My Mr. Right


Is he actually the Mr. right? have always thought of waiting to get the right guy before i start making babies,but........... i have been in an in out, in out,relation with this guy for like 7years now.  now,we  planed to settle down and make babies. he's now in the United States and am in Africa.  he hardly calls, am now 5months pregnant and he's never given me a dime for ante natal.  does he really care? cos his fon could be on voicemail for 3days,i leave messages and he hardly calls back.   he also claims he wants the Child,but i don't think he does cos he acting too irresponsible.
sexymaria sexymaria
26-30, F
1 Response Aug 11, 2010

You seem to fear that your friend is not sincere enough for you to commit to "Mr Right".<br />
His don't sound like the actions of a committed father, but he still may be.<br />
It sounds like you want a sign that he is serious. <br />
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If you wanted a live-in relationship with him, to raise your child together, was the plan for him to come to you, or you to move to the US?<br />
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Perhaps you need to be straight with him. If you are 5 months pregnant, soon you will be too close to term to be allowed to fly by the airlines. Ask him how he imagines doing things. Perhaps he just needs a prompt to do some planning, maybe he's leaving it up to you while he's focused on his work.... lots of if's.<br />
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If you approach him with a gentle appeal that you are becoming anxious about the delivery date, or for help with a pre-natal bill or asking him if he wants to come with you to the next visit, it might show his level of commitment.<br />
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In any case, you need to know what the story is, and plan and act accordingly for your child. Maybe the US has child support requirements which could make him provide for you both if he doesn't voluntarily. The US embassy might know how to do that if he is a reluctant dad.<br />
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I hope it goes well for you either way. Raising a child alone could be scary and difficult for a first time mom, but raising one with a reluctant and abusive partner would be worse for both you and the child.<br />
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When the child arrives, you may also find that Mr right becomes interested if not before.... it's surprising what the thought of someone else raising their children can do to men! <br />
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Good fortune to you always, and I hope you have found Mr Right.