I have always been attracted to older men, I enjoy the stability and that maturity level along with many other perks. I am 20 years old and until a couple weeks ago the biggest age difference I had in a relationship was with a man who was 34; and that relationship did not go very far for many reasons.
About 10 days ago I met a man who is fifty year's old and we just had a bit of a connection; at the time because of the age difference we where strictly friends and we both where under the assumption that that was as far as it could ever go. I mean, his youngest child is older than me, and he is older than my mother and only a few years shy of my father.
Either way, the connection between us was undeniable so we started talking and getting to know each other. He is extremely successful, intelligent, passionate, wealthy and dedicated. He is a driven human being who's life is set for him so now he is dedicating his time to helping disabled children in the school system - he recently just finished writing a novel the subject. This man is everything I am looking for in a human being and More - but the fact of the matter is that he is 30 years older than me.
I am the one who first brought up sex - not in a suggestive matter - but in a silly way when I admittedly was flirting with him. The conversation kept growing and it was clear that our sexually chemistry was connecting as well.
We both realize that it has only been 10 days since we started talking but thing's just seem to keep progressing so quickly. He is leaving for San Diego for the week on business and I am finishing up exams so we decided to take some time to just think about things and decide what exactly is going on here. He asked me if realistically i would ever be able to introduce him to my family and friends as his partner; and I asked him the same about me as far as his children and family go. We both know that we are not close to that stage of a "relationship" but it's something that we need to think about before we do anything that we might regret.
My feeling's for this man are growing quickly and it sounds like his feelings for me are growing fast too. He feel's like it's unfair to me because he doesn't want to get to a point where he won't be able to satisfy me; or he is worried that he will get ill. I told him that these things could just as easily happen to me in my 20's.
I feel like I am jumping the gun writing this entry because the truth is it has been 10 day's... but this is all that is on my mind lately. I always take my relationships slow and give them time to grow but this situations requires some thought before we get our feet wet. Any words of wisdom or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
UPDATE: Ok - i wrote this entry a long time ago - and I still seem to be getting comments on it - So I thought I would update. Nothing ended up happening between this man and I. His daughter suddenly passed away and he obviously did not take that very well. He had a lot to deal with - his family, other children, himself.... He still wanted to persue a relationship but after every that happened the timing just wasn't right. And that is life. Since this post I have met - and enjoyed the company of a few more mature - men. I have not started any serious relationships with any of them - but I have learned that age is just a number. I do not choose my friends nor my lovers ba