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"worlds Ugliest Woman" --- Stop Staring, Start Learning

She has been ridiculed, stared at in the street and called 'the world's ugliest woman' by insensitive cyber bullies.






Lizzie Velasquez says she can shrug off the hurtful comments about her looks as 'just words'.





Miss Velasquez, from Austin, Texas, was born without adipose tissue - meaning she has no body fat and, despite eating up to 60 small meals a day, remains at only 58lbs.


The rare condition still baffles doctors and is thought to affect just two other people worldwide. Miss Velazquez has now written a second book about her struggle to be accepted and hopes it will help others in a similar position.


In Be Beautiful, Be You the 23-year-old college senior shares advice on being unique, how to make and keep good friends and how to deal with bullying and negativity.



Speaking to Dr Drew Pinsky on Tuesday night about her experiences, Miss Velasquez said when cyber bullies first started attacking her online it was hard.



She told Dr Drew: 'I'm human... of course these things are going to hurt... (but) I'm not going to let those things define me.'

Eventually Miss Velasquez realised the people issuing the hurtful comments online were just cowards hiding behind a computer screen.

'At the end of the day, these are just words,' Miss Velasquez told Dr Drew. 'If they are so proud, then they should show their face.'




When asked how she deals with being constantly stared at in the street Miss Velasquez said: 'I'm starting to want to go up to these people and introduce myself or give them my card and say, "Hi, I'm Lizzie - maybe you should stop staring and start learning".'

Miss Velasquez also revealed she does not have any desire to look like a beautiful celebrity.

She said: 'I feel I'm really glad I don't look like the celebrities out there who are beautiful, because there are a lot of stereotypes attached to that.

'People think "she's so pretty, she must be really dumb". Since I don't look like that it's better because people can get to know the real me.'







This Girl has got it figured out... she defines herself!!!! Way to GO LIZZIE!!!!


Learn More About Lizzie Here:


http://www.aboutlizzie.com/

http://www.facebook.com/aboutlizzie

http://www.amazon.com/Be-Beautiful-You-Lizzie-Velasquez/dp/0764820796
Vivagalore Vivagalore 31-35, F 58 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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hi babe,
my name is SACH,
a studying actor and a damn good guy
please msg me/add me/ or read my stories and laugh away!
KINGKISSES XOXOXOXOXO

As for your story?
I LOVE THE STORY,
LOVE THE WOMAN,
AND LOVE THE SECURE STRENGTH
#FUCKINSECURESOCIETY-ITSJUSTWORDS....................

wonderful ..thanks for sharing :)

It really is the easiest thing in the world to bring people down. I really admire this young woman

Inspiring and humbling story, thankyou for sharing it. Recently in the uk we have had a young girl commit suicide because of cyberbullies. It makes me ashamed to be human

I don\'t think the message is to be ashamed, I think the message is be strong and still kind.

I think I am strong, and certainly protective of the vulnerable. My problem here is that with regard to cyberbullies I feel a sense of total uselessness. I am a 49 year old man operating in an online world where 9 year old kids would find my lack of knowledge risible.

Lmfao...I have just written a long pm to you saying how much I admire your profile and it won\'t let me send it lol. Point proven

Awh I\'m sorry I don\'t know why it won\'t let you send it. But it\'s the thought that counts so let me just say thank you!

Says your settings only allow communication from members of your circle.

Well said

Why thankyou. :-)

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Ugly? Oh go away! Yes, she has a facial complexion, but seriously, her body is 10 times better looking than mine.

She doesn't deserve that title, I bet there are uglier women around, because if this is the ugliest the human race can do, I'm in the top 10 too.

Funny, I think you\'re pretty.

Something about Lizzie? you can really see a person worth knowing in those eyes.

She is really gorgeous. I have a strong soul too.

Yep. So many people respond as far as the shell, quite forgetting that there\'s a person in there

My daughter works with a little girl that has a chromosome disorder. I can't quite remember what the disorder is called, but one of the side affects is that she can't gain weight. She's 8, but is about the size of a 5 year old and is bone thin like this woman. She is the most amazing little girl, that has this light about her being. There is just something about her that you really have to be a bad person not to feel happiness when she is around. People are mean with their stares and comments, but she seems oblivious about it and always keeps a smile on her face. It makes you wonder who really has the disability.

Wow, should kick the people that bully her, though I can't help but think, how and where does she eat and fit all that food in her tiny body?

<----wondered the same thing about the food. Also I know she needs immense amounts of calories but, her food selections worried me, its junk food, junk junk and more junk, even if you have to consume a lot of calories all the chemicals and additives in junk food can't be good for the body... and nutritionally dense food would still be a beneficial choice

That's a very good point, that thought ran through my mind too.

I feel like crying. Screw the people who put her down!

This woman is definitely to be admired. I think shes beautiful!

actually i've seen much worse at my county fair lol

Shame on those who have bullied her. I'd love for them to walk just one day in her shoes.

Me too!!

That is, like, my ideal woman.

I think she is more capable then other stereotype people who obsessed with the outer beauty rather than the inner one. I hate to see people being mean to people who are born with some kind of deficiency. Can't we just accept for the simple fact five fingers are never the same. Let us just be more humane and see their inner side which is far more compassionate than ours. Way to go Lizzie, in my books you are a true CHAMPION !!!

Why can't things just be fair, I wish everyone was the same unique, ugly, fat, and poor? Maybe that way we would all accept each other for exactly who they are. This world has pushed us to believe that being pretty is more to strive for then actually living. I think it's time we made a stand to uplift more people like Lizzie than people who look like Rihanna, Julia Roberts, Halle Berry, and Tyson Beckford. I like to see her on the front page of a magazine better yet be a model.

That's why I prefer being around people that don't look pretty and perfect...they're more real, know what I mean?

I am really sorry for her

She is truly amazing in my eyes...... Rock hard Lizzie

This is the second time I heard about her. I did want to know more. I can't remember where I read or watched something on her. I doubt it was youtube related since I use it for music. Theres so many questions I want to ask. Not just on an emotional level, but as well as scientific. Shes knocking it out the park being a college senior and calling out the internet bullies and stating exactly what it is and what they are.

That's one of many reasons I admire her. She's got more ganas (balls) than most people do!

Don't mind other people say or think, they bullied because they don't know how to be truth to their self, so stand up and inspire us more :)) Prove to them that you can do everything.

Wow...I can't imagine how tough is must be to have the condition she has. I don't mean emotionally, even though that must be tough as well. But physically it's crazy. She is probably weak and it said she eats 90 small meals a day! What? That's crazy...

8000 calories to maintain her 60 lbs...that's something else isn't it?

I'm inspired.XOXO

Now this isn't just about Lizzie, but I've been friends with someone that to everyone else, wasn't attractive, but she was to me, which is why I became friends with her. She was quite a bit older than me, and was a thalamide (miscarriage drug) baby, meaning this lady was seriously deformed, but the things she learned how to do anyway would put any ablebodied person (myself included) to shame. Her arms were shorter than average, her fingers did not bend, and she had no toes, which makes walking very difficult, if not impossible. Yet she walked...not far, not fast, but she walked. She also took wonderful pictures, sculpted, played accordian, and had a great voice! She was one of those ones who constantly went to school, and I admired the hell out of her. I know some "pretty people" who if they were suddenly not so "pretty" anymore...they wouldn't attempt half the stuff she learned to do. Might I also mention, she was one HELLL of a pool player!

Your friend sounds like she's quite accomplished. It sounds like once she figured out how to compensate for her shorter arms etc...The proverbial sky is the limit for her. It amazing how some people adapt and overcome what some would call liabilities. It's people like your friend and Lizzie that become the role models for many young people.

I agree, which is why I was so honored to have her as a friend for a few years. I have a turtle she scuplted for me, gave it to me when I was 19. Never mind my ipod or my nook, if someone destroyed my TURTLE, I'd be really, really p*ssed!! That's a special turtle, made by a very special person! :-)

She's not ugly at all! Those people who stare are probablly uncomfortable with themselves, and I'm going to look up that disease, so I'll know more about it, and how it affects her. Plus, the "ugly" people are usually the most fascinating.

And there are only 3 people in the world with it...wow. She's a brave, strong woman, that's what I think!!

This is a nice story...She should be proud of who she is....she should audition for a part on the Walking Dead!

er harsh?

It would be easy for her to hide at home and feel sorry for herself.
She is a lot stronger , mentally and morally than many people I know.

I think she's actually kinda pretty myself

I noticed she has lots of nice features, like her hair is gorgeous, and so's her smile!

It's hard to believe that someone labeled this young lady the "ugliest woman in the world". The problem with society is that some people think because your outer appearance differs from most people that it automatically makes you ugly. It's mean and cruel to call this young lady the "ugliest woman" and to stare at her in public. She's not ugly, she just has a genetic condition that affects her outward appearance.

I think that the biggest problem with society today is intolerance. The moment somebody or something is not how they want it they ridicule it. This sucks. People are beautiful no matter what they look like or what others think. Nothing in life is permanent and outer beauty fades very quickly. Go Girl, don't let them get you down

I applaud this young lady. She is not afraid to stand up and be herself. Being yourself IS beautiful and so is she.

Well, speaking as THE TRULY UGLIEST WOMAN IN THE WORLD, I believe that everyone of sound mind recognize that people say that to just be mean. Actually, I am jealous. I wish I could have a disease that eliminates all of my body fat. I have tried everything not to be hideous of physique, all to no avail. People have come up to me all of my long life and told me to my face and in a variety of venues just how ugly I am. Seriously, every standard of beauty there is, I am the exact opposite. This woman who has something that is genetic and something she cannot do anything about, is far from ugly. She is stunning and was the cutest little girl! At the end of the day, she will be fine, because she has something most women only fantasize about...no worries about being fat! I pray for her a great life and to achieve great things!

I think maybe you are missing part of the point ... Don't measure yourself with the rulers of others <---- you won't ever find that you add up.... Define yourself by your merits not the words of others !

I am not missing any of the point. I am saying that she is far from the ugliest person in the world, who is blessed with an abundance of merits. As for me, well, I wish I could find some. But THAT is beside the point. I should never have posted here.

I'm sure you're not ugly either. What matters is...do you like the person you are inside? Cause if you like that person, then who gives a d*mn about what others think about what the package is wrapped in!

My dear Pebbles, don't be so sure... I have many years of living and have been given enough evidence to augment my visual experience in the mirror. I guess it really doesn't matter. I don't think people like to face the facts of what life is like when you don't make the aesthetic grade in this life. The fact is, regardless of your self image, it is often a very lonely existence. I tried very hard to live a full life, but it was to no avail. But, I have made it for 59 years. You get to look at the fact that maybe when you pass on to the other side, it will be better. I kinda just wait for a time when I will no longer be burdened with the feeling or need to be loved. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to conquer that problem. Maybe someday...

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I think its truly terrible what the world has come to, Lizzie is a beautiful person where it counts the most. There are so many people out there who think they are better than everyone else. Those are the truly ugly people. Those people who stare and poke at others that are different are the ugliest people out there.

People like to speak first and think later. No she is not a mainstream conventional beauty. She is a complete person. She has managed to take the insults that have been hurled at her and turned it into something so much better. She has an inner beauty that radiates and touches lives around her.

In my opinion, she's not ugly. Calling someone "The world's ugliest woman" is disgusting. People are such judgemental pr!cks. People need to stop staring, and they need to LEARN. Learn about why some people look different. I have a physical disability, I get stared at all the time, I know how horrible it feels, I feel so sorry for that woman. She's human, she's ordinary, she just has a physical problem, people need to shut the fukk up and stop placing sick labels on innocent people who don't deserve torment like that.

Indeed! Thank you for saying it as it is!

I'm so glad you posted this. I'm listening to the video as I type. I always try to seek out the loaners at parties and events just to find out their story. Sometimes their story is almost as beautiful as Lizzie's.

Okay, lets be honest here. I'm sure Miss Velasquez is a nice enough person. Perhaps she's even one of those rare people who misfortune has made exceptionally wise and empathic. That said describing her as "really ugly" isn't what i'd call inaccurate. Beauty is not on the inside. Character, compassion, intelligence... those are on the inside, but they're not going to help you get a date like beauty will. I think we'd all do a lot better if he had less "inspiration" and more realism. Life isn't fair and your imaginary friend Jesus isn't going to be coming down from the sky to help Miss Velasquez.

I don't think that is the message ... And in fact Lizzie herself says she is glad to not be a beautiful celebrity because her looks have made it so that her friendships are based on getting to know and like her, not just based on how she looks.

Uh huh. Well reality ain't pretty, babe, and I'm guessing you aren't winning any prizes either. The fact of the matter is that no guy is going to date Ms. Velasquez unless he's blind. It doesn't matter if she's the most wonderful girl in the world personality-wise. Could there be guys that make friends with her? Sure. Could there be guys that admire her? Sure. Are they going to want to kiss and cuddle and screw and all that good stuff. Nope.

You do realize that your perspective is a bit skewed because you are looking at only what the cultural norms are and not the outliers. Look up people who worked the sideshow circuit such as Grace McDaniels aka 'The Mule Faced Woman' who was also called the ugliest woman alive, I might add. Lots of these ladies ended up married to so-called normal guys and had kids. There are men and women who fall in love with people outside of the norm for all sorts of reasons. Human beings are a diverse lot, thank goodness.

Yes, I suppose that out of the billions of people on this planet there is bound to be someone who would be willing to have a romantic relationship with Ms. Velasquez. But my point is that to call her beautiful is nonsense. I grasp that there have been many standards of beauty over the ages, but come on. Can you think of one culture where she would have been anything remotely resembling the ideal? Can you think of any man you've ever met who would want to date her? The fact is humans are predisposed to seek out healthy, fertile and youthful partners. Her appearance is none of these. I don't understand why woman can't just accept that some of you really are just plain ugly.

"Can you think of one culture where she would have been anything remotely resembling the ideal?" Honestly, no and I am not arguing that she is or should be considered physically attractive to anyone, I was merely responding to the 'no one would ever date her' part of your comment. "I don't understand why woman can't just accept that some of you really are just plain ugly." I agree that many people want to change the perception of the word ugly because of the stigma attached to the word that often relegates a person to subhuman status through no real fault of their own. Personally, I don't think a human's worth should hinge on their sexual desirability, and it's rather sad that we still live in a world that promotes such nonsense.

Well I think democratic capitalism allows people to be valued for whatever they can bring to the table as opposed to just their looks. I could see Ms. Velasquez being successful in any number of ways, and could even get her illness to work for her by playing the sympathy/inspirational card. All i'm asking for is that people start looking at the world realistically instead of rose colored glasses. A society run on BS doesn't just delude people, it ultimately causes their downfall.

Look past the culural norms! Saying no guy will go out with her unless he's blind...that's saying all men are shallow and self centered, and I'm sure there are some EP men who'd take offense to that! Look passed what the newspapers, the internet, and television tells you is supposed to be beautiful, and you'll see nice wrapping paper ...with a very hollow box inside. I don't want the fukking wrapping paper, I want the genuine gift. Learn to look outside the box.

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YES. This girl has got it spot on!

lizzie u r an inspiration for me.. i too had my share of humiliation n hurtful comments of so called perfect ppl..bcoz i m bald..n a 30 yr old female..my bf has left me, he was ashamed to introduce me to his frns n his family, whnevr i meet new ppl they stare at my bald scalp rather thn my face,ppl make fun of me behind my back,they share funny jokes..
but to all those perfect ppl..yes i m not perfect.. but i m perfect enough to love and respect others for who they are not for how they look...screw u all perfects.
love u lizzie

hi kate

Don't understand why do people run behind looks.. its really sad...

I've always found bald women to be exotic and beautiful. I think a shaved head enhances the face. I will read your stories and see how you deal with this. I'm a man, I'm old and bald and use to shave my head for convenience. I always wear a hat or a cap. Have you considered hats? My wife always wears a hat. How about scarves or a cape with a hood to add to your exotic beauty? Best wishes. William

Thanks william fo ryour wishes,
now i dont bother abt it any more, wll let u know more with my stories.

ANd what the eff is wrong with a bald woman? Nothing as far as I see. I'm sorry your ex was so shallow.

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i dont like d caption " worlds ugliest women" she is a beautiful women like any other girl... love u lizzie

Uhhh yeah except that is the title she uses because her bullies used to call her that...

people say beauty is from the inside but even this one young 19yr that had so much acne says it but she covers up her face with so much make up and is modeling now, it makes me mad how she would say that but not show her blemishes and many girls judge because society has raised them to think and look a certain way. this is a good story and i love it people should be more compassionate.

abs'lutely brilliant! thanks fo' sharin'...

Great story, it's true people need to stop staring and start LEARNING.

Great story. Thanks, Dente!

I saw this online somewhere else yesterday. Amazing story. It forces you to look at your own judgmental attitudes.

I got quite upset listening to what this young lady has had to put with (and no doubt unfortunately still does) ...........I think she's a little ray of sunshine and if she was my friend she would enrich my life so much, I think we'd laugh daily........if she could put up with me ~ haha
Thanks for sharing this.......I just hope this story reaches those who should see it the most and I hope that they are deeply affected by it !

The folks who laugh and pass remarks should just know that every single one of them are only one serious disease or car crash away from looking very different too.... What a body looks like is no more important then a shirt we wear cause our bodies are just the outfit our spirit wears....Treat it good but don't get too attached to the "wrinkle free newness" People, just like clothes age and wear out.....The spirit in a person is immortal...
I think this girl's resilience is GORGEOUS! It shines thru and anyone who can see past the superficial crap could see it in everything about her...

She actually talks about that quite a bit in a few different places, that while it has been hard to deal with, she feels like she has a better quality of friends and she knows that her relationships with people aren't superficial, people like her for "her"

She is an AWESOME person and anyone would benefit from being her friend...This is a GREAT story to offer....

She is an inspiration to us all

I am hoping that the London 2012 Paralympics in the UK has helped a little bit with the negative attitudes that surround people that are different. Cheering on people for what they do, rather than being negative and disrespectful.

*goose bumps*. What an truly amazing girl. She's here to teach. :)

It's official.

i read this myself yesterday on yahoo.it was inspiring. i've never cared about looks but i was amazed about how much this woman has done. if i were in her place i'd be far worse, i probably wouldn't go out of the house. it made me sick when people told her to kill herself, shes got a condition, doesn't make her any less human.

you never cared about looks but if you looked like her you wouldn't leave your housse?

i'd be a different person if i was her. i probably wouldn't be able to handle the way people treated me like she has.

So if you were her, YOU would care about looks? But since you are not her, you don't?

This rocks......All the people who critisise others need to learn from this

this should seriously be your featured story. I think everyone should read it.

that chick is SWIMMING! Go Lizzie! swimming harder than most can say. Good post. Seriously. This is something everyone should read and take in.

She's a swimmer and that is exactly why she is here. (thank you for getting exactly what this post is about)

Honestly, it couldnt be more clear to me.

She sounds like an amazing young woman. What a brave and inspirational spirit. Thank you for sharing this story.

Wow - just wow.

She's brave and strong even after all the crap she's been through. I admire her. And I think her eyes look cool :)

Thank you for exposing me to this. I'm at a stage where I just feel like everyone does the same to me. I think her perspective will definitely lift me up. Thanks for that.

I've seen her interviewed. She's a bright, witty girl with a SUPER attitude. I'd pay to see her hand someone a card and say, "Hi, I'm Lizzie - maybe you should stop staring and start learning" Now if anyone had a right to complain about how she's being treated, it's her....but she doesn't. Perspective is everything :-)

couldn't agree more.

I'm going to go buy her book.

I think it would be a GREAT read, I really do.

@trust she has two books now!!!

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Wow. That's such a touching story. Good for you Lizzie! I hate when people bully other just because they're diffrent and that's not right.

She is Brilliant

:-)