Can I Buy a Vowel....

What is the price of normal? What exactly is normal? (Normal (adj)1. Conforming with, adhering to, or constituting a norm, standard, pattern, level, or type; typical.) Ok, if this is the the base definition of normal let's go back to my original question, what is the price of normal? In todays society the most "normal" thing is dysfunction. (Dysfunction (n) pathology - any deviation from a healthy or normal condition.) The most influential people in my life have a story, a real story. These people are some of the most colorful and bright women and men that are amongst us. They have walked a hard road and gained knowledge no school can ever teach. Dysfunction was there normal, yet they didn't conform or adhere to it. So what does that make them? Lucky? Wise? A walking time bomb? Let's face it, the common thread in America today is dysfuntion. One in six American women are victims of sexual assault, and one in 33 men. approximately 896,000 children were found to have been victims of abuse or neglect—an average of more than 2,450 children per day.

An average of nearly four children die every day as a result of child abuse or neglect (1,400 in 2002).

So now I ask myself again, "What is the price of normal?" Maybe normal isn't what I dreamed it was. Maybe I need a different goal for my children. Wait, how about different? (Different (adj) 1. Unlike in form, quality, amount, or nature; dissimilar 2. Distinct or separate 3. Various or assorted 4. Differing from all others; unusual.) So this is one of the first times I see it maybe good to raise our children to be different. If they grow up to be different hopefully there children will understand what it feels like to be normal. Until then embrace your stories. Learn all you can from them and grow into your colors. Even in a bruise you can find a beautiful shade of blue.

With all my love and prayers.

Toshamaye

Toshamaye Toshamaye
22-25, F
6 Responses May 22, 2007

if only everyone, including myself, could be such a positive thinker

Toshamaye,<br />
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This is a fantastic writing for me. Thank you. You are so articulate and I like that Merriam Webster is your friend too!<br />
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I am the only sibling who has done therapy. I am the only sibling that will honestly acknowledge that our father is mentally ill and was our entire childhood, undiagnosed. No one will talk about it, and this is their choice. I honor this. <br />
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But they reflect the norm of my family. The normal of my family. As a result, I am the "black sheep" who they love but who lives her life true to her self. I am the one who gives them something to talk about, a job I never wanted but I have no say in the matter.<br />
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My mother struggles with my mentally ill aging father, god bless her, and wants him to stop lying. She has done some therapy with him when the **** hit the fan. She still thinks he chooses to lie. I told her that it is pathological. I said to her once: I see you want to stay with Dad and that this lying is hard for you. What if you sought support for yourself in how to deal with this so it was easier for you?<br />
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Uh huh.<br />
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No way.<br />
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It still hurts. It is still hard on me but not as hard as it has been. I love them, I even like them. They are my story as I write the rest. They are the heritage story.<br />
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Sigh.<br />
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And, I guess, I will still do what is right for me and what feels well to me and they will still have something to talk about.<br />
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Eh?<br />
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Thank you for this wonderful writing.<br />
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Sincerely,<br />
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Kim

Theres no such thing as normal. Someones "normal" is always someone elses "Strange"

Great story :)

Ya but can you imagine what people 500 or even 100 years ago would think of todays so called "Normality" ? but yes very well said Normal = Dysfunction lol

Ya but can you imagine what people 500 or even 100 years ago would think of todays so called "Normality" ? but yes very well said Normal = Dysfunction lol