I Have More To Learn

 As time goes on I find there is less and less I really know about sex. There are more ways to do it,more things to do and more actions considered sex.

I wonder where you go to school  for all that?

34Einnor 34Einnor
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3 Responses Feb 18, 2010

Where you go to school, I would think, would depend on what and why you wanted to learn it. If you are just trying to learn what everyone else thinks and does, Sites like EP offer so much. If, on the other hand, you are trying to express your "oneness" with your partner, then I would think you would expand your communications with them and talk more about how you feel, how the feel, drop all ex<x>pressions of judgment, and work to understand how you can please your partner more, if they even feel there is more that can be done. You will have to open yourself up even more, drop the veils between the 2 of you, and study them to the extreme. You must realize that to do that, you will need to learn a new language, because the words and terms women use in sex talk are ba<x>sed and understood through their own experiences, and those experiences are very different from those of a man. If you are a woman, you can never know what if feels like to have a penis - you have no field of reference to understand that part of a man, and of course he can't understand a vagina for basically the same reason, his body doesn't have one of those either. It goes on and on from there. Chat with me if you would like to share more on this.

**** is atrocious sex education. It is entertainment, not instruction or education. Commercial **** shows scripted sex. Amateur **** I call KIA--Knuckleheads In Action. (E.g., abandonment of *********** in the vagina, something for which many women express a deep fondness, for "cumshots," ************ onto the woman's face, or less often, breasts.)<br />
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The best way to go to school I would suggest is to Google what you're interested in. I've learned a lot that way. You can peak into huge portions of many books on Amazon.com. I can't endorse most sex experts. The good ones in my view are Beverly Whipple, Winnifred B. Cutler, Stuart Brody, Bettina Arndt, Catherine Blackledge, and maybe a few others. Go to http://www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/FIRST.HTM and click on Behavior Surveys and you'll find interesting international scientific sex surveys. They do not at all jibe with the unscientific Hite Report or support the denigration of intercourse which was its main theme. It is the same with the many scientific surveys not on that website.<br />
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At some point I plan to put all this stuff on EP myself, but when I'll have time i don't know.

Chatting with other people in adult-themed chat rooms is a good place to start the learning and discovery process. If you're more visual, there is always ****-- and it can be found in a myriad of niches for nearly all kinds of people. If you feel comfortable enough with the other person (chatter or real-life friend), there is the opportunity for roleplay or phone sex. Even if you don't want to do any roleplay but instead prefer talking about fantasies and other sexual topics during chat or phone sex, that would be great as well. I hope this helps.