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Yes, I Am A Girl, But...

There is so much pressure to be thinner, prettier, better, better, best! I am not thin, or even pretty for that matter. Having little fashion sense my daily wear is usually jeans and t-shirts. I'm not much to look at, being very overweight, with small breasts, and thin, mousy brown hair leaves most people wondering if I am a dyke.

Flipping through the pages in magazines or through the channels on tv and all I see is gorgeous girly girls. They look so put together and confident. Their shoes and accessories match their outfit to a tee. Hair that is full and smartly styled.

Helena Rubinstein once said, "There are no ugly women, just lazy ones".
I've also heard, "There are no ugly women, just poor ones".
They both hold a lot of truth in my world. Not that I am lazy as much as I don't have a clue where to begin. Make up and hair styles seem so time consuming and that's hard with a two year old running around.

Sometimes I see women who are larger then me and think, "that's a pretty jazzy outfit she has on". Typically I figure it looks nice on her mostly because she has larger breast then me and shrug it off.

I'd love to feel like a woman for once!
anotherinnocent anotherinnocent 22-25, F 8 Responses Feb 1, 2013

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Really its harder being a guy

why are you putting yourself down? i thinbk your a beautiful young woman and a caring mom and you need to be proud of who you are. Your a true beauty not like most women who think they are the cats meow with their looks. Looks only get you so far in life and your inner beauty gets you further. From what i can see in your profile pic, you are very beautiful and have such a wonderful smile and warm eyes... any man would be very lucky to be with you and you need to start thinking like that because it's the truth! If men can't see that your wonderful then they must be either blind or just stupid!!!

Wow thank you, that was a very nice thing to say.

your welcome, i went through the same thing when i was young and understand what your going through. it just doesnt happen to women , some men go through similar things, we don't have the same parts but it's competitive with us too. you just have to put your head up high and just don't let it get to you. Before you know it you get through it.

I appreciate it!

if you ever need to chat just email me and let me know... sometimes it helps to chat with someone who has gone through similar things... big hug !

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You are self conscience of your looks. You hide behind the baggy clothing like a mask. Once you realize that everyone around you sees how great you look not what you see in the mirror you will start to blossom. One of the most attractive attributes of a woman is self confidence.

First thing: Do all you can to get skinny. Men love to bang a skinny chick. It's not fair, but it's true. The good news is that you can do. Wake up early every morning do your exercises. If you can get to a gym and get a personal trainer, that's good. But if not, get a P90X DVD and stick to it. You'll get skinny before you know it. While you're doing all that, focus on makeup. See, makeup is relatively inexpensive, so you can try different colors and shades until you find the one that is right for you. You'll start to see you makeup sense come together as your weight comes down. Then you'll be ready for some cute outfits, and it'll be easier since all of the cute clothes are made for skinny chicks. Get the cute clothes. Want to write more, but I gotta go. Anyways, you get the idea.

I think you look great :) x

there are too many pictures of skinny women that i think look too skinny but it sends the wrong message out about weight. Most pictures are touched up and not real and i think that some of these models look horrible - i like a woman with nice round curves lol

well if you have a 2 year old running around it is safe to assume some one took interest in you. I like some meat with my potatos & if your breast are small I'll never wonder if they are real. Yes those women in the mags are all pretty & perfect but Earl shives could make an old junker look like new if the paint flowed right

He is only with me out of desperation I believe, but thanks.

Well I don't believe that for a minute. You are an attractive girl without layers of bondo & paint. Any young man worth keeping would make your smile shine like new money without all the glitz & glitter. I see those girls in the mags & think that I need to cook them a good meal because aparently they don't know how to do it for themselves.

i have a few suggestions hun if you would like

I am open to any of them!

do u ever wear makeup

Sometimes, I am not really that knowledgable about it all though. Try to avoid it so I don't look like a clown.

do u ever wear feminine colors?

I guess, yeah. Although much of what I have is grey, seems safer to just own grey.

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