This Is So Hard!
I have been married for 31 years. My husband started his binge drinking in college and never grew out of it. He doesn't drink at all during the week but the weekends are usually one long drunk. He also is very combative when he has been drinking so he is miserable to be around. We have been threatening to split up for the last 4 years but he keeps pulling me back in with promises that are never kept. I am so sick of this rollercoaster. I need to get off but don't know how. He says I have no right to demand this of him and that I need to stick to my marriage vows. I have 3 grown children and 2 of them have drinking issues. I should have left him or somehow put a stop to this many years ago. I am so sick of it all. He is great at manipulating me and making me feel bad for even suggesting we split up. I really need some peace.