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I don't want to just get married. I want to do it right! Fall in love, find my soulmate, my best friend, spend many happy moments together and then get married. Can't wait for that day!
Boxer22 Boxer22 22-25, M 8 Responses Sep 30, 2010

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Wish more men would be like you !

Well that priceless insight cost a lot of pain to gain. Lots of terrible mistakes. Lots of trauma. Now lots of medication, lol. And now lots of miracles! God has pulled me out of the grips of hell. I was sick with suicidal depression for ions,, read my profile and scroll down to: "I'm Overcoming My Debilitating Suicidal Depression". Then click on my two stories. I may rewrite them as they appear to conflict on my "functional history" only because it's a blur. This story doesn't nearly reflect all the issues I had to deal with. That's probably another 15 other stories on EP, from 15 insurmountable circumstances. <br />
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They indeed were insurmountable, but when I turned back to God, He just keeps granting me another miracle after another. Huge miracles. My husband is just one of them. <br />
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Pray for God to guide you in the direction of your study of medicine.<br />
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Life is good now a days to answer you're question. I feel like I'm taking too much space right now, I'm long-winded, so I stop at this.<br />
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Tell me about your experiences that got you to gain all this wisdom??

I'm even more happy for you :). You're happily married and gained priceless insight, then put it to use! It would be nice to find another woman with the same insight :). Though, that seems to be a difficult task from time to time :P. Thank you for the kind remarks :). <br />
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I would like to be an interventional radiologist for the lifestyle (tons of vacation, very little call = tons of family time). I wouldn't mind doing orthopedic surgery either. Then again, neurology is fascinating! We'll see. I hear that everyone goes into medical school wanting to become one type and comes out wanting to become another. I'll get a better feel for it when I do my rotations at the end of medical school :). <br />
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How's life treating you? What is it that you do, btw?

I am sooo happy for you. You are a rare breed. Most adults over 40 don't have the insight nor wisdom that you are presently exhibiting. And a doctor too! Very impressive. I wish you all the joy and all the love you deserve and desire. God bless. And, oh,,, what kind of doctor?

Thanks for the advice everyone :). I've actually had the opposite; other people who's mistakes I viewed as examples to learn from. What I've noticed with nearly everyone who I've seen get married is they all stop taking care of themselves. Another is that both parties are stubborn or one never-ever wants to give in for prideful purposes. I see many of my co-workers lie to their wives (and vise versa) over petty things. I've found all of those to be extremely toxic in maintaining a healthy relationship, let alone marriage. I'd say the biggest issue I've witnessed is honesty...maybe because I live in Las Vegas, but it seems that the majority of people I know lie about something or other to their significant other. Disgusts me. <br />
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If I found the right woman, I'd marry her tomorrow. On the contrary, though, I'm in no rush until I get the person I want with the qualities I'm looking for. They aren't unimageinable; simply honesty, loyalty, intelligence, a little ambition, someone who takes care of themselves. <br />
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I've set my own guidelines for how I live my life and how I want to continue to live my life when I'm married. For instance, I've made fitness an every day part of my life; when my wife comes home I'd still like to be the man she wants to pounce on even when we're 50. I'm putting in all my hard work through school to become a doctor now, so when I have a family, I have all the time to spend with them :).

Sharing "values" in another form of "compatibility" and "attractiveness". This is where my husband and I agree (whole-heartedly) and is part of the infrastructure to our relationship. A very strong pillar, I must add. I immediately found him extremely attractive when we first met ba<x>sed on this ingredient.

Good sharing C, wants and needs, strengths and weakness, likes and dislikes, black or white, post bed or divan, metal or wood, carpet or tiles... these are simple but complex decision one will encounter in a marriage<br />
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lessons learned from my first broken marriage ... and plus never put yourself before others.

Good for you, Boxer. Sounds like you know what you want. Do you have good role models in your life regarding healthy marriages. There's something I've learned from living a few more years than you. In a marriage, I have needs and wants,,, I had identified them precisely before I met my second husband. And wala! We're married, 6 yrs together. Lots of prayer asking for what I wanted/needed and I threw in "and whatever else you know God that I need/desire. Amen!