Advice Please!!Please help me! I just had my 2 year wedding anniversary on Nov. 6th 2012. My husband is a fairly decent man. He has OCD and tends to get too deep in some subject or another. He also has OCD and has a horrible allergy to Posion Ivy- so you can imagine. Basically both his legs are covered in black deep scars from him picking way past the time the itch and posion were gone. It's not a superficial thing. I don't care about his picking or his scars, that's just background.
My husband is also an alcoholic. He drinks for the sheer sake of drinking. I do too, so I guess we are co dependent. THANK the lord we have no children yet. But I see my drinking as a general thing, I can quit and have in the past. He drinks way overboard when he does, but I do too, so I feel I can't judge him.
But I just want to stop it all. Stop the madness. I am really unhappy. I think on the whole we really love each other and we have been thru a lot. I think we can create a happy home if we both try.
I am unsure if he wants to try. I mean - he OVER indulges in everything. It's actually disgusting. He really has already ruined his body (which used to be nice) in less than 2 years. His stomach looks like a cracked boiled egg, you know when you boil one too long and it splits all over? Only it's all pink and purple and stretched beyond all limits. I think he has some serious self control issues. I cannot even help him in that area.
As background, his grandma had OCD so bad. She was a wonderful person too, but she picked this little sore on her toe and over ate so much she was eventually in a wheelchair. Then WHAM! She had to have her foot amputated, then her leg.
So this problem he has is definely hereditary. It's in his DNA make up. I see it alllllllll over his mom and sister too. Although they aren't necessarlily overweight, just really crazy.
Please help me. I love my husband but he is a pig. He really has some unnattractive traits and I know it can only get worse.
I will take any advice. I am desperate. I am young. Still thin, still pretty. I have a finance degree and background. My career as a Finanical Analyst is not helping me as I look at just the facts. I am afraid I am wasting my time with him.
Oh and to make the matters even MORE awful- my father suddenly passed away in Feb 2012. So that means my mother and father scrimped and saved to give us our dream wedding and now I have an enormous amount of GUILT thinking that ONE- I cannot even ask my Daddy what he thinks of this situation and TWO - I am leaving my widowed mother with a huge hole in her bank account when she could really use it.
Pleas help me ladies and gentlemen.