Would Love To Find A Woman Who Would Want To Indulge.

I have alway had a fantasy of having a woman who would be indulgent enough to want to have strap-on sex with me.

I have a brand new strap-on ***** harness and ***** that has never been used.  I'm just looking for the woman who would like to be the first to use it on me.

risenphoenix risenphoenix
70+, M
4 Responses Feb 24, 2010

I'm also interested in trying this, but have not approached my wife of 25 years yet. With two teens in the house, it's difficult to find time let alone be noisy or vigorous in our sex life. However, I spotted a sale a year or so ago on a harness with black nylon straps, and a "ba<x>se" to hold the thin purple untextured ***** in. I have not shown it to her, but I have removed the ***** and tried it on her first as a sex toy (it was fair for her, but smaller than the one we normally use for her) and then for me one day during solo sex. It was adequate, in that it was not too large for me.<br />
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My question is two fold: First, what is the appeal for a man...that is, what sensations should he expect to receive from a strap-on...and in what position should you two be?<br />
Second, since my wife is somewhat heavyset, I suspect the straps will be close to their extreme limit when tightened down. Any suggestions on where and how it should be positioned on her body?<br />
And finally, how do you suggest that I broach this topic to her? She's not opposed to being adventurous, but more frequently comes down on the conservative white bread/vanilla side of sex... prefers "natural" sex instead of "kink", but when very aroused, will explore. Suggestions?

If you have used a ***** with her, I can only suggest that you simply suggest what you are wanting to do, especially if she's not opposed to being adventurous.
It's the stimulation of the prostate that increases the sensations and adds much enjoyment to play.
I can say that my first time was a mind-blowing experience.

I'm concerned cause my prostate is deep (and we already know her fingers are short) so I'm not sure how much of a "thrill" this would be for me. People keep talking in terms of "mind-blowing" but I'm not sure the prostate does it for me. (Yes, I understand it's role, but it's never seemed to be eroginous for me.) Is it a learned pleasure or behavior?

It did happen, but not just exactly the way I had imagined, but it was just as good. She and I had been playing, when she asked me to get my *****. <br />
She told me to roll onto my stomach and the next thing I felt was her probing between my cheeks with her fingers. She stroked my *** hole with her fingers and then I felt the cool drops of lube as she let it drip onto my tight rosebud.<br />
Then I felt the slight pressure of her pushing the ***** at the entrance. At first there was a little pain as I opened up to the penetration. After several attempts and lots of patience, she finally eased the ***** in. I had never felt anything like that in my life, the sensations were indescribable. She began a slow movement, in and out, back and forth, ******* my *** with the *****. The came the second set of sensations as she began to slap my cheeks with her bare hand. This just doubled the pleasure I was feeling.<br />
When she handed me her **** vibrator and told me to use it on myself, just added to the already incredible feeling I was experiencing.<br />
It didn't take but just several minutes until I could hold back no longer and I had a mind-blowing ******, such as I'd never experienced before. When it was over, all I could do was lay there in exhaustion and the afterglow of orgasmic pleasure.<br />
wicked...it was even more enjoyable than I could have ever imagined. Hopefully that special person will come back again and give me some more pleasure.<br />
Even though she didn't take me using the strap-on, it couldn't have been any better.

wicked...Thanks for the comment. That has always been a fantasy, that I soon hope becomes a reality, with a very special person.

I am sure that you will find a woman to do that for you soon.......hopefully it lives up to your fantasy.<br />
Good luck!