I Want to Connect With Like Minded People

What Is The Solution?

By: anya1212

Written on February 19th, 2013

Love is acceptance, therefore love is trust. To trust is to accept as true. When something you accept as true turns out to be false, you can be hurt. That is why when you love, you can be hurt if what you accept as true turns out to be otherwise. The truer the love, the more what you accept as true is the essence rather than the form. The deeper your love is for a person, the more you are actually in love with the person’s core.

A person might not feel love anymore. But love is still there. It is just buried under other emotions of anger, hurt and fear. layers of other emotions can override the feeling of love but once these emotions are engaged and liberated instead of being avoided and resisted, the love is able to be felt once again. A person who is Authentic can always cut through all the other emotions and get right to love itself and know that it is always there and feel it.

But the question is why this love is momentarily for many and why people are still clueless that what their real inner core is about??May be they are misled by too much information around or there is very little scope of expanding the realm of true masculinity and femininity.Are these aspects of human being are interchanging and thus disturbing the balance??

Am I making any sense?

By: anya1212

Age: 26-30 , Female

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11 responses

NeoPolo

If we accept something or someone as true, we expect him/her to be true from our perspective. Doesn't it mean that we expect him/her like what we want? We don't accept them as they are. They can be quite different than us. They are true themselves and we are true ourselves but we don't match. I believe that either we accept them as they are and never try to change them OR we just move on. Quick conclusion of any relationship as Love can often be momentarily and then we feel betrayal which is actually our unsatisfied expectations.

Feb 20
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Lookseen

Yes you are making sense. Firstly the gender roles have changed where the woman must work to help support the home so yes many are losing their identity as such. The other major roadblock is that to love you need to love yourself first. if you do not love yourself then no matter who loves you the relationship needs you to love you to give it as well..

Feb 20
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in10RjFox

The problem is basically that we borrow other's definition of LOVE, and each one of us start applying it, to check if the OTHER stands worthy of what we THINK love is, but never get down to find out from our inner self what our love is. Thus we start framing the other, but never frame ourselves. And slowly we can see that we never alLove love to bloom, but constantly nip it in the bud, with various rules.
Thus we can conclude, there is a gross misunderstanding right from the root, for everything is only borrowed thoughts through books, and never realised thoughts.
"Am I making any sense?" is a fitting way to close the article, we are yet to arrive a consensus as to what LOVE is all about. We can also say that, as we stand now, we are progressing senselessly and without any clue about essentials of life.
Nevertheless we need to keep our efforts in researching and defining LOVE , for it is only the pursuit to find it, will eventually get to reveal what love is and where it is hidden or fallen out and in what state and condition it is.

Feb 19
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thoughtbubble

"....the love is able to be felt once again.." : This is key. Since we are still humans (and not saints yet), we should allow for multiple iterations of the love-hurt cycle, if at all hurt happens, and learning lessons about ourselves and others after every hurt dip. Quite often, we under-rate the causes on one's own side (defensive) and over-rate the causes on the other side (blame game). Or over-rate ours (self-pity). At times, it can do good to under-rate others' faults (forgiveness).
Seeing things as they truly are, requires to balance these assessments in moments of calm. To the extent one gets closer to truth, to that extent one gets closer to true love.
At our levels, true love is too much of an ideal, a pursuit that requires these iterations. It can sound illusory at times because it takes a lot of time for mutuality to develop and grow between people. But, in the long term, love and truth are worth the time and attention.

Feb 19
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- in10RjFox
  well said.. We must never stop loving and just continue whatever we find worthy of loving. "Pursuit" is a great word you applied in your note. "Pursuit" is something greatly absent nowadays with many just jumping from one to another like monkeys, where we get to doubt what is their ultimate. The beauty is that they only look next to what they wish to jump onto, but never realise the preciousness of what they are standing on OR the level that they have achieved, since they always think of the next best thing to do.
  They never pursue or get to love people around them or in contact with them, and ignore them since it is not what they want or what they are looking for.
  A cloth store is a great analogy, for they just enter the store with a blank mind, and look for something extraordinary and unique , and thus chuck or ignore anything on top.. to only get tired. Whereas there are also quick shoppers who already enter with a preconceived mind, and just pick what they want and leave.
  Ultimately we only get to the confusion, which gender is shopping which other gender.. ?? and who is fabricated for who ?? and what is this "love" in between ?? LOL!..
  
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- anya1212
  It leaves me to the conclusion from all the comments that "love" is liberation and what is taught or conditioned in our mind right from the beginning is something related to physical aspect of human being.The intense,real and deep connection which i think everyone yearns for at some point of time is something which perhaps could not be bound in any labels.
  
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- mejj
  :)
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HardingP119

Love is an emotion. It needs a catalyst to spark and set it in motion. This motion requires nurturing and caring. It needs to grow as in a plant. It is how we take care of love. The hurts the wrongs, will contribute to a negative growth.
Truth may be hard to accept if it is not perceived in the same way.

Feb 19
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mejj

"... When something you accept as true turns out to be false, you can be hurt..."
~ my Take : no point in finding true n false. Just accept all. Problems won't poke!
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"why this love is momentarily for many and why people are still clueless that what their real inner core is about..."
~ my Take : Takes Time for Water to Flow Out of The Filled Glass.
Prayers.
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Feb 19
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- anya1212
  just want to unlearn everything.Thanks though for commenting
  
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- mejj
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