Ok So...

I started this group coz I thought it might be usefull for people to input some ideas on how to stop slef harming...

Instead of cutting, try using a rubber band to flick on your wist as a replacement for the pain.

If its the blood, then try writing on your wrist with a red pen, draw shapes, lines or whatever comes out.

Try holding ice so your hand goes numb and cold and subsitutes for pain or sensation

Distract yourself with something like writing, reading or music - whatever works for you

One that works for me is painting... when you have the urge to pick up a blade, a lighter, or whatever it is, pick up a paintbrush and paint what comes to mind, it doesn't matter what it is, it will mean something to you no matter what

Good luck, like to hear more suggestions...

hurtandpain hurtandpain
18-21, F
13 Responses Feb 27, 2010

Sounds interesting, might see if I can find the book :)<br />
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Thank you, you have no idea how much that means to me - same to you too :)

You are right, he has a special plan for you, I read a book once, best book I ever read called "Purpose Driven Life" by Max Lucado......Basically tells why we are here. TONS of life changing advice. I wish you the best and will pray for you, and am here if ya need a friend. :)

Thankful - that is so true :)<br />
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He is ALWAYS there for you no matter what. Truthfully, it took me a long time to figure this one out, but now I am a pround Christian and trust that God will do great things - for me and for other people.<br />
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Thank you for your words, you are a darling :)

Yes and Talking to God helps me GREATLY! When u feel the need to do self harm, PRAY to GOD to TAKE THE FEELING AWAY! Keep praying till the feeling is Gone. Give God all your past hurts and pains and call for him to help you and to change your life for the better, be patient and HE WILL help you in ways you cant imagine . He LOVES you like NO other. Iv felt like ending my life before and prayed and God came to my rescue. You have nothing to lose and only to gain. There is Evil in this world and God can help us fight against it IF we ask. Happiness within comes from being able to trust God (Jesus) and feeling comforted by him and knowing we will live Eternity in heaven. Once you see how God is workin in your life you will start trusting him more and more. This life is like a boot camp, but if we endure and hold on with (Gods help) we will be rewarded and it will ALL be worth it. Just give all the pain to him and he will carry it ALL for us so we dont have to. Confide in him, take comfort in him like a father figure or best friend, trust him and you will see miracles happen in your life.

TideToGo - Sometimes you don't want to talk to anyone, but it great when you are able to :)<br />
I hope that your friends are supportive of you, thats what can make all the difference sometimes. It may not change much, but it is good to know that there is someone who is there and willing to listen... and to give you a hug when you words can't explain what you are feeling :)

i totally thought you meant like tips on how to best perform self harm... <br />
i'm a self-proclaimed expert on self harm and the like...<br />
i found a way to stop though. its called <br />
falling<br />
in<br />
love.<br />
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and it works extremely well:) i think i've smiled more since i met her than all last year<br />
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and if anybody does want self harm tips i know pyro, blades, blunt force/bruising, flameless burns, pressure points, ummmm... yep. good luck with stuff people^^

Hurtandpain,<br />
If you go to my stories and read the prayer of Gratitude by a spiritual guide you will find words to help you in your time of need.<br />
If you keep repeating the prayer your life will change for the best.<br />
God bless<br />

Some more tips -<br />
-Listen to relaxing music<br />
-Carry 'tokens' that remind you of something 'safe'<br />
-Go to a peaceful place (in your mind or actually go)<br />
-Rip some paper<br />
-Write<br />
-Draw<br />
-Meditate<br />
-Colour in a colouring book<br />
-Leave the room<br />
-Call a hotline<br />
-Watch a comedy

great ideas

amyMA -Yeah, I'm talking about cutting. Thanks for your suggestions about other self harm as well :)<br />
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Equis - Thanks, I do what I can

u r talkin for cuttin right?..also someone punch on a wall,he/she can do it on a punching bag..sometimes running very fast helps...<br />
good luck to everyone..and thanks for sharing

Scoobs57 - I try to help when I can, just wanted to try and give others some idea, coz I personally know what it's like to struggle with self harm, it hard to see others go through the same thing<br />
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TideToGo - Hope it turns out alright for you, let me know how it goes, I wish you the best, and if you want to ask me anything go ahead :)

These are some very good ideas. Thanks for sharing. I think its great you want to try and help.