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Were You Once A Bully? Give An Anonymous Phone Interview With CNN

CNN is doing a piece on bullying and is looking for EP members in the U.S. who were once bullies, to discuss their experience.

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If you're interested please email help@experienceproject.com with the best phone number where you can be reached and we'll have the journalist contact you directly.

EPArsineh EPArsineh 26-30, F 158 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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I was bullied so many times. Nobody liked me, so I thought the way to make people like me was to bully other people. I bullied people everyday. I decided one day,if they dont like me its their fault and why take my anger out on somebody who is innocent. When I stopped bullying people,the girls hated me and I just took all of my anger out on them one day and they never bothered me again. Bullying is something that I will regret and never do again. If you bully people you need to stop because karma will come around and because it is the rifgt thing to do

I was bullied!!! And still am..... :(

Yeah, I was a bully but I was bullied by others as well. I have my fair share of bullying in my life - both as a victim and perpetrator.

I am not proud though of being a bully because I know I have hurt sort of tortured people physically, mentally and emotionally.

I could have said more but I live in the Philippines so I guess that's just it. :)

I was a terrible bully now this was about 13 years ago. Mine began when I was a freshman in high school I was very skinny about 6'3" @ 160 I got picked on so much I was just about to loose it. Here is where I screwed up I started taking steroids the end of the year. I shot up to about 190+ within 9 months and growing mind you I have good genetics grew very quickly. It became very obvious but I didn't care now the people who picked on me when I was a freshman funny enough wanted to be my friend. I had done this so I wouldn't get picked on but it messed up who I was it got to my ego. Then I would purposely pick on some type of group or an individual person trying to get them to react. I would purposely embarrass them in classes or in the hall ways in front of there friends. I knew this was becoming a problem in my junior year but continued because in a way I had a lot of anger built up from my past. My friends would always laugh which made it worst. But till this day I still think about how bad I was and regret it a lot one kid I really was bad too I found out he got killed and I had really wanted to say sorry but never got the chance. There is more to the story but I don't want to bore you all with hateful things I regret!

Unfortunately, I'm not living in USA . Well, i have a little opinions and experiences

No i was not a bully

Anyone who sees someone being a bully but says or does nothing about it gives tacit approval to the bully. Like the teachers at my secondary school, overflowing with BS about how WE all had to respect and honor THEM when in fact most of them were selfish lazy worthless losers who witnessed bullying every day and just looked the other way. To this day I still have no respect for brain dead cowards who eke out a living at the lower end of the food chain because they lack the intelligence, initiative, courage and backbone to get a real job. Call me a rebel if you want but if you also want an apology you may be waiting for a very long time.

This doesn't make any sense. Why would you want to talk to the bullies? Are you expecting them to apologize to the people they bullied or are you supporting the bullies? They get to remain anonymous? Sounds like you're supporting bullies.

Well I was the one being bullied though they stopped when they witnessed my "insanity". Hence, I started to beat my bullies when they **** me off be it physically or emotionally.

i was never the bully or was i ever bulled.

I wasn't a bully. I was a "Foster" kid who was moved around. I was a target for bullies everywhere I went. I was literally beaten into dropping out of high school. In the 1960s no one wanted to get involved.

A lot of people bullied me most of my child hood years and some of them were my family members and some of them still are bullying me when ever I'm around them as if it's a sick thrill they can't do without, it's a sick world.

They want people who were bullies or were the bullied?

I was Bullied in Jr High and H.S.....that was like what in 1983.....and when I mean I was Bullied,I was made fun of alot for my size and all ....it was the most uncomfortable thing~But I am 40 yrs old now and I am happily married and have two Beautiful kids,My Life now is the best thing ever~But now I am very protective with my kids being Bullied....Hope they do not experience what I went threw! Stop the BULLYING in Schools that is all I ask pls?????♥

yes i would like im being bulled by my own teacher

Its starts out with one word. One wrong racist word. It escalates. One blows the whistle. The next counter attack occurs. Its 2011. Its an Acura. Its 2011-folks. Its one word. Its a wrong word. Its like calling a Jewish person a kyke. Calling a homosexual a ******. Calling a black person a ******. Its a wrong word. Its demorazlizing its inhumane. And bob didn't want to tell me . He said, "Let it go. Their racist pigs. Let it go". I couldn't.

My friend is black. My other friend's are black. My cousin is part black. And its on our car. And, even though he waited over a year to tell me what happened independence day; it didn't sit well with me. Some of the greatest people I have ever known who taught me things in life. Music in life. God in life were black. It hurt. And, it hurt that they could think that they could write that on our car. On our property. In our home.

So I did. I did report them...

Then they broke into the car, again. They wrote nine steps on how to end my life. That; my father had a heart attack and just to get over it. That hurt too. I suppose that was the goal. I went to my father this past year, Getting him aretha franklin tickets, stevie nicks tickets, jones beach, trips to CT. Listened to him. Felt his heartbreak of being used and abused after forty years on the job that nearly killed him. Instead, of getting that bonus from the company; He took off with a box of forty years and a big mac before he checked himself in.

The break in then went a step further. This time, writing twelve steps of how and what I should do with my life ending with "shes dead" shes' dead"!

I didn't say anything. Bob saw it. I saw it. And then by the second one I did tell the cops. "Keep an eye out on our home while where away". I said. ("Some are in Montauk as we speak. It happened almost two weeks ago. But, four are here now, and one of them knows who he is. Because he was one of the ring leaders in our car"). It was recorded. The rest are still at home smoking cigars in my foyer and Spitting, while bike riding past my home. "Okay "said the cop. "I'll keep an eye out".

"A report should be needed when you return home". The cop said. Then they went a step further. This time in the home. 68 emails later all over my computer. No more jewlery. just some cigar butts again in the foyer. They got away with that.

They thought.

I picked up those cigar butts. Took a tissue, placed it in a bag. Recorded "she's dead" when going to the park with my dog by some kid--who just happens to be the kid of the father who left those butts.

I made copies and I called the police again. This time, reporting my journals and what was written word for word. I kept walking the dog. Kept meeting John and Patty. This time a blue car talking to me screaming across the street saying "you think your so hot walk your ******* dog!" I was across from the church when I saw them. I heard them. I turned around, and I never said anything. I went back each day. Hearing more and more abuse. "Beware of her--this girl is crazy!!". "Sonny should blow up" (How did they even know my dogs name?). And, all the while I kept walking with those neighbors. Not saying anything. Then I go to my home. Another cigar butt.

Another email. Now escalting to 20-30 calls a day from Peconic bay. I don't pick them up. But I see the number. But I don't get up. (But I get those account records) Then, I volunteer with the same young adults I knew for six years. Now they get jumped on by the bullies dogs. They get phone calls upstate at their school. Calling them, asking them " Is Corinne Conover there?" They continue to harass me in a non verbal way. This time just by having, their pit bull named sprinkles jumping on my friend. My volunteer work with Asperger adults. Just because they think they can. and doing its alright--"its just her, keep on going"

Then my porch. Then the driveway. That's fun. Coming home to negligence. Because people think they can. I'm pulling in my driveway unloading a dog. Which they say should blow up. And, groceries. And the same people who broke into our car, are smoking pot in my driveway. And not moving. Just doing it. Then laughing as if its okay. The porch has dog poop on it. The rum drinking, the pot smoking on our porch. Because its okay--just her. Then in my drive way doing drugs. Drinking rum, and they don't even live their. there not even tenants. And even if they were--is that legal?


And then Michelle comes along. Nice, kind neighbor.Flat tire. Right in the front of the house. Caring mother. frazzeled. The local Baldwin neighbors, all stare. They all watch her like nothing happened. Like she's stranded and its okay. Its not okay. I go out there. I do something. I take her to get her flat fixed. Get her home on time. Get her to get that car three hours later to get her kids.

The next door neighbor that harassed me so much stood with Michelles daughters months later--saying "I HATE THATGIRL". Michelle's daughter, turned around and said "My mother said I'm not allowed to hate her".


I never saw so much jealousy, greed, and hatred in all my life. I saw it in adolescence. A thirty year old women following me to the bus stop telling me I was ugly and thensome. everyday, stalking me on her way to work. But im not twelve now. I've lived. Went to school. Went to college. Met bad people. Met good people. Met spiritual people. Met egotistical people. But, I always looked the other way. I took the good. And, I gave back to the good. I helped scape goats or the down trodden if you will; But I can't understand how people in general can be so mean in this world. We are in a war. There are domestic terrorists, crack dealers selling to minors three blocks away. Pot dealers selling to minors three blocks away. Crack addicts and heroine addicts living under the bridge five blocks away. A guy named James Parker, one block away and they are still trying to find out who shot him dead in his home. There are heroine shooters in front of my face in the park. There are murders at three a.m. on the bridge killing that crack addict .And, three months later that same person being murdered for killing that former-crack addict. There are over twenty five pedophiles in a ten mile radius in the town of Baldwin. There are some truly ****** up people out there. Racists, terrorists, drug addicts, and pedophiles, that I can think of right now all in that neighborhood. Why me? why pick on me.?

I was easy. I was an easy target. Easy to bully. Easy to manipulate. Easy to dumb down. Easy to shut me up. Easy to break in my home and write in my journals that I was a destroyer. That I was incompetant. In our home.


I have looked to God on this one. Every single day.

I have ended with a Hurricane Sandy storm.

Good riddance--no belongings. No home. No car. No sentimental value--gone. But, I have to go to God. Every single day. For forgiveness. For accepting people on their terms for what they cannot change. For accepting the home for what is no longer there. I look to God on this one.

But I'm not twelve anymore. I don't do right by being stalked, slandered, driven out, isolated, harassed, assaulted, told I should die or worse.

I look to God on this one everyday of the week. For forgiveness in my own soul. my being. That if people want to believe what they want to believe. think what I'm thinking. Pretend on false power and manipulation. So be it.

This isn't about revenge. This is about standing up for myself after two years and realizing. I deserve more. I deserve better. I have a wonderful home. A beautiful boyfriend. Beautiful friends, and family. I believe in God. Gods my maker. Gods my savior. I looks towards his light--every single day.

There was a book called Freedom is and Freedom Ain't based on Jazz history of the 60's. They called it race music before it was even called jazz. Martin Luther Jr. was a targeted individual. John Lennon was a targeted individual. In this day and age I believe in my heart Aaron Swartz was a targeted individual. Its not freedom. Its being a human being in America. And, its standing up for yourself and not going down as a target nor a victim of societies manipulations.

I stand with God. .

I remember being a freshmen in high school an riding the bus every morning. My bully would ride the bus and he would hit me, and just verbally abuse me almost the whole ride. The worst abuse was the sexual kind. He would touch me and if I didn't let him he would hit me or call me names and I just sat their like a rock letting him rule my life. He stole my ipod and sold it for drugs and he even came over to my house and hung out with my little brother. he made me wait on him, i had to bring him drinks and stuff. All sophomore year he did the same..he graduated before I came back as a junior. I don't know where he is and I don't care!! It was HORRIBLE.

I also remember in my algebra class in high school girls picked on me. They left a note on my desk once that read this
"You think you are pretty don't you? You act like you are skinny it's disgusting. You are fat. You should kill yourself. God you are so disgusting. Bye fatty, Love, us"
I remember seeing it and the teardrops dripping off my face. and they asked if I got the note. I said I don't know what you are talking about. And they got mad.

Bullies suck.

To callie17dirge, I totally agree w/u. I was bullied all jurnor high, dreeded going to school everyday, guy's used to use me for punching bag, teacher never did anything about it. u loose your self respect, selfesteem, I guess it takes all u life to get over it. I also agree bullies suck

I was bullied frist and I started to bully my bullies when I finally stood my ground and said enough is enough I mean I wasn't just going to let them hurt me you have to be crazy to not stand up for yourself. And when I finally did they left me alone I only did one time and it was only them . I never messed with no one but they took my kindness for weakness and that's when they feared. Plus made a lot new friends that day .

Maybe this is something a bully might say, but who cares? Is this crap really news worthy? Kids bully eachother, they always have, they always will. It is how they decide what kind of behavior is acceptible to them and their peers. In other words, its how humans develop socially. Most of those whom are bullied grow up to be happier and more successful than the people that bullied them. This idea that bullying is a huge problem in the U.S. is a media created problem designed to enrage the masses. Why dont you p,u,ssies at CNN try reporting real news instead of creating it. Seriously, you give investigative reporting a bad name when you focus on such nonsense!!!

I was a victim of bullies,at primary school,so new full well how it made one feel.In high school i had a tendency to friend and stand up for people that were being bullied.

I also do not live in the US.

I come from both sides I was bullied, then I became a bully

I'm bullied in high school a lot. and i still am. i question myself now and days about why am i bullied what did i do to diserve it. i question life and my faith now and days i show no feels or emotions. what's the point in it.

Do not question yourself because it is not YOU!! It is them. They are the ones with the problem. Stand your ground and do not take their mess. Live your life the way you want and don't let anyone stand in your way.
My bullies are cracked out today, either living out on the streets, or at home with their parents. I own my own home, car and in my 3rd year of college working my way toward a successful career in the criminal justice field.
Once school is out, you do not ever have to see them again because you will move to another part of town or even move out of town.
Be safe and take care.

I was bullied in high school because the person was jealous of me. Then when I went to church or over this one certain person home, she would bully me because she was jealous or didn't like me. When I learned to fight back that's when they left me alone and they actually wanted to be my friend afterward but the damage had been done. Now I have boys and I am stressing the fact of not picking with people and that it is better to just walk away unless they put their hands on you.

I got lucky never was bullied or was a bully. I made fun of a girl in elementary for not washing her hands after going to the bathroom. I was the quiet one everyone feared :P

Luck had nothing to do with it , it was you , your personality , how you got raised , and who you are , no luck , just you
thanks for sharing
Erica

Bullies suck!!

i get bullied all the time its a daily thing for me and i was used to it from the beginning since ive always been looked down upon by people but the thing is i could easily become rich and famous for writing books and have been able to do so since i was 12 also im not a us resident.

I was pretty ruthless in junior high

Hi, Q. Is this for people who were bullies? or either way. I would never bully, but was bullied in junior high school, thanks

I was never a bully but never got intimidated by anyone, including teachers.

Sorry, not a US resident.

where are you form Boltt , and have you ever been in the US ?

I was a bully always sticking up for the underdog . But today's bullies are much different than back then. Its not to be taken lightly when kids are killing themselves or must go uneducated in fear of going to school .Bullies today are a breed of there own .

The bullies are the same , the kids that do not know or have not been taught how to deal with them are different , not the bully
We live in this video game world, kids are brought up on all the TV and games , and guess what there is no reset button , you must deal with the situation . and on top of all of this , The Parents , ( oh my God the Parents )
My dad told me that I should respect others first of all , and make sure that other respect you , and yes that meant fight back when necessary , and if my dad ever found out that I was the Bully , ( I don't even want to think about what I thought would happen to me ) And before all of you start talking back.
I was never a bully , nor I was never bullied , and no I was not one of the lucky ones , I lived in an age of respect , not the Parent do everything for me world , I lived in a world when you earned things you got from your Parents , not give me , give me , and not even say thank you . the world of Respect , and help your Parents , do not wait until they yell at you to do things , look to help them out, Not today's world of a 22 year old that her mother does her laundry for them , I bought my own car at 17 ( four years of a newspaper route ) so why be surprised
Parents just give them everything and do not care what they do , yes you do not care , what I mean by that , when the kid is not looking to help you out , when the kid does not care if you are tired or not , you failed , you do know what or when they do things that means You do not care, not because you bought them the video game system or the new cell phone or the new car , they never earned it . and I shall apologize to the Parents who make them earn it and have kids who respect them , but those kids , let me say it again
those Kids are not either the Bullys or being Bullied .

How?????

I didn't read through all the replies but the first few that I did see were pretty much all admissions of having been the opposite. Someone made a comment about whether anyone would actually admit to being a bully. I am not sure that I would if I had truly been one myself but I can definitely say I was picked on. I already posted my story about that so I won't repeat it but I was chased through my neighborhood and had my toes run over by kids who didn't like me because I wasn't white. I never fought back. I was too afraid and didn't know what to do. The only time I got close to standing up to bullies was a few years later when I stood up for and said a few words in defense of a girl who couldn't defend herself but it didn't last very long and I ended up running away from the bully because I was still the same timid person I had been when I was younger.

My mother knew about what I was going through and never did anything about it. In fact she never even told me to not let myself get pushed around or leave any situation where I felt uncomfortable. She just simply said nothing and pretended like nothing was happening and just accepted it because I didn't know any better. She is white but was too afraid of her white peers or racist neighbors or something, I don't even know. She was a single parent and my Dad - who was black - was never around and I never met him. I could say that the fact that I am still bitter towards not only those kids but also my mother about those experiences has made me a sort of bully because I haven't yet learned to let go of my anger about that and I am really not always the nicest person although I can say that I have tried more than once to change that. I honestly don't trust too many people by now. I have felt like lashing out more than once before towards ppl who have given me racist vibes or said racist things around me. That is another example I can give of having internalized a victim mentality to the point of becoming a sort of bully. I really don't want to stay like this but I am not willing to just let myself get walked over and pushed around because people think they are better or don't understand me enough to respect me for what I am.

I attribute that almost entirely to what I went through as a child and I am a grown woman by now. I am not proud of that but I am not apologizing for how I felt and how I still feel either. It's sort of twisted though because I got along pretty well with those kids that didn't have a problem with me and seemed to be colorblind and accepted me for who I was. They were cool but the downside is they never seemed to be around or didn't stick up for me when I was getting bullied so I guess I am a little angry at more than just those who decided it was ok to bully me.

Honestly, I think if my Dad had been in my life things would have been different and he would not have let me get pushed around like that. My white family I realize now was loving but also condescending towards me to the point where they were comfortable saying things about how they felt about race in the U.S. that I would never just sit by and say nothing about now as an adult although I did when I was younger. I think my mother was a coward for being too afraid to stand up for her only child.

yeah your dad might of helped..butt calling your mom a coward
is the worst thing i have ever read on e.p.
you have a functioning brain dip stick!
use it.....

clearly you have no clue ,
Her mothers job as a mother was to teach her how to stand up for herself and be proud of who she is . And if the mother did not know how to do that , than she failed as a parent , and making exuses for Parents like that , is how we have come here , this sorry world of not admitting to ourselves that we have made mistake the world of ( oh no it's not your fault , you did the best you could )
No she did not she let her daughter be bullied and did not thing about it one way or another , I personally come from a single parent household , and my mom taught all four of us how to have respect and how to make sure you are respected,

Yeah...you obviously aren't using yours because you don't get it. You wouldn't be saying that if you met my mother either. What the hell do you know about valuing family and looking out for your loved ones for you to pick on a label that is way less harmful then the psychological damage of being physically and mentally bullied? **** you. What the hell do you call someone who sits inside of her house hiding from neighbors while she knows her child is outside getting picked on on a weekly basis and does nothing?? Really?? Are you ******* serious?? Are you ******* retarded?? She could have at least called other family to come out and help her deal with the issue but she never did. She could have told a neighbor she had a good relationship with what was going on and asked for help but she didn't do that either. She is not a stupid woman and has always been able to support herself and survive on her own without a man for many, many years. She was strong enough for that but not able to figure out how to help her only child against kids even if it meant asking for help? Please. GTFO you are probably just like her.

I understand your bitterness about your dad not being around SteeleRose25. I felt the same about mine when I was growing up! At the age of 17 he said to me "no more blood money for you, you can look after yourself now". He was a miserable SOB who cared about nothing more than his beer. That year I had to leave school and get my first job. I could not be bothered seeing him after that until I had a faith experience and figured I owed my parent a visit just to let him know I was OK, (more than he felt he owed me really). He actually had the nerve to complain that I didn't send him an invite to my 21'st birthday party. I should have said "I thought you would be glad it didn't "COST YOU ANYTHING" but I didn't have the nerve at the time. Now I just feel sorry for the pathetic hopeless drunk. Growing up hard did put some steel in my veins, know what I mean SteeleRose25?

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I was not a bully but was bullied a lot at school because I was usually the smallest in the class, an all boys technical school. Some of the worst were the teachers, they definitely came from the bottom of the barrel. This varies from school to school. It is true, boys that start school early usually leave school early. Size really does matter in the class room and on the sports field.

Not at all.. I was picked on, as much as any.. though I fought back, when I could make it a case against 3-5 opponents... so.. Not a Bully.

My email is JacobYarbrough@comcast.net.
If i was to a an article on such a subject I would like to see both sides~!

I never was a bully. However I have been bullied all my life~!

I was never a bully. But I defended anybody that was bullied in school. Thing is I was one of the smallest , skiniest kids in grammer school. one time I witnessed in studyhall a guy, my age , cutting the hair , of a younger student in front of him. I confronted him, even though he was bigger than me (at least 40 lbs) he took a swing at me , which I ducked , I head butted him and in 30 seconds had him on the floor as the teacher pulled me off him. He never messed with anybody after that.

i was for a while to take the pain i was getting from the kids and i took it out on them and that's the only way i survived with out being taked out by the pain so i was a bully and i think i still am

This is girl who was really mean to me, I decided to stand up to myself and i guess it counts as me being a bully... I tried my hardest every single day to do better than her and be stronger but in the end, and now do I realize I went to far to the point where I was now the bully. Every time she confronted me I just shot right back at her more and more. I can understand how she feels, cause I was in that situation. I hate Being a bully and hopefully that's the last time I ever make that mistake.

Once,twice or three times in a year media channels like CNN addresses the bullying issue. But have they done anything to actually prevent it? I think not except suggesting the same old " tell an adult about it" when we know most adults dont listen enough to understand what a child is going through. When Oprah is in the mood or when run out of hot topics, she does a show about it and claim she was also bullied in school( that we will never know). It hurts that they pretend to care about us when all they want is families to tune in and increase their TRP ratings.

I admit to doing it, but I was bullied as well.

I was bullied my entire life. Still a being bullied to. I know that it hurts badly and I will always be scared for it.

Got bullied.. I wish it was the other way around though...

It was more a case of getting bullied both physically & mentally I am now a retired man with very low confidence & never made anything of my life thanks to those ill feeling B+++++++

At least its easier to try to forget it or minimize the everyday memory about it after you retire than when you are young.

Nope not me, I did help a lot of ppl tho

i was once ut unfortunately i aint an american or neither am i from the US

Did it happen in UK? I have heard a lot of cases in UK too although I am certain it is there in Europe too even though media exposure about it is hardly there. Of course Asia has its share too but its comparatively less I feel than other continents.

I must have been a bully as an adult, but they call it competitive at work. As a child i was bullied but it seamed natural at the time. I still think its a part of someones personal growth as long as its not a extremme kick in the face.

I was a bully in the 1st grade i used to bully a boy and i guess because he was different and i also bullied someone in the 2nd grade because i was a follower then and everyone bullied her but sometimes people would bully her so bad that i would have to excuse myself or think they are just going too far but now since im mature enough i think that its wrong to bully someone just because you feel they are lower than you or you want to bring people down because you are down because today people out here are committing suicide over it or make them want to do crazy things like kill that person or someone related to them and i just highly disagree.

FACT: All bullies are faceless cowards that suffer from low self-esteem and feed from the weak.FACT

No, but I been bullied all my life and it still hurts today to think about being bully by guys you thought was cute and turn out to be jerks.

nope

Nope, but I can tell you what it was like to be bullied being the quiet girl. Then when they met me as an adult said they thought that I was the one who was stuck up?? They will never admit their bad behavior even with age.

No, i used to get bullied and my head flushed in the school toilets often

Not a bully but I was bullied in all elementary school so now im in middle no more of dat for me

No! I was the one that got bullied!

yes me too i was i bully ill help with cnn

I was a bully when I was very young, but it pretty much stopped by the time i got into 3rd or 4rth grade. Don't really know why I was or why I stopped...???

No I was not not a bully but was bullied at high school etc, but back home when going back for holidays I bullied everyone else in sight for a fact even to a point punching a guy on moterbike for overtaking my car! he he! Everyone is a bully in my world reason being the minute you wake up, one is consuming some type of energy to using natural resources to what not better or more than the person in poverty below you! My simple reason for a typical bully in my world just bully back ``home`` I don't know, I couldn't live with myself not being a bully, now I am not saying go bully the poor pedestrain in your land cruiser 4X4 but pick something equal or in your mind in equal to your situation & bully them back home dont bother in US or UK, in US one can get shot and in UK one can get knifed very easily, being lived in both countries.

No. I never bullied anyone. I was bullied a lot though. Really painful to talk about though.

Yes to answer your question I was very bullied for much of my schooling and it had a huge impact on my life as a child and as an adult. I would be more than happy to give you an interview. My phone number is 5856784075
What are you going to do with the information? Just curious.
debbie

Sorry, no but if you need a child victim story told by the child now adult, I'm here.<br />
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In 2nd grade I was the victim of a girl bully, she would hurt me when the teacher wasn't looking. Odd enough we were in the same class again in 5th grade and it started all over again. Same situation.As a child, I allowed this girl to brutalize me, punch, hit, scratch and kick me and I never told the teacher, as an adult I understand why.

I bullied my bullies yeah! Because I don't let stuff slide as easy in my mind I was fighting for the side of was right.

after i read this my first thought was, "of course i wasn't a bully, i knew how it felt" but when i really think back i remember judging and stereotyping classmates in elementary school, which was clearly wrong. so i guess i was a bully, even if it wasn't in the same way i was bullied.

No way,, but I was bullied.

Whats a bully arsineh? lmao ask ashley h. at cnn if champ is a bully. :^)

Apples suck.

They are very good for you

I was bullied....but I studied boxing and was an frequent street fighter...never got my *** kicked. And nobody ever challenged me more than once! Now I carry a .45 in my panties! :-0

No. I'm not sure I even know what bullying is

I was 99lb , and not even 5 feet tall when I started high school , in a fairly large town ,
the school was about 3000 kids , all kinds , black , white , Hispanics , others
I was never bullied , maybe got into a couple of small fights , but never bullied ,
I do not understand these people who cry about it ,
I mean everybody was bigger than I was , even the girls , and nobody ever touched me
how is this I do not know , but , that is how it was
so parents teach you kids self pride , so they know how to be strong ,
so they are themselves not this , video game , cry baby ,
and don't even get me started on the internet bulling **** , ever heard of the
off switch

If u were ever bullied , u would'nt be writing all this. u would know how it feels. don't say it does'nt happen to other people, it's a real problem. I was bullied in middle school, I know first hand.

Thats you it all depends on the individual. It has very little to do with parents teaching their child self pride, because even the the most pride filled, confident, nicest, people can get bullied. It's a society outblast. Also cyberbulling is not just as easy as pushing the off buttin. tech. Now can hack into computers, ipods, phones and can honestly ruin a life. There is a case where a person is beening cyber bullied and can lose ther home, children, family, careers ( not just a job but a career), etc. it's not just a game or a matter of pride it can be very serious. Leading to death, rape, kidnapping, trafficking, anything.You have been fortunate not to be bullied but that has very little to do with parenting.

You can't get inside erotic777's mind epsgt. I know how actually being bullied feels and I'm not "crying" about it. I also know first hand and agree with erotic777's point of view. A LOT of people were bullied and got along in life just fine, these days, it seems like an excuse to whine and cry and play victim. Especially (don't get me started on it either) when it comes to "internet bullying". Yes, cyberbullying is as easy as pushing the off button. The explained, is being harassed and such, not bullied.

... You don't understand . People can tear you apart with their words. To the point you believe it. They will make fun of your hair, eyes, looks, face, friends, height, weight, family, personality, hobbies.. Everything. And your anger from it excites them so they continue to make fun of you. You believe it, start trying to be who they want you to be, your friends will get sick of them making fun of them to and start making fun of you. You'll do drugs to get away from it.. Self harm.. Internet bullying? They can do even worse, saying nasty, nasty things but there isn't anything you can do. You can't just 'turn it off' they will follow you. The words will scar you and you will want to know what they are continuing to say about you. Log on just to know what's going on and their hurtful words get to you. You'll fear it, change, hurt yourself, and your family. Attempt suicide. . You wouldn't know since you've never been bullied..

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i was once a bully because i was jealous of another girls self confidence

I wasn't necessarily a bully but I also wasn't always the nicest person I could be. There are instances where I behaved in a manner I am not proud of. I was mean or laughed at people to appear "cool" - made fun of others or laughed at them behind thier back. All really uncool behavior that I hope to teach my children better.

I was not a bully but was bullied mercilessly. I was so bad I had to see a psychiatrist or be expelled from school because I was ready to snap. Of course this was in the 80's when school shootings etc. were unheard of.

I was bullied almost constantly even though I was well liked by some of the leaders of the sports teams. I was 4'11" in 9th grade. But some of the biggest guys were my protectors. Luckily, I was smart and could help them with homework and stuff.

I was a bully in junior high and high school. 1978 to 1983. I was never the "Alpha", lead bully - but I joined the group (most all of us) who vocally taunted a few boys that we thought were gay. Years later, I have come to understand that I bullied out of fear - I was younger than the rest of my class, I was bullied a bit myself, and I thought that it was necessary for me to demonstrate that I was not weak or effeminate, different or gay, by being seen attacking (teasing, taunting) those who the group had decided were so. I was terrified that if I didn't join in the taunts, I would become the target of them - and I was still at an age where I believed that "being thought of as gay" was the same as "being gay", that a person's identity and value are defined by the "judgement" of his peers.

CNN is know for lieing not reporting. Asking to be interviewed as a Bully is asking to be made into a national laughing stalk so they can earn Nielsen ratings.
I strongly suggest all EPeeps ignore this request.

No. But was bullied for no reason. I hate bully's, there all spineless

You're being a bully..

Your being the bully. Obviously i hit a raw nerve. Bully's are full of pride and what i said to you upset you because the truth hurts.

Sharing a friendly caution is NOT being a bully. Everyone has their lunch money!
But Thank You so very much for reading my thoughts and sharing yours too.

*You're.

oops! Thank you O38OO2661677. Wow , I have learned so much today.........not

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No. I was infact captain of the class and made friends with people who didn't speak much. I am still friends with many of them today :)


Regards.

Yas i was once a bully and some times I still pick on people but I had some counciling done and i have changed Lots I think anyone can change

CNN liberal twisted communist media owned by Turd Turner who supports and promotes eugenics..... Ted Turner is on video recorded talking of reducing the world population from 7 billion to less than 1 billion.... he is part of builderburg and their secret plans.

CNN CEO was caught red hander telling CNN reporters to give away troop movements in Iraq for the protection of CNN world headquarters

Gee Ted was married to Hanoi Jane

I was never a bully, which is a good thing. I was one of the biggest kids going in to high school, and one of the smallest coming out.

I was bullied because of my sexuality and for not being cool enough for school.

CNN is a lying bully in and of itself..... it's a bullying news organization

I was always bullied but now i advocate against it to help others like me

I was a bully , without realising it, it was because I was so deeply insecure and angry inside, I was pointing anger inwards, outwards - sounds ridiculous but it can make a person stronger the victim - I just am left with guilt and shame!

no

I was never a bully myself but by the time high school came around..i hated going to school..kids are mean as hell..and they don't care who they hurt either. People said things to me every day..****. *****..mixed my last name with the word ***** and alot of stuff like that..it hurt like hell..by the time i was 16 I tried to kill myself b/c i couldn't take it anymore..and i dont get y people would want to hurt you when ur not doing anything to them u kno..and it doesn't help so many people lie

I so agree..and adults always say big the bigger person..but darn it being the bigger person isn't always easy

Why Ep doesn't has apps in IPhone. I like EP because it makes me write a lot. I can improve my writing skills through this web site.

In high school I got into many fights do to differences like my bully like to make stuff up and spread rumors and lies about me so I confront them face to face I would assault them physically I never felt bad beating them up it just that words hurt to you know and they learned from me that talk Is cheap. And from there on out people never messed with me in high school sure I was wrong what I did and I was punished for that.but sometimes you need show them who's boss and who isn't ..

FACT! all bullies were bullied at some point it's a conditioned aquired behaviour, they may not even be aware they were bullied. What surprises me is that despite this being a request for bullies to come forward so many people feel the need to declare they were not a bully.... why?

They are just faceless cowards that hide and feed on the weak that's why.

CNN is a lying bully in and of itself..... it's a bullying news organization

they lie to all the people all the time.... you can not trust them

@Jordan bullies aren't faceless cowards, they are people we know and who should look out for us.. or at the very least just allow us to get on with life.... because they can exercise power over another ... they do...

@messenger I both agree and disagree with you.... Yes CNN have a slanted view of the World, we all do. Yes they have a responsibility to report the news in an even and non prejudicial way... BUT we know from what angle they are reporting so if you take anything they say and account for their slant thenthere is the truth.
A good current example is the reporting in the Western press that people are regularly eating their kids in North Korea...

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In elementary school, I did everything I could to avoid people. I felt out of place. I skipped about 50% of elementary school. I found it easy to skip out of the classroom, I did the work. I would do the class assignments at home predicting what the assignments were. I spent many hours just standing in a little thicket of woods or walking a fenceline. In my stupid kid mind, I thought that the reason it was so easy is because that’s what they wanted. I was an easy and frequent target for kids. One teacher asked me why I didn't fight back, I was bigger than most kids even a grade or two older. So I did, for a while, I went a little overboard and actually sought out the tough acting kids. You would think someone would have taught me a lesson, at least once. The main motivation for stopping(at least dramatically slowing) was the unwanted notoriety. I wonder how many bullies may have been motivated for reasons beyond the obvious. I was motivated by a teacher.

nope, i was the bullied type from grade school to highschool and it was a sad, anxious and hard experience...i can still feel its effects on me though i'm now on my 30's.

well i personally am a bystander but i tend to bully the bullies