12 years ago, I met a wonderful man. He was good looking, smart, fun to be with and loved me for me.  I was so young and stupid, we had been together for a year.  He asked me to marry him and I was over the moon. One night, he wanted to go out with the guys and I told him if he went, that it was over.  he left me that day, and I never saw him again.  I never even talked to him again unitl about a week ago.  I found him online and we have been talking.  I really like this guy, and I would run off with him tomorrow.

Unfortunalty, I am not sure if he feels the same way, and even if he did, we are thousands of miles apart. I would have to move, take my kids and leave.  I am married, but have been contemplating divorce for quite a while.  Is this the moment in life when you realize that it is time to go? The moment when I get a second chance at the love of my life? Or is it that I have been craving the love of a man for so long that I am willing to make up a fairy tale about a guy that I know nothing about anymore?

I am just so confused. I have been looking for a way out of this marriage for so long. Now here is a guy that loved me desperately at one time. I feel like a crazy woman! HELP!

I have strayed before, but never considered changing my life for someone else.  I don't know if I should just stay the hell away from him, or run to him full force!

sunnymamma sunnymamma
26-30, F
4 Responses Mar 11, 2010

You're most welcome. Sorry you're in this situation.. I really am.

Thank you all so much for the comments. You know, the comment about wanting a replacement husband hit the nail on the head. It really got me thinking. That is exactly what I have been doing. Thank you for the enlightenment!

You didn't stop seeing each other because he went out one night. The two of you decided not to be together for a reason. If you leave your husband to be with him I bet you will eventually remember that reason

You don't want an affair, you want a replacement husband.... <br />
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Not saying that is bad or good.. just saying you're not after an affair.