We all have the same stories of how it is to live with an alcoholic. I'm sure most of us can say that Alanon is not much help. The truth. These men are sick but they like it, they can still function on some level and get by. I don't like being sick. I hate the fact that I didn't leave him the first year we were married. I hate that I had more kids with him. I know there is no planning a future with an alcoholic. I can't give any advice about how to stay and make thinks work with your man. I failed and I'm miserable. I can give advice to someone who is trying to decide to stay or not. They will always love the drinking more than you. They will always be more comfortable at a bar than being with you. They will always want a drink and resent you for trying to control them even when you are not. Leave as fast as you can... they can become sober without you or keep drinking without you. If you see them 2 or 3 years down the road and they have been sober and you think you might want to try again. It could be an option. Again my advice ....Run! Run fast. Run now and don't wait. Life is short... very. one day I was 25 and the next thing I know I'm 40. It goes by fast and faster. He won't remember or care what has happened. He didn't experience it ... he was loaded. Eventually you will have to meds to help you get through it all. Two people in a fog living together... for what? Leave, save yourself, #$%& him.