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I Want to Know What You Do When You Miss Them

What Do You Do?

By: bassplayer
Written on September 18th, 2008

 

What do you do when all you want to do is touch her cheek and run your fingers through her hair but you can’t because of the distance between you and your current circumstances?

What do you do when the time you do spend together flies by and the time apart drags forever?

What do you do when you long to see her lips speaking words of love but can only talk by phone?

What do you do when you wake up alone and then remember what it was like to wake up together?

What do you do when you crave the simplest of things like holding her hand?

What do you do when all you want to do is be with her all of the time but it is a light at the end of the tunnel that is so distant, it is hard to see it getting closer.

What do you do when you miss her so much that your chest is tight and there is a pain in your heart?

What do you do when you miss her so much you find yourself at times shaking and crying uncontrollably

What do you do when you are dreaming of her and you wake up and realize she's not there?

 

What would you do?

By: bassplayer
Age: 46-50 , Male
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25 responses
  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    Thank you for the kind words Teri :)

    Mar 6, 2009
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    I've found that the more time we spend together the more difficult it gets. It's only been a week since I last saw her. Seems like forever. We do absolutely everything to stay in touch. It's just not the same. Not by a long shot.

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    I've found that the more time we spend together the more difficult it gets. It's only been a week since I last saw her. Seems like forever. We do absolutely everything to stay in touch. It's just not the same. Not by a long shot.

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    I'm counting on a lifetime Princess :)

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    Having you in my life Jess.....I sleep in my helmet now :P

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    I'll do that Jess :)



    I'm not sure who wins for whining between me and Sugar Snow-lol

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • marcus101
    marcus101

    snowy: I got news for you honey, I feel the pain of missing you on the same level as bass' pain every single day, and it is pretty constant, actually - probably just as much as you, if not more...



    However...



    I try my best to focus on what I have to do and how I and we plan to work on the next step...



    ;)

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • snowbunny1002
    snowbunny1002

    It is very normal to feel impatient..just ask Marcus101...lol. Seriously, I do understand I think I get that way more often than he does :)

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    So true SB. WE both have tons of faith and are looking to the future. I think it's normal to feel a little impatient. As the time get's closer, I think things will get easier.

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • snowbunny1002
    snowbunny1002

    This is a beautiful post Bass and so 'mush bucket' as well. I can actually relate to this very much. What you gotta do is KNOW that this will happen for you, you may not have an exact date yet but I think when you know things are truly right in your heart, you have the faith to forge on and work towards those goals. It doesnt mean it is easy it just means you do everything you can to work towards your goals together :)

    Oct 26, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    I love you baby.

    Sep 19, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    I'll need therapy if I have to wait that long. It's so impressive that you were able to do this.

    Sep 19, 2008
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  • machinegunmomma
    machinegunmomma

    I had to wait 18 months for my dream to be a reality, I don't know how we did it but it's done and over with now and he's tight here with me now..

    We talked constantly on the phone & computer, I ha pizza's delivered for him, we send cards back and forth and did everything to stay connected. Then one day it was all over, so just hang in there it will one day be the past an you will never forget being without her and it will serve as a fine reminder to keep the ones you love close and never take for granted that they exist and that you love them..

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    Thanks everyone.

    J4P....I am hanging in just as you are. It is so difficult at times.....but I know without a doubt that she is worth any struggle that I might have to endure.

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • EricS
    EricS

    What do you do? It depends. I just sit and wait for my daughter to tell me if mommy is ok and if she ever talks about daddy. That is as close as I get to relieving the pain. Excellent piece BTW. Good job

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • scarlet54
    scarlet54

    awwww. hugs!! i can totally relate. all i can say is that modern technology makes it easier, but it sucks. making plans and setting goals will help the time go faster....skype is my best friend:)

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    lol

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • Mello
    Mello

    Then now you just have to be positive and patient. :)

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    What an excellent answer LTD. You are absolutely right.



    Thanks Mello, we do all of that too. Thanks Magic, next week :)

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • Tesse
    Tesse

    you rejoice that you have her at all.

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • Kindamagic
    Kindamagic

    Hope you get to see her soon, bass man.

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • Mello
    Mello

    Hey Bassy. You know I've been there. :)



    It takes patience!! Oh goodness does it take patience. There are tears, aches of longing, hours spent missing one another, calling one another whenever you have a chance, changing phone plans to avoid phone bills that weigh more than the phone... etc.



    What helped me was having a plan. Before leaving each other there were always plans (most often tentative) for the next time we'd see one another whether it was a month, two months, three weeks, it didn't matter. That way I could always focus on the next time we'd see one another.



    :)

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    No.... it doesn't... :(

    Usually I do suck it up. Sometimes as it did last night, it got a little overwhelming. I knew she'd slam me back to earth-lol

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • bassplayer
    bassplayer

    Thanks R.C.

    Maybe I'll wander over to priceline right now.....

    Sep 18, 2008
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  • HeavenBesideYou
    HeavenBesideYou

    You do what you need to Bass. You suck it up and deal.



    You have patience and know that one day you will reach that light... as far away as it seems right now.



    Then you go online and book a plane ticket. LOL

    Sep 18, 2008
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