Affectionate

I'd like to work on being able to physically express love with the people close to me. I believe that touch is an extremely important part of human bonding, and I have isolated myself from it because of varying insecuritiies I have. It would be amazing to just be able to put my arm around someone when I feel close to them, or initiate a hug for once.

SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
36-40, F
1 Response Mar 6, 2010

I immediately thought "Yup!" I was raised by a wise mother who knew and taught the normalcy of touch and its critical nature to our total health!<br />
But..me too!<br />
I'm definitely not cold, frigid, or UNloving - ( nope, I posted a kind of racy story on this site!*lol* Can`t claim primness.) <br />
But sometimes I can be shy..and I guess I was raised with two very different parents..my mother was very physically demonstrative even though her parents weren't (they were born in the late Victorian/Edwardian era)...but my Dad is less demonstrative, though he is playful in the sense of playing with children in the family; and his parents, older still than my mother's were, were VERY standoffish in public. Dad never even saw them hug or kiss in front of him ONCE in their marriage.<br />
As a result of this funny little background of mine, I'm actually a really affectionate person in relationships, but my friends AND my family, including my Dad who wouldn't understand why I'm even posting this (!)..are frustrated because I'm just not the person to initiate the hugs! *l* :-/ I honestly don't know why. I think I just feel the best way I can show people I respect them is to err - maybe too far on the side of caution? - by not invading their "space bubble" as a Seinfeld episode dubbed it.<br />
So, although I don`t assume our experiences are identical here, nor our reasons, feelings or motives, still, I find myself unable to initiate a ``little old`` hug too! ;-) <br />
Wow! I think I just gave the whole world `TMI``! *LOL*