My Ten

I think a countdown is in order.

10 - Some physical compatibility. I'm in shape and I would like that in a lover
9- Some common interests, like a past history
8- Confidence. I can't know you if you can't express who you are
7- I have to know you and what you are all about
6- I cannot fear you. Somethings make me fear a woman...mainly, if you wouldn't be a decent mate in the long run, I don't want to entangle our lives in the sheets
5- Now the good stuff: Communication during love making. Tell me what you want, ask me what I want, I'll return the favor
4- I like a slow hand, to be honest. I'm not a ragdoll.
3- Variety...doing and trying new things, having fun with it.
2- I want to a lover who loves to receive, and loves to give. That is what keeps the love going.

and, finally,

1- Intensity of emotional intimacy. I want to know what you know, feel how you feel. I want to feel that you are communicating desire with your body. I want to feel the feelings you are feeling. That is soooo sexy

oh yeah,

And eye contact. Lots of it.