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True Scary Story

I have a story to share…

John E. Robinson. The name may or may not ring a bell, but in a few moments you will not likely forget him.

Who was he? Well, he was a lot of things, including an entrepreneur and Eagle Scout but the aspect of him that is relevant to this write up is that he was fond of perusing online BDSM sites under the name "Slavemaster" looking for female submissives . He became well known, and by most accounts, quite popular.

One of the women he met up with was Sheila Faith. Her husband had passed away, and she had decided trying to try meeting men online. Her daughter had spina bifida and was confined to a wheelchair. John assured her that he was wealthy and could support her, pay for her daughter’s therapy and provide employment for her. She moved in with him, and both mother and daughter disappeared. For seven years after this, he cashed her pension cheques.

He also met Izabela Lewicka on a BDSM site. She, wanting to be dominated, was convinced to be his submissive. He advised her that he would give her a job at a (non-existent) publishing company that he owned. She signed a slave contract with him, which included giving him access to her bank accounts, as well as her personal belongings (essentially a TPE). It was at that point that she disappeared.

Both of these women were found on Robinson’s property, having been murdered and buried in 85-gallon barrel drums.

The reason for sharing this story is to highlight how easy it was for this man to fool vulnerable women. He had a history of fraud and theft, but was able to easily mask this online. What’s not to like about a Dom who apparently adores you and makes you his chosen one? He wants you to come visit him, and he’ll pay for your trip, so why not? Sheila and Izabela are two very good reasons why you should think twice and put safety measures into place.

A D/s relationship can be like no other: amazing, intense and satisfying beyond measure. But please be cautious and use your common sense. Don’t submit to someone you don’t know, no matter what he promises or how much attention he lavishes on you. It’s easy to dismiss these women as naive or foolish, but the very nature of a D/s relationship also opens up more opportunity for misuse of power, especially when meeting someone online. Go slow.

A final note: Robinson was found guilty in 2003 of the murders of at least eight women. He has been referred to as “The Internet's First Serial Killer.”
RedRubies RedRubies 36-40, F 19 Responses Aug 19, 2012

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That is very scary. I was thinking some of the same things about women who have rape fantasies, potentially involving them in pretty lethal relationships. I've looked at some of the boards my EP (female) friends have posted on, and what really gives me pause are the not the fantasies the women share, but the men who get on the same boards and talk about how they share the same fantasy. Of course they don't, because they fantasize about being the rapist, not the victim.

I spoke to a female colleague about this, someone who has explored the bdsm scene on her own and like me is a scholar of 18th-century British literature. She's on the other end, though--the latter half of the period. And she started telling me some of the stuff she'd found in the works of de Sade. There's been some recent work that attempts to reclaim de Sade as a serious artist--but to read his stuff is to delve into the mind of a serious psychopath. I won't mention some of the stuff he writes about here, because it's really too chilling.

So I think your warning is apt. To share something like this, whether in person or online, requires a great deal of mutual trust--and that needs to be earned!

Thank you... it\'s truly so scary how bad things can go, especially when people create a persona online that seems very friendly and real but is out to do harm to someone :(

Thank you for the story. Everyone should know about them."But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. You are responsible for your rose . . ." /The Little Prince/<br />
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Being human is a responsibility too. How many forgot it already.

Thank you for posting this RR.<br />
I make mention of this to others when they are going to meet someone for the first time off the internet.<br />
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I remember when this hit the news. The egroups, (now owned by Yahoo groups), I still belong to were all in an frenzy over it. Many young/new submissive's new to the scene started paying attention suddenly. <br />
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Then we had the ones that gave the attitude of, "This won't happen to me." <br />
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I remember on one particular group a tried and true experienced Dom jumped one in particular over her thoughts on it and then he went on to make his point extremely clear through documented accounts of how bad it can go.<br />
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I always cringe when I see words like this from anyone: (There are other words that make my blood curdle too...)<br />
"I have no limits."<br />
"Nothing is off limits."<br />
"I am new and I just want to find someone to punish."<br />
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Oh My Dear Lord - PLEASE - make these people see the light before they do some major damage or are murdered!<br />
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The story you posted was a rude awakening for many of us loose on the net back then and still is. And for others, just that a story the media was broadcasting.<br />
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If interested here is some books on it:<br />
A 2001 book by John Glatt, "Internet Slave Master" (ISBN 0312979274), documents Robinson's life up to the time of his Kansas trial.<br />
A 2003 book by John Douglas and Stephen Singular, "Anyone You Want Me to Be: A True Story of Sex and Death on the Internet" (ISBN 1439189471), focuses on Robinson's playground - the internet.<br />
A 2005 book by John Glatt, "Depraved" (ISBN 0312936842), focuses on the lives of Robinson's victims and others affected by his crimes.

Thanks Sunnil.... yeah that was a baaaad story, wasn't it? I'll check out one of those books.... I'd like to know the details of how it went down. So many things can go wrong if you aren't careful. Thanks for your comment, it was very helpful.

That is what I am here for. To add to the sanity you are posting with my little tidbits of useful (but mainly useless) knowledge! :P

You are an awesome help to people Sunnil.... I've never seen you share anything remotely useless! Type on....!

ROFL!
Go read my last blog entry on my profile so you can have fun with that one! I was amazed and amused!

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For me there is a larger issue... I've seen a number of women online (in EP) that are in BDSM relationships that I would consider abusive. I own my car. But just because it's paid off doesn't mean I slash the tires or vandalize the exterior. I read stories from these subs and they are treated with less dignity and respect than I show material possessions. This isn't about being prudish - that's the last thing I am - it is about respecting/loving woman. My wife is submissive (in bed - the rest of the time she is fiercely independent and stubborn as hell... sigh) but that isn't a license for me to abuse, harm or degrade. I don't care what you're into in the bedroom... If a man doesn't treat you with respect and affection and genuine concern for your well being he isn't worthy of your time.

I agree. It's also tough to tell the intentions in a lot of EP stories. I totally agree with what you are saying about respect and affection. I think it all comes down to consent and agreements. The physical actions aren't the determining factor. It's so weird - I've seen some on EP (especially in the TIH sections) say that anything beyond a hand spanking is abuse, and then I like things my husband does because of our connection, even though it is maybe really degrading by the standards of others.

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Wow, thanks for that. I think that goes for everyone. If it sounds too good to be true, well, it probably is.

Thanks for the reminder. it is a very scary world out there.

You are well to post this,, the internet is getting to be a very scarry place,, used to be you could take something at 'face' value,, not any more,, Anyone, can be anyone they want to be, on the internet.<br />
I used to be a lot more trusting,, but when it comes to the internet,, "A pinch of caution, can save a pound of cure." or as in this case , two lives.

Beyond scary!! Thank you for sharing.

You are welcome. (Yeah, super scary)

Wow...that is so scary....and sad...thank you for sharing this info...i hope that women and men alike listen and are careful!

No problemo! (If it helps even one person I'm happy)

Wow! That was difficult to read. But it ought to be read.

I know... it turns your stomach... that was a pretty bad one! But good to know and be aware of...

It's induviduals like this one which not only keeps us on our toes, but tries to ruin this kind of activity for everyone else. There are too many scumbags that are out in society that none of us want to deal with and you would have to be pretty low to pull off scams like this. If it sounds too good to true, it's most likely a BIG LIE! Be cautious and don't sign any kind of contracts unless you really know what kind of person your dealing with. Be safe everybody.

Very true and people can get caught up in the attention easily. (I hate how the crazies put a damper on it for the good people, but it's a necessary caution in this world)

Thanks for this story. It is sad that this has happened. In a free society we are bound to have monsters in our midst.<br />
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The first few meetings should be in a public place. A friend should know who and where you are meeting. A background check is reasonable.<br />
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Such a betrayal of a woman's trust is unconscionable.

I agree with all of what you said. I hate hearing about good people bring taken advantage of (and online can be so easy to get away with!). Background check is not unreasonable at all.

Thank you very much for this post - so very important. Go Slow. Yes! And if you feel it in your gut that it is moving too fast, but he is insisting that he is the Master, and you must listen to him, or that you are not allowed to ask any of these questions, get out now. You should always be more important than your submission.

Definitely... listening to your gut is huge and I think we tend to ignore warnings sometimes because we think we are being silly or don't want to offend the person. But there is a lot to be said for gut instinct.

thank you for posting this. not all are like this, but we all need to be careful, and RESEARCH before jumping into anything. there are alot of predators out there, but there are also alot of genuine, wonderful men too. Look them up and make sure they are everything they say they are before meeting them.

You are welcome :-) I like to believe there are far more wonderful men and women out there than not. Sadly, it just takes meeting ONE wrong one for devastating consequences. Absolutely look them up first; then you can enjoy your time together if you decide to meet.

yes - the same advice follows in all matters of internet relationships - many on here have been burned emotionally and financially and very likely physically too - care required at all times.

Definitely. Internet relationships allow for a lot of smoke and mirrors if you get involved with the wrong person. If a person seems too good to be true, they very likely may be.

I had shivers the whole time I read this but it is the EXACT story that needs to be shared!! I'd sit here and rate it up a 100 times if I could! <br />
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I have talked to a couple girls right here on ep where some guy claiming to be a Dom of great experience and whatever wanted them to either go see him or send him some sort of personal ID so they could prove their trust in him and that THEY, the sub" were legit.....It makes my blood run cold!! <br />
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NEVER TRUST anyone on their words alone online. If you meet them... go to a public place first, let folks know or better yet take someone with you. If the Dom is legit he'll be smart and HE'LL be recommending safety!! If a person demands ANY sort of personal contact info or financial stuff... KNOW that you're dealing with a predator. Red flags should be waving hi if a person you've never really met or gotten to know starts demanding trust by you signing ANYTHING over to them!..... A legit Dom would be just as careful with easing into meeting a potential sub...crazies come from BOTH angles...... <br />
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This post gets my vote for most USEFUL and important words of the day, week, month,.....maybe even YEAR!! Thanks RR......While D/s can be wonderful....it can also be darn dangerous....Being SAFE should be everybodies priority!!

Awww Sierra, that's the nicest compliment, thank you so much! I am happy you found it worthy. It would seem obvious not to trust people you just met, but some people are so manipulative, the victim is caught up before they know it. (Showing personal ID is really important.. I wouldn't travel to meet a Dom without seeing this). Oh yeah, both sides need to be really careful, there are batty subs too! The nature of a power exchange demands caution from both sides. Thanks so much for your comment :-D

Yes, Yes and YES! You speak the truth. I can't even point out a favorite line - the whole thing. YES!

Monsters live among us, pass us on the roads each day, use our sidewalks, our parks, comment on our story posts. you don't know who's heart is truly dark until it is revealed to you, but by then the trap is usually sprung. The tiger uses stripes and silent stalking to blend into it's surrounding, the human predator uses the mask of normalcy and a smile.

That made me shiver... and every word you said is exactly right.

This gets my vote of AWESOMENESS too..Scary as all get out but true..true...true...

I don' really 'like' this comment ... but I respect the accuracy.

Ye, we want to trust, it is our human need, dear I say! So easly exployted...

I agree. Some of these fraudsters are pretty savvy and trusting people can really get burned.