Really Tried !

I have had two long term relationships, both starting with pregnancy (not planned). I stayed in those relationships for the kids and tried to find "love". That never did happen. I have spent all of my retirement on getting custody of my boys, which I did. Neither of the two women wanted much in the relationship except that I was a "good catch". It never was "love". I had always put their interests first, to a fault. I guess I just learned not to be so co-dependent. I always liked to be the giver...to make others happy.

Now, at 44, single with two kids, I've given up on ever finding a true love. I have so much going on in my life between work, kids, home chores and such...I have no time to put into it. It also seems nowadays that a lot of women don't really care to be with a guy who is "tied down", ya know... a lot of baggage. I've been single for 5 years and have had one flippin date. I dunno...maybe I'm just a little stale.

There's so much more to this story...oh well...I said it. Now it's done. Time to find something a little more upbeat...right?
dadisgr8 dadisgr8
41-45, M
2 Responses Jul 17, 2010

I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone. Don't give up. I know it's hard. Here I'am at 44 starting all over. My husband of 10 years, passed away in August of 2013. But, you also have 2 great things in your life...your boys! Kids are a wonderful thing. I wish you all the best hun...

stories like you warn me of how hard it can be. I've experienced what it was like to get the short end of the stick even though you thought you were giving it your all. I hope you put time towards opening yourself to others, not to find someone but to show who you are as a person. It's the only way you will meet people who can be friends and hopefully more.