Married But Gay

I am happily married to a good hardworking wife, but crave to be with a man or friend whom I can trust to share our sexual desires for each other but still maintain a healthy and 'straight' life. This contradict's my religious believes and disturbs me thinking of it, but it remains a secret and deeply stored fantacy.

know1knows know1knows
31-35, M
6 Responses Mar 9, 2010

Live in PA ;)

I can feel your pain. I am in the same situation here. I would love to have a special male friend who I could fully explore and develop the feelings I have about being with a man and totally giving sexually, but still appear a "normal" straight man in public.

There is some danger in not telling if you're bi, and some danger in telling. Telling may kill your relationship; not telling and living a double life can make you schizophrenic and ultimately show. Until you have regular sex with a man you can't know if you prefer females in bed or not, if you need both, or if gay sex is what you've needed for a long time but couldn't accept - after all. society has for so long condemned male to male sex that it's hard to shake all those prejudices! No, a male anus is no more «dirty» than a female's. Yes, penises have more powerful ******* than clits. Yes, being ****** in the *** is wonderful. Yes, a large number of males enjoy playing with another penis than their own...often rather than diddling a wet ****. But until you do it you can't really know how much or how far. My advice would be to take it slow, advertise for a boyfriend, test him in secret a few times, and if you really discover that you like gay sex, gradually introduce your woman to swinging with bisexual friends so she'll discover «naturally» that side of your personality, and neither will feel guilty about it. If she gets **** in addition to you, she can'tr really reproach you for getting some too...and she may even enjoy it (my wife came like crazy the first time she saw another man **** me in the ***).

There is some danger in not telling if you're bi, and some danger in telling. Telling may kill your relationship; not telling and living a double life can make you schizophrenic and ultimately show. Until you have regular sex with a man you can't know if you prefer females in bed or not, if you need both, or if gay sex is what you've needed for a long time but couldn't accept - after all. society has for so long condemned male to male sex that it's hard to shake all those prejudices! No, a male anus is no more «dirty» than a female's. Yes, penises have more powerful ******* than clits. Yes, being ****** in the *** is wonderful. Yes, a large number of males enjoy playing with another penis than their own...often rather than diddling a wet ****. But until you do it you can't really know how much or how far. My advice would be to take it slow, advertise for a boyfriend, test him in secret a few times, and if you really discover that you like gay sex, gradually introduce your woman to swinging with bisexual friends so she'll discover «naturally» that side of your personality, and neither will feel guilty about it. If she gets **** in addition to you, she can'tr really reproach you for getting some too...and she may even enjoy it (my wife came like crazy the first time she saw another man **** me in the ***).

There is some danger in not telling if you're bi, and some danger in telling. Telling may kill your relationship; not telling and living a double life can make you schizophrenic and ultimately show. Until you have regular sex with a man you can't know if you prefer females in bed or not, if you need both, or if gay sex is what you've needed for a long time but couldn't accept - after all. society has for so long condemned male to male sex that it's hard to shake all those prejudices! No, a male anus is no more «dirty» than a female's. Yes, penises have more powerful ******* than clits. Yes, being ****** in the *** is wonderful. Yes, a large number of males enjoy playing with another penis than their own...often rather than diddling a wet ****. But until you do it you can't really know how much or how far. My advice would be to take it slow, advertise for a boyfriend, test him in secret a few times, and if you really discover that you like gay sex, gradually introduce your woman to swinging with bisexual friends so she'll discover «naturally» that side of your personality, and neither will feel guilty about it. If she gets **** in addition to you, she can'tr really reproach you for getting some too...and she may even enjoy it (my wife came like crazy the first time she saw another man **** me in the ***).

what about her desires? if you are gay and use her ....that would be disgusting.<br />
i hope you are at least bisexual and the marriage is not a bad joke ! tell your wife : "i like men" and decide together what's next !<br />
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my own husband is probably into men....i still hope he isnt...we love each other but is that the right kind of love?!