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Fed Up

I have finally gotten to the point where I am tired of being married and lonely all the time. I get no respect from my wife of 18 years and she is constantly trying to mold me into this conservative subserviant person. All I want is respect and some affection, Is that too much to ask? I have been without intimacy for almost 10 years now. I would leave but I have no family nearby nor do i have any friends. I hate being lied to and that is all I have heard from her is lies. Hopefully EP has someone out there who understands and this place is not full of fakes and phonys too. Have too much of that already.
deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 7, 2011

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Sorry to hear this, I've never been there, but I can understand.

After 18 years, things are not likely to change. Perhaps you have no friends because you are in the position of an abused person--somehow, in this situation, we never have any friends, or think we don't. But maybe you do if you really thought about it.<br />
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If you really do not have any friend, consider joining a church. Yes, even if you are a non-believer. It will provide some instant community for you, and maybe a counseling service. Having some positive supportive people to see every week would give you a place to feel accepted and a place to discuss your plans to leave with someone.<br />
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Other than that, you could take a class and learn something new. That is a great place to make some new friends. Or pick a volunteer group that does actual work, like Habitat for Humanity, and join them for a while. Friends would provide some support and perhaps some help in transitioning out of your unhappy situation.