A More Refined Thought

For a while now I have been sex starved due to the pressures of child bearing and looked back and realised like many of you guys. Prude= bad tedious sex and wanton women = great sex. Therefore I need a wanton woman for a wife so she should swing some.

My more enlightened view is that what was really important was not the promiscuity per se, but their totally uninhibited sense of their own sexuality and their proactive, adventourous and unashamed pursit of sexual desire.

So instead of getting her to cheat I am going to concentrate on building up her sexual confidence and energy - getting some therapy to help her breakdown her inhibitions.

Bluespost Bluespost
41-45
3 Responses Mar 20, 2009

Thanks guys. Isn't odd how many of us are craving for our wives to show some of the flirty fiesty spark that they had before marraige and kids. You would think we would be happy that they are currrently looking settled, content and well fed.<br />
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We are taking action. We are on a scare dare date to go to a swingers party/club, but not to play. She wants me to shed my spare tyre and get fit and get comfortable with people and my own body. I want her to tone up and get confident with her body, but above all to rethink her attitudes to sex and discover fun sex. it might be two years away but will will have fun trying.<br />
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The intention is not to swing as such, but to get fit and socially and sexually confident in such an overtly sexual setting. <br />
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I've brought us two books to help her with her sexuality<br />
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"Getting Your Wife or Girlfriend To Become A Swinger"<br />
Adrienne Taylor; Paperback<br />
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The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex: An Indispensable Resource for Pleasure and Seduction" Barbara Keesling; Hardcover;

I have a lot of the same feelings, Bluespost. Ultimately, it's not about seeing her with other people, it's the overall attitude towards sex. My wife used to be reasonably adventurous, but not so much anymore. Having kids, and the physical demands on the body of childbirth, breastfeeding, and nurturing them takes its toll, I think. <br />
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I think self-image has a lot to do with it as well. While my wife has never been thin, there's a bit more of her now after two kids. I still find her extremely sexy, but I know she hates her body and wants to lose weight. She also really wants a breast reduction, which we can't afford. I have a feeling that if she got her body to where she was more comfortable with it, she'd lose a lot of inhibitions. Until then, I doubt she'll ever let me take pictures and video of her, or let other people see her naked, let alone do any sharing or swinging.<br />
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But who knows. In the right place at the right time with the right people and the right amount of liquid courage, she may end up surprising me! So until then I'm just trying to support her and do what I can to make her feel sexy and loved, without pressuring her.

I agree with your analysis that it isn't the act of cheating with a guy that is the attraction for the husband (at least in my case), considering that I'm in the room (again, in my/our case) it isn't the same as cheating.<br />
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The turn-on is the uninhibited, let loose and do anything that feels good sexual being she becomes when we have a 3some! Her sucking and ******* a stranger until she is crazy with lust is such a hot show......<br />
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Great observation!