A Romantic Relationship With Your Twin Flame Is Often Difficult

It is very difficult to have a romantic relationship with your twin flame until you have cleared all of your Karma, relinquished your ego, and you have reached your last soul incarnation, and are ready to become one again.  We often have to live many lives, and deal with many soul mates who help us learn our life lessons, before we are ready to unite with our twin flame.  Until then you still have many lessons to learn, and while you are still learning those lessons uniting with your twin flame in a romantic relationship is very difficult because you are one and the same and having a romantic relationship with yourself exposes your faults and flaws that still need work.

When twin flames run, they are really running from THEMSELVES. They are us, we are them, and the connection highlights the parts of us that need working on and "fixing" in order to become our true selves again (united as one). This is MAJOR and very scary. We all have "faults" (lessons to learn) and it is painful to think about our percieved weaknesses. 

And this is what the twin flame makes us face up to. We see those "faults" in ourselves clearer than ever before. This scares us MORE THAN ANYTHING. We experience this wonderful person and it highlights to us all our "faults". We are one, so we reflect each other and attract in to each other the very things we need to heal. The pain always comes before the healing though. With the twin flame's presence (in soul and in physical) we finally have to face up to those things, and quite often we don't want to (this is subconsciously), or aren't ready. The very things about ourselves we have tried to distract ourselves from because we have been so ashamed are finally out in the open, seen completely by ourselves for the first times, and also seen by our twin flame. Often they are exaggerated.  Many times we feel both their emotional pain and their physical pain or discomfort that results from illness or injury which makes being together very difficult. So we run, until finally we have worked through our baggage, fixed our problems and issues, and we realize through the increased love, and awareness of our inner selves, that we have ALWAYS been worthy and that we are good enough.  We have cleared the Karma. reached the pinnacle of our enlightenment, and we are ready to become one again by uniting with our twin flame.  This may not even occur in a physical sense.  It may only end up happening in a spiritual sense on the astral plane.  

Many years ago I believe I found my twin flame.  I felt an instant connection to him and when we began talking it was as if we had known each other our entire lives, and then some.  We had so much in common it was unbelievable.  We started a relationship and it was very exciting in the beginning.  Discovering all the things we had in common and the thoughts we shared on so many levels was incredible.  We would be able to finish each other's thoughts all the time.  He opened up my mind and I opened up his in many ways.  When I was away from him I ached for him.  I felt incomplete.    
After we had explored each other inside and out for several months it got to the point where there was nothing new to discover, and we didn't bring new thoughts and ideas into each others worlds anymore.  He had the same faults and flaws that I did in many ways, and when those faults and flaws came to the forefront it was incredibly irritating and difficult to deal with.  I can be very stubborn and headstrong and so was he.  Sometimes when we would do something that irritated the other we would have a disagreement and then wouldn't talk for days because neither one of us was willing to give in and make amends.  Our egos were still too strong.  Things became kind of tedious and difficult after a while.  

When we eventually broke up it was a very amicable split and we knew that we needed to remain in each other's lives, but more as very close friends (like family), than as lovers.  He is still a very dear friend of mine, and it is interesting to note that he married a woman who is very much like my husband.  When we all get together we have a terrific time.  I now realize that until you have reached your ultimate level of enlightenment you want to have a romantic relationship with your soul mate and not your twin flame, because you want to be able to learn your lessons, let go of your ego, and compliment each other instead of duplicate each other, until you are ready to unite your soul into one in your last incarnation on Earth.  Often times opposites attract because being with your opposite compliments you and helps to open your mind.  This is my belief anyway. 
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Hi.... sooooo....I just learned of the TWIN FLAME concept yesterday... I am not religious more spiritual ...law of attraction... you do good...good happens... bad gets bad... and everything has a lesson to be learned... I have heard of soul mates and never really given any real power to it just... if it is.. then it is no need to control it... I have found myself in quite a peculiar position.... as I have met or re-met a man that has a very unusual spell over me and my entire defined character seems to flow into him and I am fighting a lot with myself over it... it has become very maddening and I cant seem to hold him to my standard of accountability... I cant rupture into anything but love... i feel extremely sensitive as in cry for very lil reason... we were actually each others first sexual encounter (lost our virginity) we parted and lived separate lives ... marriages...children... careers... ran into each other very rarely and anytime we did I would run for cover and not want a face to face reunion.... until about a years ago... we had both lost very long term relationship w our significant others.... he was going thru a divorce and came back to our hometown... I actually sent a fb request that led to coffee... neither of us were looking for a relationship... somehow we developed a very intimate rapport... felt very safe and familiar... then his family came back from winter retreats down south... and reacted very similar to the way they did as we were young teens and demanded he stop all contact w me... it was quite absurd as we are now adults... it put a wedge and strain causing both of us to invest in our own individual selves.... I didnt want to show or share my devastation over the unjust blk ball... or come between him and his family relations no matter how insane his messed up family was... more his MOTHER who has very manipulative and all things negative as a character..... now its been a year... we secretly go back and forth ... meet at night... but have no public or support for our union... It has made me feel very small and demeaned like a *****... and has escalated into almost a volatile dynamic that is just NOT good for each other.... we both seem to run and chase but at separate times... we mirror each other and love even each others flaws somehow make sense ... I am much more spiritual and he is very logical ego driven person... he says all the time he cant even comprehend or explain how or why he is drawn to me ... how i have deal breaker flaws but cant even hold me to his normal shun or walk away... I feel that same way... he is a guidance counselor and has tantrums around me he cant explain as he is refined and absolutely stone poised elsewhere.... we get insanely angry w each other but even in that rage we admit feeling the hate but the love is there... leading to words like I hate love you and cant take this.... but weeks roll on and contact starts again... I now know he will always come back or will always care.... I dont feel the rejection as much as a deep desire for him to be happy... but honestly wanting it to be together... but we have horrible influences and obstacles that would almost be a choice of sacrificing our entire lives as we know it.... I cant do the sneak thing anymore... I think I can let go... I just want to know... according to this TF concept... if this is my TF is there a right or wrong answer or will it be as it should be??? and do some TF never actually unite as one?

I have gone through pretty much this exact thing with the family hating you, and having to keep everything so secret you feel like you're going to break from the pressure at any moment. Every person and twin flame union is different, but I can tell you what worked for me. After a while, I turned my focus toward myself rather than on him, because it hurt too much. I started feeling better. I asked him to stop contacting me after all those years, and he finally honored that, whereas before I would get a message begging to work things out after so long. It's been about 7 months and he still hasn't contacted me. I still feel him with me, even though for a while I couldn't feel his presence at all and it scared me. You have to realize that no matter what happens in this life between the two of you, everything will be ok in the end, so you just have to let go. Twin Flames is about surrender. I have come to a point where all I do is work on myself, and through that I can now see the things I did wrong and the things I wish I could do now. He and I have hurt each other in so many ways, over and over again. But now, I have let that all go. I don't care about the things he has said and done, because in the end they have set me free and I know how to love. My only hope is that I can love him again in this life, but if not, that is ok too. It still hurts sometimes. Nobody understands or cares, and I am alone in this. But that is the point. You have to learn to be yourself and the deeper you go in learning yourself and loving yourself, the more you are able to love your TF and others. Your TF will tear you to pieces if you are not ready for unconditional love and understanding simply because that relationship dynamic requires those things to survive. True love doesn't operate in the bounds of human ego. You have to set all judgment aside and accept that person just for who they are, but first, you must do that for yourself because your twin flame is a mirror, and you will see in them all of the things that hurt the most you have buried in yourself. I started with forgiveness. I focused on forgiving him for all of the things that hurt me. I forgave his family and friends, and even focus on sending them healing energy and love. I send him positive messages whenever I think about him. I am still on the path of surrender, not fully there. I have moments where I simply hurt and want to run back into his arms, but I know deep down that is not the answer. We will come together when and if we are ready. We have been through many cycles of breakups and reunions, and in the beginning I was always patient and kind during those times. After a while I became hostile and cruel whenever we separated, and I regret that. I have realized that having him in my life even through a text message here and there is better than nothing at all, and I regret my harshness, but I think I needed to isolate myself from him completely to get to a place where I could forgive and ultimately learn how to love. My advice to you would be to surrender to your twin flame union. Let him go, but do so with love. Try and understand that his family is afraid of losing him to such a powerful force, it's nothing personal against you. If you feel in your heart that some contact is necessary, then keep the contact, but you have to demand that you each begin your own journey toward self-discovery and healing. Someone in the TF union has to be strong and wise enough to break the cycle so you can begin the work that eventually leads you back to each other. It's for both of your highest good. I wish you well with all things in your life, and I pray that you will be blessed. <3

Yes , it is... Living this now.

I've come to realize the experience is what you make it. I want the ultimate union with my tf and that means romantic in every way. None of this settling for another person until I'm ready. That state of "I'm ready" won't come by itself. That's why I'm choosing to be alone and working towards a real romantic union. I just can't lie to myself to be with anyone else...sorry

I feel you on this....This is what I want too. Because I refuse to settle for less. I've tried dating other people, when I didn't know. What he was to me. It didn't work, I couldn't bring myself to even make an effort. So I decided to work on my issue's. And just let things unfold naturally...And just wait. While I keep living my life and dealing with whatever comes up. And pursuing my dreams.:)

Me too! I've tried to be with others but it doesn't work out. Once you've had a taste of the twin flame union, nothing else compares and seems so pointless. I enjoy learning from my soul mates as friends, but being with others isn't something I'm interested in. I would rather wait for the real thing. :)

I am the same way. I connected with mine, and I don't want anyone or anything else. :) Romance outside of the twin flame union is not as raw and complete, and no matter where I've found myself in the past after separating from my twin flame, I always compare that person to him and after all this time I have decided there is no point trying to find it elsewhere. I have had enough love and beauty from my TF in the time we were together to last my lifetime, so I can wait patiently and constantly work on myself, and maybe someday we will fall back together. :)

Here's my story. I knew this boy in my teens through mutual friends. We were troubled teens.Never gave him much thought but always felt his presence. He seemed too cool for me but he actually was just shy. I got involved in a ton of relationships so did he. We both had children uunwed and split from the other parent after a year. We both struggled with work and getting it together until we had kids. We still didn't connect yet... i lost my job and moved to his town. Found out we were 5 minutes away so we had a play date for our kids. His birthday 6.26.80 mine 6.26.82 his son is five...my daughter five...His ex is jade my ex is james they are pretty much identical and cause us great grief. My tf has battled w addictions but has become very financially secure. So have I. We became pregnant very quickly after uniting. It's been a whirlwind of karma darma. Like two flames either burning together in a steady flame or rapidly out of control unbalanced. It's like being on a seesaw and trying to find the middle and stay there. It's not easy. But when it's there...it's heaven. On earth. True oneness. When i look into his eyes i feel heaven. I have had visions. One Before my unite w my tf...which was about how everything works in a circle of life ....karma darma...flower of life...energy forces and that i shall not be afraid and a great human awakening a change was about to happen.

My tf and i fought and fought but grew and grew. We are still growing. It's crazy beautoful.its like a detox.

my second vision was the tree of life. I saw heaven. I saw spirits i saw angels and i heard my friends and families prayers. I was only given this vision because he was beside me and we were transforming spritually.

It is not easy. Some may not have the karma thar we have created but everything in our lives mirrors one another. Everything. My attachment to my dad his to his mom learning to let that go our addictions come front and center our fears everything....Our faith United us. I felt a burst of blue light in my chest when we first connected...He felt it first and I felt like I knew him all my life and yet I thought he was insane. Then it hit me too. We were and are truly one. I had a very dysfunctional upbringing and he did too. His dad an alcoholic my mom an alcoholic. ..His mom is controlling over him...my dad is controlling over me. The list goes on and on to our nieces nephews friends life etc. But the more we fight the harder it impacts everyone around us and they...are not as forgiving. Which creates more karma on us. I pray we can ascend. We have found an amazing therapist and continue to go to church. I pray every day we will finally be in heaven on earth for the rest of our lives because when we are in sync at peace just simply being as we are to be...it's the true testimony to unconditional love and it's amazing. We grow so much everyday. The person I was last month seems like a person most would reflect on themselves in a year. I am spiritually growing w my tf and it's beautiful.

There is a song by third eye blind that talks about this! It's called "deep inside of you." I have always felt it's about twin flames. It says, "when we met light was shed." :) It reminds me of how you describe your connection. Twin Flame relationships will tear you to pieces so you can put yourselves back together, and it is the most raw, inspiring, and painful thing I have ever experienced. And yes, when you fight, it does have a huge influence on those around you, and they can end up very hostile. I have been through that, and it's the worst! Having their family dislike or even hate you is a common occurrence in TF unions.

Queite the opposite, I have a wonderful almost perfect and spiritual relationship with my tf, the only explanation for some your stories is that you are no tf of each other, too many people claim they have found their tf, yet they dont know what tf is... sorry, no disrespect here, i am just being frank.

No sir, I mean no disrespect, but YOU are the one who is incorrect. If YOU have met someone, and no emotional baggage has been cleared out, no "changing of the guard" has occurred then you are not growing and are not spiritual ready to met your twin flame. Meeting your twin is all about the shift from ego to "God" consciousness, and the ego doesn't relinquish the drivers seat without a tooth and nail fight. So maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship. Nothing wrong with a harmonious, peaceful relationship, but if it is so perfect, and stress free, then that is a clear sign that no, zero, zilch growth is taking place.

I agree totally, if this relationship is not the biggest challenge in your life, it probably is not a twin flame. A "perfect and spiritual" relationship is a soul mate connection. They give us what we need, and that's comforting, and we have the space to resolve karmic issues in our lives. We need soul mates and twin flames both.

Absolutely, one must keep in mind that there are classic stages to the twin flame connection. When I first met mine I thought the sun rose and set around him. 2 years later the human side of him showed up...it was not pretty. But that is the whole point of any relationship, whether it be romantic, family, co-worker, whatever. We attract to us the vibrational frequency that we hold. That's why we date the "same person" only with a different name, until we learn that they are mirrors, and it's not about changing that person, it's about changing and growing ourselves. And with the tf relationship there is the most potential for growth because one is going from ego way of thinking to God consciousness, so there is also the most potential for pain. But if one takes the focus off of that person and realizes that this is them reuniting with myself then the kicking and screaming will be minimized. I wish I could connect a link that helped me but this system won't let me. So I'm recommending "Twin Flame Stages" it's a video on youtube that really helped me.

I agree. I also believe that a perfect, peaceful, harmonious, stress free relationship isn't usually a relationship with your twin flame unless you have no emotional baggage and are on purely a spiritual level. And honestly, most people who have arrived at that place in their lives usually don't want or need a romantic relationship (Dahlai Lama for instance).

Having a romantic relationship with your emotional twin (twin flame) is often very difficult because, as I mentioned in this story, seeing all of your faults and flaws is not easy.

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Hi there

Just read ur message on twin flame

I recently got married (2nd time) and i have felt exactly the same way the way u felt for ur twin flame... was wanting to discuss more?

Thank you for writing this. It feels so true for me, exactly what I am experiencing now with my twin. After a 33 year separation from my childhood sweetheart, I had a spiritual experience of our hearts as being only one shared heart. We always felt each other, even before we met, and have never gotten over the sadness of losing each other. This year we reconnected, and have told and shown each other all the darkness of who we are. We had no idea, or at least I didn't, how screwed up I am, how much of my life has been dictated by my fears. At first we wanted desperately to be back together, but now we are just confused about it all. We are both married to our soul mates, who are our ideal partners. Without getting specific, that which is my biggest fear is exactly what his shadow side is. And that which is his biggest fear is exactly what my shadow side is. With a mutual sense of hopelessness, we have backed off from the constant communication of obsessive romance, and into a supportive friendship. My intention now is to heal myself to the point where I can accept all of him as unconditionally as I love him. I can only do the work for myself, but I believe that when one of us is ready to face the mirror again, we will both be ready.

Hi there, I was denying that my twin flame was truly my twin since he did the runner, we have been in each others' lives closely for 21 years and he showed his love only earlier this year and after our deep intimate relationship, he said he is scared and did the runner.
I kept denying it but reading you put exactly what I am feeling, I ought to accept that this is not like a usual man woman relationship.
While I am working on my issues and I am sure so is he, I am hesitant to contact him, do I wait for him to contact me? He did soon after running, but I was too hurt. Since then I have sent him couple of friendly posts but not any other contact.
I have made huge progress but confused when is contact acceptable?

We have to be open to our intuition. Offering friendship is always acceptable. At that point when we were only sharing a few friendly posts, I wrote to him and said I was concerned about his health. A few emails later I said that I wanted him to be a part of my life again, in whatever way we decide is appropriate. It just went on from there, and the more I shared my honesty with him, the more he did with me. We both panic at times, but even when we're "hitting the pause button," that still means daily emails. We can't stay away, as much as it hurts at times, we feel completely safe with each other. If I were you I wouldn't wait for him to make the next move. Follow your heart. Let his reaction set the pace of how much you share with him. I think everyone finds the intensity of twin flames scary, just be sensitive to how he feels (you will absolutely know!) and back off when he needs that. It's a wild and crazy ride.

I had very little contact with him as the rejection hurt like mad. We only spoke on each other birthdays that are months apart. Then he finally moved on as I saw his photos with another nationality girl who doesn't live in the same country and doesn't even speak English fully. He told me that he feels drawn to her and wants to get her to move to his country. I live different country too. He said he knows it's similar set up but he wants to do it for her. I asked if he would Marry her, he said he's been widowed then divorced so he will thjnk long before he decided on that but he will do love in. I wished him well and said we will be in touch. Though he said he misses me, he implied more as emotinal support. I don't want to be that as I feel other girl should get his full focus. He's got commitment issues and I don't know his growth other than he's travelling more whereas he told me two years back that he was jealous that I traveled more than him.

I didn't want to start sny hope in me so I was glad I heard his truth and no Stratton from him did bother before but not now. I can let him be. But I don't want to engage with him for now. I am enjoying been single and not liking for him in others. I don't feel same intensity. However, he's been sending messages and tryg contact and one of my photos on fb he commented his skyline photo was better. I replied good on him and he needed to see place with nrw viewpoint as he visited my country after sadness of his deceased wife who resided here.

I am fine to carry on with single life and I am working well on my issues. Just his contact confuses me, why he wants to be in contact after he's moved on? I don't want to be his ️just friend - I am not jealous nor angry, just don't want my emotions to get stuck.

So I am sending him best wishes but can't offer friendship fully just yet.

How are you finding things with your tf?

I´ve been reading articles about Twin Flames, I feel so confused because one part of me doesn t want to believe that I may have found my Twin flame, but the connection I feel with him, and unconditional Love is so intense that it make me wonder about it... I´ve met him 3 years ago in my work, but then he left the job 1 week (happened to be the same week that me and my 1st boyfriend ended up a relashionship of 4 years) or so after I entered the company, we keept contact via facebook, but nothing that special. He was in a Long term relationship that started when mine started and ended almost 2 years after we met, in the mean while I never dated anyone, until march 2012, that he asked me out after he and his girlfriend ended the relationship.. the connection was imediate and intense, but then one month after he traveled abroad and I got so scared, I felt him kind of disconecting to me, and I started dating another man even though I was thinking of him... When he returned from the trip he wanted us to meet, but I said no... I told him I had someone... he insisted that we meet just for a coffee.. I told him no.... but I SOOO wanted to see him... I know that in the mean while he had other girls, but he kept asking me out.. so in december It was impossible for me to say no to him... even though I had another man in my life.... I felt so good to be with him again but at the same time soooooo bad, I was really sick and ended the relashionship that I had with the other man.... confused and feeling him slipping away from me once again I ended up giving another man a chance, I felt neediness like I´ve never felt before (I was never a dating girl type, was with my 1st boyfriend from my 25th till 29th years old and then from 29th to 31th had no one.... after being with him I was with 2 man to try to forget him unsussessfully...) now I don t want no one.... but I feel so frustrated and afraid because I feel like he´s gonna come back to me always... but then he runs... he admited the connection we have between us, something like karmic.... but then he dates other girls too, girls that come in and out of his life rather quickly, that eventualy gets tired of them and returns to me.... I want to feel used by him, because of this behavior, but when we´re together it is so PERFECT, that I only feel unconditional Love and never feel used by him. I want to say to him no more of this, but it feels like it is against my nature, so I´ve started to just slipp from him for as long as I can... ending up by being drawn to him again... my social live improved so much since I´ve been with him, I didn t have any friends, was always in my house alone cause I didn t even like people, and now I do have friends, I go out and I love people, and that I owe to him.... I can not hate him ot feel anger, it seems like if I had those feelings for him, I would be feeling them for myself.... he is part of me and I don t know what to do, cause I always end up running away from him, and feeling frustrated and sad, and confused, because we are always running away from each other for as long as we can.... only to realise that we have to be together again... and again....like an addiction... a drug....


There's a lot of kooky stuff out there on the ole internet about twin flames and soulmates, but I have to say that this article was well written, insightful and I learned something. I recognize now that it's possible to meet your twin flame but that doesn't mean a romantic relationship is meant to be, at least not in this lifetime. The twin flame relationship is bigger than romantic, and even though we're not in each others lives anymore (big shocker), the giant mirror reflecting back to me is still teaching.

So very, very true. My former boyfriend, who I still believe is my twin flame, is one of my best friends. We are like family and love each other dearly, but not in a romantic way at all. My true love is my husband who is my soulmate. When my twin flame and I get together we often talk for hours and share all kinds of information. We seem to escalate each others thinking and views on things a great deal. I feel so lucky to have connected with him in such a beneficial way.

I used to have that great bond Friendship for 21 years before we tried physical intimacy. We felt drawn and it was all too intense. He made a runner and I hurt and did inner work and feel much happier in me. I don't feel tempted to date though I do miss having warmth in my life.

I miss his friendship and he said he does too.
Just now able to ho back to feeling only friendship for him s he's in another new relationship though not committed yet.

Did you feel attraction at some point, how were you able to be just friends after that?
I didn't feel attraction fully over yeas but I loved having as friend. He felt attraction but after intimacy he backed off that he didn't feel what he hoped for. I did feel strong connector and now can't turn back to friend mode but he's contacting! Confused.

Thank u so muchh I am a merried women and I met my twin flame at 19 I knew he was the one right away but he wasn't ready to be serious so we only lasted 1yr but I went 8 yrs with out talking to him it hurt emensly when we broke up like my soul had been riped out from under me I eventuly got merried and we got ahold of eachother agin on facebook he told me he still loved me but steped aside cause I'm merried we talked for months and it was hard to let him go he stoped replying after awhile but left me a message saying he'd always love me I love my husband but not like my flame ur story helped

Your welcome, and I know exactly what you mean.

This story has helped me immensely. I wish I could know what happens after you've met your twin flame, realized one of you was not yet ready and suffered enough to pain to need to escape. How do you keep breathing and moving forward, knowing half of you will not make it this go around?

I know the feeling. I had to go on antidepressants. I'm not recommending it but it's what I had to do because I felt like I was dying. It was like I wasn't complete until I met my TF.

When I met him I felt like I had discovered the meaning of life... and once he was gone I knew I would be incomplete forever. It's one of the most depressing feelings in the world, and no one understood it. It was my first relationship too so people tried to trivialise it.

It's not much comfort, but time and distance does help. I comfort myself with the knowledge that the relationship would not have been healthy had it continued. We were young and we were not ready for something this intense. I know that we would have lost all interest in the outside world and we wouldn't have achieved anything in our lives. That's not the point of why we're here.

Sometimes I wish I had known about twin flames at the time to help me understand the feelings I was having. It was a long time ago... but at the same time I think I'm lucky I didn't know what twin flames were because it helped me to rationalise it and move on. If I'd known this connection was documented, and that all the articles say you must "reunite", it would have been so much harder to move on. That's why I liked this article. It's sensible and realistic.

I think the hardest part is not knowing if your twin will feel that he is your twin forever. You wonder if the person that he marries is his real twin.

I was very lucky in my case to find out after more than a decade of almost no contact that he knows we are twins. We both married others and we recently reconnected. It was overwhelming and beautiful, but it left me feeling terrified, horribly guilty and depressed. It was the same for him and we retreated pretty quickly. It was like we had touched the sun.

I always knew my husband was not my twin, and it's always been difficult to live with. It took me a long time to get married because I was haunted by my twin, even though I had moved on and looked down on him as a person for all the pain he had caused me. I would still have the occasional paranormal dream and even hear voices trying to push me back to my twin... but I feel the universe guided me to my husband for a reason. He is spiritually evolved and I feel he is healing me in this life. He has a serenity and a natural joy that everyone strives to attain. I want to feel lucky that I have met my twin and that he knows he is my twin, because most people don't get that validation. I want to keep him as a friend because I literally feel like I need him in my life, like oxygen. I want to silence the longing in my soul by knowing he's in my life. It's extremely hard and I don't know if I can do it because the feelings are so intense they threaten my marriage... but I feel I can do it. It will take a lot of work, emotionally and spiritually.

i know that i finaly met my twinfame, i dont know if he has descovered. alot of what i have, its like every negative thing in my life, he had it in his, he was stubborn, and i couldnt say oh your just stubborn because i was stubborn. i played games when i was younger, and he haqs been paying games and i cant say anything because i was doing it too. i feel so uncomfortable at times, because i see myself in him, i was running away so much distancing mysef because i didnt want to face myself. it was so uncomfortable but i know i want and i needed to change. i have come along way since i met my twin. i want to be a better person. i want to love and have peace and happiness. looking at him is like looking in the mirror. i had bad relationships, and i was giving up on love, and then i met him. at the most oddest and strange place, all i want to know is why did i go there, and he was the first person that spoke to me. im still scared. because the love i feel for him. i never felt in my life for any man. hes younger than i am. and that is scary also. we suffered the same things in our life. i try to walk away. but i desire him. no one can take his place. its so much to explain. i know in my spirit that he is the one i have been looking for. what else could it be.

I am happy I found your story. I have found my twin and my desire was so much it physically hurt being away... I was so focused on what I wanted I failed to acknowledge where he stood... I spent 10 years hoping I could have him... it took me that long to understand that just because I am willing to make the effort doesn't mean he is ready... even apart from me he has shown me many of my flaws.....

hi. Do you continue to be in contact or know of his progress through someone? I can agree learning from distance on flaws and then hope that when both are ready, reunite. Is that hope still there for you? Please share.

Your thoughts and views do make sense when you come to think about it..thanks for sharing it :)

think it is thehardest love to share the goods are the greatest the pian of there lose to death or ilness is a 1000 time worst then just knowing a person<br />
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what you share i can not put into words, and really you do not use words lots of time to communicate you do it in your mind or we did for many years<br />
i know even to day she is near right now i can still feel her bond and i know she was sitting by me in themovies last night as some one sat there for a few minutes then got up and moved saying they had the AC on<br />
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my wife was killed at age 19 not soon after we started our 6 years as man and wife

I am so sorry. So you married your wife when she was 13 - WOW! Interesting comment that person made about the AC. Those I have known who have encountered spirits always say there is a temperature drop when spirit energy is near. Do you think your wife may be guiding you through life and that is her purpose as your twin flame, which is why your time together was so short? So you would recognize her presence once she was gone, and be more accepting of her guidance?

You have excellent thoughts on the subject and I tried to message you but EP told me I needed tokens to do that (?). I was going to apologize for the comment, especially since reading it now, it seemed I was projecting negativity about it, but that was not my intent! Your story is accurate and well written, but the truth isn't always easy and hit me in a sore spot :( Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned ;)

"People say that you can't have a romantic relationship with your twin, but why not? We are spiritual beings MADE of LOVE. We are LOVE, GOD is LOVE. A twin flame relationship is the purest kind of love you can imagine."<br />
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And I think that is probably why most understand that a romantic relationship with your twin flame can be very difficult and often doesn't work out. For many romantic relationships come with conditions, restrictions, sexual issues, and problems like jealousy. Romantic love is not the purest kind of love. Romantic love is often the most difficult, conditional, emotional, and restrictive kind of love because it is heavily influenced, by hormones, emotions, and other things that are very human, and far less spiritual. <br />
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I believe that the primary purpose of romantic love is to unite us with soul mates who will help us learn lessons, clear karma, let go of ego, and advance spiritually. I believe that when you have reached the point of enlightenment where you have cleared your Karma, learned the lessons life has to offer, and no longer have ego, and are ready to join with your twin flame because they have done the same, you no longer need romantic love. You are past that. <br />
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Love with a twin flame is a far deeper, unconditional, spiritual, and often less human, and not physical kind of love. Because of this, unless you have reached the point of spiritual enlightenment where you are rarely, if ever, influenced by all of the needs, emotions and feelings that are purely human, and unless you no longer need all of the things that accompany romantic love, love with a twin flame will not work out.

Beautifully written.

Thanks for this story. I have heard the same thing many times, even from my spiritual teacher, and alot of people have been given this same advice. I understand it can be true for some people, but I think most of us who have awakened enough to find out about twin flames, will quickly clear their Karma and get rid of ego. My spiritual teachers have parted from their twin flames because they said all of their flaws were put on display and they couldn't turn away, but I can't help but think that's what's MEANT to happen. If it wasn't hard, it wouldn't be worth it. If LIFE weren't hard, what would be the point of living? We would just be existing, not really LIVING. I have seen people yearning for their twin flames, and being repremanded for it, but this is so wrong. People say that you can't have a romantic relationship with your twin, but why not? We are spiritual beings MADE of LOVE. We are LOVE, GOD is LOVE. A twin flame relationship is the purest kind of love you can imagine. We have this life experience, so we can eventually turn back to love. I think when we meet our twin flames, we have to be ready, and if we are not, they are there to help make us ready. There are going to be big changes in the upcoming years, and now is more important than ever to awaken to our highest selves possible, and teach others, including our twins, if need be.