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Affectionless Marriage

I have been married for over 20 years, I have 3 wonderful sons. During the duration of our marriage my wife has had intimacy issues due to being molested when she was young. I have been patient and loyal, never being unfaithful despite the lack of a good sex life. I always held out hope that she would work through it. Kissing, hugging and anything sexual was not met with the reception you would think of your spouse. She would expect her hair and back to be touched and rubbed at nite but never reciprocating.

Until recently I have just lived with the disappointment, but now I find myself quick to anger and frustrated with everyday life. I am coming to the realization that I have seen my best sexual years disappear. I long to be kissed, hugged and have the type of passionate sex life I have fantasized about. I snd like a total PUss, but it is hardto hardly be touched.
affectionstaredhusband affectionstaredhusband 41-45 2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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I also live in the same type of marriage. Everything was great until we got married and then it was like she flipped a switch and I'm standing there with a dumb look on my face like, "What happened?"

7 years down the road, now I'm 50 and yes like you, I'm starting to get angry. I've brought it up several times but nothing changes. She won't even go to a marriage counselor with me.

Why don't you share your feelings with your wife and tell her exactly what you want?