Since I Was First Dating

Im a good person but i dont understand why at times in my relationships throughout my life I look to other men for attention. I have a husband who loves me and I love him. I have no intentions of being unfaithful.  It seems easy to "fall"for these men. Its sort of like I get a teenage crush on them. I think about them, i dream about them... when Im with them socially Im so happy.   I even imagine what life would be like with them. Any one else feel this way?

Hope62 Hope62
46-50, F
5 Responses Feb 27, 2010

I think you should try swinging

I think it may be biological. People have only recently in their evolution begun the commited for life thing. It has been an experiment that has had it successes and advantages as well as its drawbacks. I think people can be in love with more than one person and that there is no "one" special person out there that was made for you. Just think of the odds. there are over 4 billion people in the planet, What would the odds be that, if there was only one special person for you, that they would have been born in the same city as you or be persuing interests that would have enabled you to cross paths with them? I bet you have a better chance of winning the mega lotto two or three times.<br />
I am not suggesting that you cheat. The relationship that you and your sig other have is between you guys. But you should not feel guilty that you can have a mental or physical connection with someone other than your sig other. It means you're alive

Thanks for the comments. It really helps to feel im not alone with this! lol and my sex life is awesome! I guess it is just loneliness. hmmm

I have been married for 10 years and I am nodding my head in agreement with most of what you have to say. Being lonely and wanting to be loved in a way that makes you feel special is something all of us are looking for. I wish I had the answers ... sadly I don't as I am in search of answers myself. I just thought I would let you know you are so not alone.

Sounds like you need to spice up your bedroom with rose petals and whips.lol.<br />
no.seriously.Explore your sexual desires with each other,find your limits.Trust me.Whatever you decide to try,don't feel stupid or embarassed.it helps to explore each other.