What Social Life?

"I'm a loner, Dottie...a rebel."

I've never really had much of a social life.  I've always had just a handful of friends, but each of them were close.  I used to go to the clubs all the time when I was younger and party, making many acquaintances that I would hang out with only when in the clubs.  I had a lot of online friends at one point, but slowly parted ways as the web grew larger, and options became more plentiful.  For the past eight years or so, I've been pretty much a loner.  I have one best friend, Kevin.  He's also my only friend.  My girlfriend was a friend for a long time but she's now upgraded to girlfriend.  We don't really go out much, her friends are the only other people I know, but am not really friends with, save a few people.  But still, they are not mine.  They're my friends by proxy.  People I work with are work friends, whom I do not hang with outside of work.  I'm not even sure what other early 30 year olds do in their social life if they're laid back, relaxed, non-drinking (much), like me.  I'm not sure what to do to improve my social life, or if I really even want to.  I can't handle keeping up with a lot of people who want to call and talk all the time, taking away from "me" time, and my family time.  Oh well, whatever will be will be.  I'm fine how my life is...but it would be nice to have a few peeps on my side, especially here around town.

vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 1 Response Jul 15, 2008

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And you sound just like me. I've had very few friends in my life. When someone is trying to get closer to me, to make bonds with me, I somehow avoid them unconsciously, but now I'm aware of what's going on. My only true friends have been online ones. I even fell in love with a girl through a 17 inches screen, I think I'm stil hooked on this girl. I think it's the way you are; you are likely to be alone, to get your own space. I'm like that, I think I'm a loner because I want to be a loner. it's hard sometimes but I guess I should stop dwelling on this thinking it's a bad thing.

Anyway ... this was writen by you long time ago, maybe and I hope you have made it to have a nice social life now. I'm just trying to figure out mine.