Bother To Continue?

My fiancee and I have been on and off for about 6 months. We moved pretty quickly in our relationship, which included dealing with lots of drama from both our exes. Well one of his included a young mother. For the longest time he was dead certain that the child was not his. He recently met the 2 1/2 month old and instantly fell head over heels! He would go on and on about how much she looked like him and how attatched they were becoming. I was excited for him since he'd always wanted to start a family. But then it began to sink in... After an accident years ago it was assumed that he could not have children. I've had difficulty myself. So once I came to that conclusion it caused jealously to rear its ugly head. I cry everytime I leave from visiting the babys home. It makes sex so much more difficult because I feel pressured-not by him but by myself. I'm not sure how to deal with it or explain to him how lost I feel. He just says 'it'll happen babe. When the time is right?' But what if it never does?
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1 Response Dec 23, 2012

You ought to go and both get properly checked out at a fertility clinic. If for example you both want a family and you discover your boyfriend has bad swimmers, then you may need to consider a donor so you can both have a family.. if it's you then adoption might be the route.

I have and am helping a few people in that situation and it is difficult for one partner to accept so has to be handled sensitively, but ultimately if after 12mths of trying you have not had any success then it is not normal and means you should both get checked out.

I definatly will do. We've both come to the conclusion that although we want a family of our own we're in no way financially stable enough. But we'll be getting married here in a few months so I'm extremely happy and busy, which does take my mind off the lack of tiny feet pounding across the floor :D

Well congrats on getting married :) While there is never a 'perfect time' to have children, you're right to try and get some financial stability first. Just worth factoring in that if either of you do have fertility issues it could take years so you should probably find out sooner than later so you can plan how to address if needed. Good luck.