What Is Love Anyway?

There are so many things in this world we have explanations for. Love isn't one of them. I thought I was in love. I still believe I am. I had a son, a husband...a life. Then 4yrs later he decided that I wasn't the person he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. How can I be so sure of something but be shut down in the end? I don't even know if I want to find love. I don't even know if there is such a thing anymore. Just co-existence.

RabidusDecorus RabidusDecorus
26-30, F
3 Responses Mar 20, 2009

Love does exists, i know because i too have loved before, despite the fact that i have got badly bruised from it all...<br />
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Years ago, i had a relationship which lasted over 5 years yet it all led to grief.. Till date, i still do think of her, i still do miss her but live just goes on anyway...<br />
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It may sound foolhardy and all but when everything is ruined, the very least that remains are the memories... Some may choose to simply let go, while others embrace them...

I agree with Petrucio, that the guideline to real, lasting love is Jesus Christ, the author of Love. He will never hurt you. People sin, people make mistakes, people inevitably hurt each other, whether intended, or accidental.<br />
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Although I believe that if it has to be, Jesus is all I need, that doesn't mean that I don't still desire human companionship... preferably with a high degree of loyalty!<br />
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Count yourself blessed that he only took 4 years of your life vs 20 or 30 or 50. There is someone out there who would not hurt you in that way, trust God to bring that person to you.<br />
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I have been divorced before, someone took all my dreams and confidences and smashed them. But I got out of it before he could hurt me anymore. I thought I was broken at first, and that no one would want me. But I found someone who did, and much more quickly than expected. He is so unbelievably loyal to me, even to his friends and family for all of their problems.<br />
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You have so much to love yourself for, don't let a selfish pig of a human make you think differently.<br />
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And when you are ready to share your life with another, God will bring someone to meet you.

yes, it is very complicated, and its very true that if your not careful, you can end up very hurt and very confused. But thats just it, love is... a mystery, personally i believe my guideline to love (Among other stuff) Is christ, but thats me ^^.<br />
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Furthermore, I can see how you would be dissapointed after such time, i mean relationships sink in months, i cant even imagine how much damage losing a whole 4 years could have done, but the simple truth is, all you can really do is bounce back and try again, being more careful, or to stop trying to find love and let love find you.