.

If you still check this post Im game to hypnotize you via voice chat and even better video chat .. I do wish you well

sorry I don't have any advise for you, except to truelly be honest, and even if he doesn't believe you, you know you are being truthfull, so hopefully it'll show. give him trust and maybe he'll give it in return. good luck