I listened to a "how to stengthen your relationship" CD once and I learned something very important about myself. In it the author spoke how everyone has a love language and if you know yours then it is easier to use it to strengthen a relationship. As he listed them Gifts, talk, touch, etc.... I knew instantly that mine was touch. He said that a person who's love language is touch shows love by touching and in return feels love by touch. It is very hard when your partners love language is not the same or in my case has a problem with touch or intimacy. I CRAVE touch. I love having skin on skin contact and I love touching and being touched everywhere.