Probably No Hope...

Here it is...i know exactly who i want to marry. I also know he barely knows i exsist. Well, we are fwb and he knows i am falling for him. Hes looking for his future wife...just not me. Im the fun girl u dont take home to mom appearently. I wish he could see im the whole thing...he knows we are perfect in bed together but he doesnt see me as the girl he could take home to bake applepie w his mom or raise our kids. Im not just the vixen! The way he is with me i cant even expain how amazing he makes me feel. Like nothing ive ever felt before. I wish i could be enough for him. I know what i want my future to look like and its growing old with him. Sigh.
Leena1981 Leena1981
31-35, F
1 Response Nov 30, 2012

The way I see this here, you're basically left with three options. The first and most obvious option is to sit him down and explain to him how you feel. Feel him out and find out whether he has any feelings for you or not. If he has any sort of feelings for you, see if he's willing to progress into more of a bf/gf situation versus an FWB situation. If he has zero feelings, zero attraction for you outside the bedroom, then you'll need to jump over to options two or three.

Option two is to break it off. You want more than a friends with benefits situation. You want the whole enchilada, so to speak. You want love, you want romance, you want passion. You want to get to know the real him and have him get to know the real you. It's unfair to you to stay in a situation where you're not getting what you're truly looking for. You need to be fair to yourself and let the healing process start.

Option three is to just stay in the situation as-is. Understand that this will create more pain and anxiety as the situation continues.

You have some difficult choices ahead. I wish you the best of luck and hope things work out for you in the end.