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It Really Was A Fairytale Moment

I moved to Savannah GA to be near my sister who was getting more and more pregnant and was being stationed with her husband here at HAAF. I wanted to be near her and my niece. I never thought I would date a soldier and certainly had no plans to date anyone at the time. I attended a Fallen Ranger Memorial with her when she was 9 months along because my brother-in-law was in the ceremony and had invited me, but more so just in case she went into labor! There had to have been at least a hundred Rangers in the memorial service, but one caught my eye. He looked so handsome standing there in his uniform, all serious, off to the side. I just couldn't stop looking at this guy. I  got butterflys just looking at him and I'd never even met him. I didn't have the guts to go talk to him afterwards, I mean, what would I even say?? So I just hoped I might run into him (yeah, right, there's a ton of these guys all dressed the exact same running around). I didn't even know if my brother-in-law knew this guy.

So we walked back to my brother's office to warm up and wait for him to be cleared to leave for the day.  His bosses came in, I was introduced...I just couldn't get that one particular soldier out of my head. Then, out of no where, that very man I couldn't take my eyes off of comes walking right in to the little room, quite a ways away from where I had first seen him! I was shocked and excited. My brother introduced us, and I was giddy and ridiculous. He didn't seem to even care that I was there, but was really friendly. Then, he left, and I thought I'd blown it. I drove back to my sister's and didn't understand why I was so bummed about a guy I didn't even know! Why did I care so much that he didn't seem interested? I just didn't get these feelings. But, I told myself I would just have my sister talk to her husband about him to see if I could maybe meet him again or something - I didn't really have a plan. So I went out to lunch with my sister shortly after, her husband went home for a nap. I started describing this guy to her, she didn't remember meeting him but said she wanted to call her husband  to try and get the ball rolling. As she got out her phone to do that, she was getting a call from her husband.  Before she could say anything, her husband was asking her if I remembered meeting a guy who was interested in me and would like to get my number. It was the guy! I could not believe it. Things like that just do not happen to me. Ever.

It turns out he had asked my brother's boss to ask my brother to ask me if I would be interested and to give me his number. So, I contacted him that same day and we went out that very night. We have been together (almost) every single day since. The week they were gone all day every day doing training exercises, he came over at 3 and 4 am every night just to sleep next to me for a few hours before being back at it again. He took me out on weekends when all he probably wanted to do was sleep. We spent Christmas together, just the 2 of us, baking cookies and watching movies. We spent new years eve together sick with strep throat. He had to work on my birthday, but spent what he could with me and made it special by telling me he really did love me for the first time. He stayed in town for his block leave just to spend time with me and introduce me to his grandparents who came to visit before deployment. We started off as "friends",  neither of us wanted to rush into dating. We had both been hurt really badly in our previous relationship.

As a woman, I knew I loved him the moment I saw him. But becoming friends first is what made us so strong. I remember how freaking excited I was the very first time he introduced me as his girlfriend. I was elated the first time he told me he loved me. Just the other day, he told me he had fallen in love with me. Today, he deployed to Afghanistan. I feel empty already. I don't know how I'm going to get through these next months, but I know that I will. For him. I support my soldier in everything he does and I will be here to love him and support him the day he gets back and hopefully for the rest of my life. This is not the life I ever thought I'd have, but I would not change it for anything in the world!
mbrooksg mbrooksg 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2012

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I love this story! Just stick by his side girl :)

Loved your story! My boyfriend has been deployed for almost three months. The minute he left I felt like he had taken my heart with him! I definitely agree with you on having the life of a military girlfriend, I didn't see it coming either. I actually met my soldier in high school and I kept trying to push him away because I didn't want to have that kind of life, look where I'm at ha. But I wouldn't change it for the world (:

well nick is originally stationed in alaska and i live in michigan...he may be going back there once he gets back from afghanistan but i guess words been goin around that he could get stationed in Italy or Germany :(( but im trying not to dwell on that and deal with things as the happen...if he does go back to alaska he wants me to go out there...i knoww its kinda selfish cuz he really wants to go to italy but i would really really prefer it if he was in alaska :/ and yeaa i know how you feel about finding this sight. When he first left i thought i would have no one to talk to cuz none of my friends have ever been through anything like this but reading other peoples stories on here has really helped me feel like im not alone :))

Wow, we're kinda in the same situation ha. My boyfriend wants to be stationed in Italy after his deployment..which I'm a little unsure of and trust me it drives me nuts thinking about it as well. My friends don't understand what I'm going through either, I get the same reaction from everyone "I dont know how you do it." or this is my favorite one "Your just crazy."

Thank you so much! I love that I found this site...I have no one here to talk to really because it's such a unique situation. Good luck with your deployment survival as well, and of course I'm always here to listen and talk too! Where are you guys stationed?

wow that is like the best story i have ever heard...good luck with the deployment and everything, my boyfriend is currently deployed to Afghanistan as well so i know how hard it is...if you ever need to talk or anything im here for ya :))