It Has Been 13 Years

I believe that I have found the man of my dreams. We have been together for like 13 years and we have two kids but he has not popped the question or even tried to. I am 31 years and I have been ready. I don't think I can wait any more for him to make up his mind if I am the one for him or not. Love is hard and and I have found myself in love with this guy and wanting my family together so bad that it now hurts to hear of other people getting married. It has been 13 years how much longer do I have to wait. :0(
Jaydeem Jaydeem
2 Responses Dec 13, 2012

You dont have to wait at all. After seven years, my ex never proposed. I asked him if we were going to get married one day once I couldn't wait any longer. He said he wasn't sure. That was my answer, I didn't need to wait for him to say yes or no, I left. Yes, it's harder to leave with kids in the picture, but don't you deserve more if that's what you want? If loving him for thirteen years and mothering his children isn't enough for him, I don't know what is. Confront him again (this is assuming you already have done so) when you're ready-preferably before you spend another year in this situation- and promise yourself that if his answer is not something you can live with and if your goals are different and if he won't take a vow to stand by you and your children if that's what you want, you will leave. You will never be happy compromising in this way. You won't be happy if you feel you dragged him into a marriage he didn't want. What gives him all the say? You have no control over what other people want or decide but you CAN decide how you want to live the rest of your life.

Where is he from? In some European countries couples live together for years without getting married. Having and raising kids is seen as a greater commitment than a one day ceremony and marriage certificate.