I Lost My Soul Mate

I am here because I need help.  My husband has been cheating on me for two years now.  He started sleeping with his chiropractor.  We had been married for 24 years and I found out when I set up an appt. to have a massage while he was having his appt. with "his chiropractor."  He got furious that I would do that without checking with him.  He started lying about where he was and I finally figured it out.  In Sept. 2007 he asked me to move out so he could have "some space."  I did, we went to marriage counseling.  Then he begged me to move home.  I did, we stopped the counseling (at his request) and nothing changed.  He kept lying and kept seeing her.  He swears that he is no longer seeing her but he is not the same person anymore.  I just want to divorce him and get on with my life.  My problem is that I am disabled.  I was thrown from a horse and shattered my shoulder and right arm.  I can no longer work on the computer for more than 30-45 minutes.  I need to for 8-9 hours.  So I will have to have alimony.  Unfortunately, he has quit his job.  I cannot file for divorce until he gets a job.    I don't know how much longer I can stand living with him.  He disappears usually on the weekends, says he  is going to the bank and I don't see him until he is 6:00 p.m.  Then he lies to me about where he has been.  I would love for him to move out but he says we can't afford for him to move out.  Interesting that it was not an issue when he "needed his space." 

Anyone have any suggestions?  Also how do you get rid of the anger and loneliness?