What Do Men Really Want

 Gentleman, get your key pads ready and let your fingers glide on the keys, speak your mind, divulge your most secret desires. Tell me what idiosyncrasies of a woman aboslutely drives you crazy, makes you fall onto your knees and be at her mercy.

What are the pitfalls? What part of her body do you love or hate the most? How do you like it best when she dresses? what's sophisticated sexy? or just plain trashy? Do most men like athletic build? What's your most erotic fantasy? Do you like a tigress or a lamb in bed? What characteristics does she have to possess (personality-wise and credentials) that makes your heart skip a beat?/ You realise she is a keeper. Whats the most memorable thing a woman ever said to you? What do you wish she would do more often or less? What trait do you find most irritating? what do you first notice about a woman? Is the body or face more important?

 Don't be shy, we will all be the beneficiaries of your contributions. Thank you Gentleman

umathena umathena
18-21, F
21 Responses Apr 11, 2007

honestly , i want a woman who make me her first periority, who can love me as im , with my advantages and disadvantages, i want a woman who give her my heart and mind without being afraid that i will have my heart broken. and in this case i will give this woman my soul before my body.

I want a woman that knows what she likes, she can be dominate or she can be submissive, but NOT undecided. She dresses herself to the occasion and companion, it may be stylish, it may be sexy, it may be slutty or it may be very conservative, but she dresses in a way that makes her feel good about herself and all that see her know because it radiates from her. In the bedroom she is sometimes lamb, sometimes tigress, but you never can be sure which it will be until you enter her lair. She's playful, she's emotional, but she's also unpredictable. It doesn't matter what her physical features are, she maximizes them to suit herself, but in doing so, she impresses and flatters her partner. She teases, she pleases and deserves to get pleasure given, returned in kind. Someone that is not rude, but also not afraid to speak her mind, that knows her opinions, thoughts and feelings count and doesn't hold back. She is just as ready to put her partner on a pedestal as she is to be placed on one.<br />
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I guess that will do for a start.

I am sorry to tell you Luci...Cosmo is load of crud...it's for the superficial posers who are gullible enough to buy loads of crap they don't need. Most of the advice on how to get a guy that is in that mag is urban myth. <br />
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You want to know what gets a guy's attention on a date? Show up. That's it...as long as you are there, he is thrilled. <br />
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You want to know how to make a guy love you forever? <br />
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Just be honest and listen. That's it. There is nothing more to it than that. <br />
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Want a dynamic super fantastic love life? <br />
Show up, be honest and listen all at the same time. It <br />
works wonders. <br />
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And now you know all the secrets. You didn't even need the next issue.<br />
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Peace.

I'm pretty young but I can tell you what I know so far about what I personally like in women. I want a girl who is intelligent enough to engage me in an interesting conversation yet one who would still be impressed by my own intelligence. I need someone who can keep up with and understand my witty sense of humor and sarcasm. Of course looks are important, I'm not going lie about that its definitely important because the attraction is needed to keep the relationship together but I believe most women can look beautiful if they tried, which means that outer beauty is dependent on other things to a degree, they can change from day to day and I notice when I like a girl enough I can see through any imperfections they might have and I only start to see the good in them, when I'm in a relationship I hardly bother to notice any other girls. My past girlfriends didn't seem to care much for long relationships and were kind of fickle. I can't stand that in a girl, I want to be with someone who wants to set up our relationship to last as long as possible. She would have to be low maintenance and independent but still show love, desire, faithfulness and affection often. Guys will completely over analyze and obsess every little thing a girl does or says I think that's common to all guys so if you like a guy or are in a relationship, especially a young one you need to be careful to not seem like you are putting the guy off because we are VERY easily intimidated. I don't care what kind of guy friends she has but it bothers me when she hangs out with one of them and doesn't think about me, both of my exes were like that and most guys automatically assume the worst, its in our blood (as would a girl in the same situation I would guess). But I would always give my girlfriends the benefit of the doubt in misunderstandings and would expect the same for her. Trust is at the base of any relationship. We guys like it when girls dress to impress, but there's no need to over do it. I'm just happy when my date dresses as though she had me in mind.<br />
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Can't think of much more to say. I hope this helps but a lot of it varies greatly from guy to guy so this is just my opinion.

I'm not sure that my or any other answer will help you, but since you asked...<BR><BR>""""What are the pitfalls? What part of her body do you love or hate the most? How do you like it best when she dresses? what's sophisticated sexy? or just plain trashy? Do most men like athletic build?""""<BR><BR>I have a thing for goth chicks, no doubt. A little on the demure side rather than slutty. Sure I like flesh as much as the next person, but some modesty will keep me keen.<BR>I probably don't have a particular preference in build, but I do like a little meat on the bones. Maybe even a touch chubby. I think such a thing (even superficially) ties into personality, and I'm less likely to be dealing with someone vain.<BR><BR>""""<BR>What's your most erotic fantasy? Do you like a tigress or a lamb in bed? What characteristics does she have to possess (personality-wise and credentials) that makes your heart skip a beat?/ You realise she is a keeper. """"<BR><BR>Both lamb/tigress. Honestly it's a pain in the *** initiating all the time. Personality wise... shy/reserved. Similar interests go without saying, but I don't want a clone either... someone with their own mind who can disagree with me if they have to. More important than that is the similar philosophical groundings... religion and views of the world, etc etc. No point me hooking up with a christian. Bonus points for: creativity, atheism, taste in music, being feisty, sense of humor, a little bit of self-doubt, curiousity. Cynicism. <BR>It's almost cliche to say 'I want someone intelligent'. And a lot of people say "I want someone intelligent" and use themselves as the benchmark... I'll settle for someone as intelligent as myself. The "need to be able to hold a conversation" with someone surely includes the other person not being too intelligent for me.<BR><BR><BR>""""Whats the most memorable thing a woman ever said to you?""""<BR><BR>I will never forget being told 'I want your ***'.<BR><BR>""""What do you wish she would do more often or less? What trait do you find most irritating? what do you first notice about a woman? Is the body or face more important?""""<BR><BR>Arrogance is annoying. Pretentiousness. Being put on the emotional roller-coaster. Note that I don't think all girls do this, just sometimes I've been subjected to it.<BR>What I first notice about a woman... silence or withdrawnness. attire.<BR>Being asked 'is the body or face more important' is difficult to answer without coming across as judgemental. I can't really put one over the other.

ok its different from everyone so im gonna tell u all of my decesions and answers. ok what drives me crazy and be at her mercy is when she wants to be in charge even when shes being romantic. i love every part of a womans body. and when she dresses i like it best when she dresses the way she wants to. sometimes i want her to dress for her and not for me. to me sophisticated sesxy is when she trys hard to please me even when she dosent have to. also when she shows that she respects her body and has a nice smile. i dont find her to ever be trashy....... i just may find her to be not appealing to me. by saying most guys like the athletic type would be a lie. theres an equal in that area. for me i like them the way they are. i just want them to be who they are and have a good time while with me. my most erotic fantasy is kinda hard to explain so im not gonna go into that one. ummm i like the tiger and lamb the same. but it depends on the moment. sometimes there may be times when u just want to have sex cause ur so horny but then there are also times when i just want to make passionate love. for me she has to be intelligent, fun to be with, herself thats a big plus for me, and generally the type that u would think about marrying. the most memorable thing a woman has ever said to me was, " I LOVE U AND WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH U." i wish she would tell me how she feels more and that she not keep so much from me. she can only be irratating when she complains alot and dosent suggest something. the first thing i notice about a woman is her eyes and her smile. to me the face is more important. i mean her body will only have to do something with it when were together for a while and we began to feel a lot colser to each other and even then it wont matter that much cause she will always be beautiful to me. <br />
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Tell me what idiosyncrasies of a woman aboslutely drives you crazy, makes you fall onto your knees and be at her mercy.<br />
When I feel appreciated....<br />
What are the pitfalls? <br />
In the door from working all day, and the first words are anything negative before hello.<br />
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What part of her body do you love or hate the most? <br />
Love: The belly, always have, it is the women's power center, it creates and grows life, and turns me on....flat or chubby...as long as it is soft and clean...<br />
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How do you like it best when she dresses? <br />
Dress with heels, so i can run my hands over the curves and take the panties off at dinner.<br />
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what's sophisticated sexy? <br />
For me it is intellectuality combined with playful, sensual mind banter...<br />
or just plain trashy?<br />
Only if it is in fun.<br />
Do most men like athletic build? <br />
I like curvey and soft, like Raquel Welch.<br />
What's your most erotic fantasy?<br />
I have lived it, only to be truthful, in my fantasy there is love between the three of us, two girls and I, the version i had was just experimental sex, but sooooooooo exciting at the time. I was asking too much.<br />
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Do you like a tigress or a lamb in bed?<br />
Both, sometimes i like to be ridden, sometimes i just want to **** you while you are doing the dishes and keep walkin by...true. (unless you ask to be finished off)<br />
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What characteristics does she have to possess (personality-wise and credentials) that makes your heart skip a beat?/ You realise she is a keeper. <br />
Education, sexual experience before me, great bantering skills, humorous.<br />
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Whats the most memorable thing a woman ever said to you? <br />
"i want to have your children, lets start now!"<br />
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What do you wish she would do more often or less? <br />
I wish she were less negative, and stronger regarding life in general, not get sucked into the world as it were but have the inner strength to know we can overcome all obsticals with strategy, planning, even faliure together if our eyes are open....YEAH! CHARGE! ****, sorry, got carried away by that one...<br />
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What trait do you find most irritating?<br />
thinking i can read your mind, if you want something done, and i dont do it, suck my ****. then tell me, " if you want more of this, get it done" .....just kidding, but i like motivation coaching techniques <br />
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what do you first notice about a woman? Is the body or face more important<br />
depends on how tight the clothes are. However the eyes have it first, then the voice and speech rythem....<br />
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Hope that helps.....<br />
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Look, I heard that my grandmother said men were easy, if they get a hardon, have sex with em, if they get hungry, feed em, if they get sad, tell em everything will be ok.<br />
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Dr Laura says, be sweet. I think that by itself speeks volumes....hear that ladies...

Copping out I see. If you really think about it, then you should more po'd over the questions asked...

Then you should be more peaved at the one who posed those questions. So do tell, how would you answer...

Beautiful feet make my knees buckle. The hands and feet are the meridans of our bodies to the universe and the feet above all, are the actual support of us on this earth. For those lovely women who are born with pretty feet, God bless you. For those who take their time in taking care of their feet, bless you too. Mind you, not to sound shallow, but the feet is the one part of the woman that can instantly deliver a blow to my being.<br />
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So feet are the most sensual part of the woman for me, the body part that I don't care for too much is probably, have to think hard, women are just lovely from head to toe, I would say hair is overrated. Yes, I do love style and how a women creates her style via her hair, but it is her eyes and confidence that make her, she could be bald or have Penelope Cruz hair, it is the woman behind the hair...<br />
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Now that style is mentioned, I just love it when a women echoes her inner being through her style via wardrobe. So sexy when she knows what cuts and colors do her justice. What to show off and what to keep a secret. Just picking clothes in the dark should not do it for you, each piece of garment must have purpose, even your undergarments, because you never know you may be in a beautiful natural situation where the evening progresses and you not only are looking great a top, but your undergarments or lack of can compliment the sexiness!<br />
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I personally love women of all shapes or sizes. Not too caught up on one type of build. What is more important is how the woman carries herself through her personal style. Sexy has no standard format or threshold, either you have it or you do not.<br />
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My erotic fantasy can only start with a woman that knows what she wants and wants to be with me. She sees me across the room and keeps giving me slight naughty looks then repositions herself so that I look around the room and try to look for her. Just when I think she has left, there she is again looking at me. The next time, out of no where I feel a body lightly brush up against me from behind and her scent is to die for. It is her! She gently nudges up my neck and whispers in my ear that she is in the mood for take out, but it has to be good. I assure her that I am the best take out in town and have no MSG and that she will NOT be hungry again in 2 hours! We get in her sports car where she purposely misses the stick shift and grabs the other rod that is in the car and in my pants! Oh and on top of everything, she drives like a sports car racer! We finally skid the car onto it's destination. I wait for her to open the car door for me. We walk hand in hand up to her penthouse, her leading the way of course. All this time, yes I have been checking out her feet, she had the most beautiful feet. Her open toed MBs showed off her well groomed toes. Those poor feet have been walking around all day and have no idea daddy is going to take such good care of them tonight... Dimmly lit place, smooth jazz playing in the background. My lady of tonight throws me on her couch and places her foot on my thigh. Suggesting to take off her lovely shoe, oh and entranced I do so, so gently, caressing every part of her beautiful ankle, arch and feet. Gently kissing her angelical feet... <br />
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Now, I am getting way to excited and if you wish for more of this part, email me...<br />
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I am liking more of the tigress in bed, but every now and then a lamb to lead.<br />
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When I find out a woman's mind is even just as or more sexy than her physical self, that drives me up the wall, she is a keeper.<br />
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The most memorable thing a woman has ever said to me, came from a girl that I met, we hit it off and talked about the world. Our mind and spirits connected and when it was time for our bodies to connect she grabbed my hand and told me, "I am not sure I can make love to you again, this whole night you have been devouring me as I you in a love fest of other realms."<br />
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Women should take care of their hands and feet more often.<br />
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The most irritating trait I feel women have is bagging on other women. What a waste of time. If that other woman is so bad, why are you talking about her so much...<br />
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Face or Body? I would say, I love to see the face first, it gives me a chance to see what she is made of. Body second, actually feet to be more specific.<br />
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Before I go, I do not wish to come across as superficial. Feet are just sensual to me, but the mind of a women is the sexiest organ. And when women are themselves and express themselves honestly and everything about them reflects who they really are, now THAT IS A WOMAN!!! And my heart will skip beats...<br />
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ditto here on the feet !!

Well I can only speak for myself, but here goes: physically I like women who are a little on the short side, say around 5'2", small waist, shapely butt, and proportionate breasts. long hair appeals to me and I prefer exotic looking features . Sexually, I guess I'd rather have a tigress than a cold fish, but ideally I'd like something in between because that's kind of where I'm at. <br />
Personality-wise, I really dig kindness for some reason. Also it's pretty hot if a woman is classy i.e. doesn't curse all the time, dresses appropriately. You know what, I just thought of someone who embodies what my idea of a wonderful woman is and that's Ann Curry from the Today show on NBC. She's kind of tall, but she's super-smart, super-sexy, and she seems really sweet. What else can you ask for really?

I seem to have no middle ground. She must be either a tigress who demands her own way, or asleep and helpless to keep me from getting my way with her. I like to lick the arch of her feet, and work my way up. I like to have her sit in a chair in a short skirt and let me look up her skirt from my place face-up on the floor. Then I like for her to tell me what to do, until I am able to make her finish, because in my world outside the house, I am the one that tells everyone else what they must do. Melting into submission behind closed doors is a great relief and a reliable (even this moment) turn-on. Thanks for demanding that I share my thoughts with you.

I love women who are openly sexual and enjoy being with more than one man at a time sexually. <br />
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I have a lover who enjoys putting on a show for me with other men. She lets met direct her in having sex with other men. It is so intimate!

THE WOMAN WHO WOULD DRIVE ME WILD WOULD BE ONE WHO I COULD TRUST MOST OF ALL. SHE WOULD HAVE TO HAVE ENOUGH INTELLIGENCE TO UNDERSTAND ME AND LOVE ME THROUGH ALL OF MY WEAKNESSES - AND IM NOT MEANING MESSING AROUND ON HER - I MEAN MY LITTLE OBSESSIVE QUIRKS AND WHEN I COME HOME FROM WORK UPSET MAYBE , AND KNOW HOW TO MAKE IT ALL GOOD AGAIN - O MY GOODNESS HOW I LONG FOR A WOMAN LIKE THIS. AND I WOULD GIVE 150 PERCENT OF ME TO HER - MIND BODY SOUL SPIRIT FINANCES - I WOULD GIVE HER ALL OF ME BECAUSE I AM MADLY IN LOVE WITH HER - INTELLIGENT HER :O)

All guys: Read an issue of Cosmopolitan and tell me if any of its true or not!!!!lol

I have been married 35yrs to a good faithful woman but, our sex lifenow is nonexistent which puts great strain on me personally> So i would say that great sex in a relationship is the glue that binds it all together.Advice to you..have the ability to think outside the box....little surprises...no panties when he least expects...take time to give him great love..try e/thing once & talk to him of your needs!

Simple, men want the same things a woman wants.... I really mean the same!!! Just find out HOW HE WANTS THAT EXPRESSED BY YOU .... AS FEMININE!!! NOT MASCULINE!!!! BE YOUR FEMININE...NOT MASCULINE, YOU R FEMININE IS WHAT IS SUPPOSED TO BE THE MOST PROMINENT ABOUT YOU... <br />
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Why do people make it so hard, especially some women!! <br />
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One more thing don't follow the so called experts advice 60 percent of what they say is Wrong!!! I mean this books sell and sell .... year after year<br />
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yet look at the results of our society withing relationshipss.... it sucks stop following their advice .... I can give you some really good advice.... you have not heard and it works email me.... with you questions, I have helped many women and men... Oh but I am not gay!!!<br />
Men want the love and the affectionate touch of a woman.

Simple, men want the same things a woman wants.... I really mean the same!!! Just find out HOW HE WANTS THAT EXPRESSED BY YOU .... AS FEMININE!!! NOT MASCULINE!!!! BE YOUR FEMININE...NOT MASCULINE, YOU R FEMININE IS WHAT IS SUPPOSED TO BE THE MOST PROMINENT ABOUT YOU... <br />
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Why do people make it so hard, especially some women!! <br />
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One more thing don't follow the so called experts advice 60 percent of what they say is Wrong!!! I mean this books sell and sell .... year after year<br />
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yet look at the results of our society withing relationshipss.... it sucks stop following their advice .... I can give you some really good advice.... you have not heard and it works email me.... with you questions, I have helped many women and men... Oh but I am not gay!!!<br />
Men want the love and the affectionate touch of a woman.

When I was younger I looked for a woman to take my breath away, to make me fall to my knees (as you said). I loved to see women dress sexy, but I never spent much time with those women. I would say I loved a woman to be a "tigress in bed", but when I was with a woman and it was good, we were both animals! And I agree with Divingdeep that great blow jobs have always been a big plus.<br />
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But as I have aged, I've realized that I wasted too much time and energy on the "eyecandy" aspect of women. I still have my head turned by a beautiful woman, but I would never in a million years act on any impulses that it might bring up.<br />
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I finally found a woman (actually, she found me) who I believe I can live with for the rest of my life and not have to worry too much about. She has her own goals and dreams, but supports me in mine. She is a strong woman who lets it be known that she needs my help, and my love, to survive. And I find strength in her presence.<br />
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All these questions you have asked only relate to finding a boyfriend, not a life-mate. And there's nothing wrong with that. We all do it. Just know that the things you look for now may not be the things you find important later on in your life. Good luck.

Thank you nymphomaniac for such an insigtful question, which i think mant women wonder but just didn't know ho to put into words. I think the exact opposite question would be equally insightful for man. Well Done!!

Well, i'm still a youngling so i suppose i can give a nonbiased nonsexual point of view.<br />
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I like women with character.. smart oh, and being pleasing on the eyes is an important factor.<br />
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What i dislike are promiscuous women, or even those that try too hard to get a guy's attention (happened to me once, scared the beejeezus outtta me). Oh, and Ah Lians (Singaporean Slang! Go check on wikipedia)

Singaporean?