Makes My Blood Boil!

Was once told that a transexual woman was not a real woman. By extension then a transexual man is not a real man.

It is an assumption. A phobia. Stereotyping at its worst. Yes and it is sexist.

i know who i am and i feel no different than any other women. i hurt and bleed and love and care just as they do.

What then defines a "real" woman or man? Anatomical parts only.

i do know that i react the same as other women react to many stimuli. Tell me i'm less than who i am and i'll slap your face. i realize that may be harsh, but that's how i feel.

i am who i am ... face it!



  Kenneth Cole featured a transgender woman in one of his fall ads. Thursday, August 21, 2008, (


  Spencer Morgan, Beautiful Woman, Thursday, August 28, 2008 (

Josie06 Josie06
56-60, F
8 Responses Mar 19, 2009

There's nothing I'd like more than to solve everyone's identity issues, but I'm afraid that's way beyond me. I can only tell you that a woman is not a man who's always wanted to be a woman and has radical surgery to resemble a woman. A woman is not a man who thinks he's a woman. Sorry, folks. A woman is simply a girl that's grown up. If you've never been a girl you can't be a woman, as much as you'd like to. <br />
We all adore women and recognize inn our hearts how wonderful they are. How many of us would give anything to be a woman, if only for an hour. I know I would. Being a man is something I can barely tolerate, and my envy of the female sex is boundless.<br />
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But I am a guy. No surgeon's rongeur is going to cut a woman out of my flesh and make me into something I am not. See, I want not mere "womanhood" but to have all the joys of girlhood. I want to be pretty, to dance delicately between innocence and wild abandon, while still being able to get into some of the clothes I wore at girl's summer camp. And no doctor's operation can give me that. So, since I can't be the girl I'd love to be, I am resolved to be the man I must be. I can still love and admire women, but as a frustrated woman myself, my appreciation of the female sex will be all the more deep, devoted and passionate. But I prefer not to degrade and delude myself into a sad actor who in bad faith pretends that he is who he can never be, and so turns himself into an ersatz woman. That is bad taste. Once in that predicament it becomes necessary to constantly solicit the support of the whole world, begging and conniving to have everyone agree that one is a bona fide woman. See? Without constantly being propped up that way, one tends to collapse into the uncomfortable realization that one is simply castrated, not actually female. It just can't be done like that.<br />
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I know I was deprived of something very special by having the misfortune to be born a guy instead of a beautiful girl, but I have the courage and good grace to accept it. I know that being a woman is no bed of roses, either, what with periods, childbirth and menopause, and it is hard to respect those of my own gender who would like to seize all the attractions of womanhood and sidestep the liabilities. <br />
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Sorry, fellas, you'll have to go that route without me. Good luck, though ...

Look, I'm an unreassigned transexual, though I hate that word actually, and there's no way you could label me as a real man!!! And they say I can never be a real woman either!! So, does that mean I can never be real??

The past makes us what we are now, BUT only to a degree.<br />
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The transsexual I mentioned is a woman in every sense of the description.<br />
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Had I known her before the treatment, it would have made no difference. I would see her as what she is NOW.

Thank you Meggi51. That's all anyone asks ... to be accepted as who they are.

Just thought about a transsexual who works in a local supermarket.......<br />
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She's lovely, really feminine, but cruel people have said some really nasty things about her.<br />
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I didn't know her before she had the treatment, but people who did have said things like, 'He's never a woman!'<br />
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Why can't people be accepted for who they are NOW?

I'm not gorgeous, Josie, but I know I'm a woman!

I dig it. <br />
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Plus I didn't know you could put pictures in stories... this opens up a whole world of twisted possibilities for me.

We may not all be gorgeous ... but we are women.