I Can't Commit to My Goal

hii,, i so agree with u, iv made sooo many goals to much to even count and i can never commit to it. and i know how u feel when i meet ppl and when i know a guy is looking i woudl smile and he would smile but thats it , i know the reason he keeps walking on is cos of all my fat !!!
so how do u plan on loosing weight, iv started working out and im trying to keep myself far away from sweets as possible !!!!

I am not exactly the most possitive person in the world. That is why I am here on this site.
But I will tell you this - when it comes to weight loss and fitness - i am the genius.

So let me break it down to you the way it all works.

Assume you are letsay 30 yrs old. Picture the rest of your life till maybe 70 - 80 or more. Do you see your self on a diet plan for the next 40 - 50 years?

If you dont see how this is possible, then don't bother with a diet plan.

So now, diet plans are out of the question. Why? Because believe it or not - diet plans DO work. But the problem is - the food is terrible and no one can keep up with it. The minute you go back to regular food - what happens?
You gain multiple pounds of weight. The reason being - your body started to adjust to the limited calories and low sodium foods and started to shed the weight slowly. As soon as you go back to regular food, your body can't process the food because of your slow metabolism. So it gets dumped into your body as fat molecules.

The sugar piles up - can cause diabetes and also leads to high blood pressure etc... and this would be even worse than you could handle before the diet plan era.

Why do you think all these celebs loose so much weight then all of a sudden just gain even more weight than they had before their diet plans. And take into consideration, they have people that are paid to keep them on top of things. Regular people like us do not.


So now, my recommendation: Exercise (Yes), Steamed food, baked food, Exercise and water instead of sugary drinks.

And trust me, I have used this method on many people including my wife and it worked.

There are many tasty steamed foods that you can eat. Same with bakes foods.

The important part is that you enjoy what you are eating. Just remember that, you cut the quantity by half. So if you usually eat 1 pound of food in your plate, now you eat half a pound.

Also, eat only fruit for snacks.

Now the most important weight buster - exercise.

Exercise requires food to fuel your efforts. That means it is buring up any stored fats and sugars you have in your body. It also uses up most of the water weight you have. Now, before I get further into the exercise part, the most important thing is to get a partner with similar goals. Working out if not fun for many, but when you have someone to motivate you and you motivate them, then it becomes more interesting.

I have to go now, but I will post more later on this topic

If you want to lose weight but are not losing weight it's probably because you believe the old myth that a "healthy low fat diet" is the trick to weight loss. WRONG. You may not believe me when I say this, but a low fat diet is the REASON many americans are obese. A low fat diet is by definition a high carbohydrate diet, which causes drastic spikes in insulin and subsequent drops in blood sugar, making you feel tired, sluggish and most importantly HUNGRY all day long. Trust me, I bought into the low fat diet myth for many years, and had to starve myself to see any weight loss that would quickly return when I came off the diet. The other problem with low fat diets- when you do lose weight, about 50% of it comes from muscle, which SLOWS your metabolism. When you gain the weight back, it's almost always fat. So you may weigh the same, yet you now have a slower metabolism than you did before.



If you truly want to lose weight and change your life you need to change the way you eat. Permanently. If you truly want to lose weight you need to cut down on the carbohydrates. You need to eat the way your body was made by nature to eat. Have you ever seen a loaf of bread in nature? No, but chances are you have seen things like vegetation, animals, nuts & seeds, and occasionally fruit like berries. The traditional diet of mankind got the majority of it's calories from FAT. Healthy saturated and monounsaturated fats like the kind found in red meat (NOT lean) pork, chicken with skin, fatty fish, nuts, seeds, and coconut. These foods should make up the bulk of your diet, with cooked non-starchy vegetables (with a healthy serving of butter) on top. You will feel so full and satisfied eating these types of food your appetite will naturally be regulated, and you will find it practically impossible to overeat. Please trust me when I say if you really want to change your life, try this way of life. You have nothing to lose but excess pounds.



The other majorly important thing you need to do in order to lose weight is build up those muscles. Yoga, weight lifting, pilates, take your pick. I enjoy them all, and no I don't look like a bodybuilder, not even close. Your muscles are your fat burning machines. The more muscle you have the more calories you will burn when you are just sitting around. Not only that, your posture will improve, your body will look shapely and defined, and your mood will definitely improve (endorphins!)



As someone who struggled on a low-fat weight watchers style diet for many years and only GAINED weight, and who has now completely turned their life around and can see ab muscles (hallelujah) I'm asking you to please, please try this.

What struck me about this article is that you think you have to remain single until you get thin. Do you really think that the guys who won't date you cos you're fat are the guys you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Don't get me wrong, losing weight is the right and healthy thing to do (I'm struggling with it myself after having had a baby) but don't get stuck with someone who makes you punish yourself to maintain their ideal!
I was about a size 6/8 when I met my husband, but also very ill. As I got better and started putting on weight I became incredibly self conscious, but my husband assured me that I looked great. Even now, after our first baby I am about 4 stone over weight, but my husband insists I've never looked better, strectch marks and all!!
My sisters husband however, is constantly on at her to diet, and I can't spend a weekend with them without crying when he tells me I need to lose weight. Image is so important to him, and I can't live with him.
I do need to lose weight, but I am aware of it and I don't need to be told constantly by other people.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, there are some great guys out there, who aren't bothered by your weight. Yes they are few and far between, but if they weren't, they wouldn't be so special, right?
Hold out for the right man. I promise you it's worth it; and lose weight because you want to look and feel great, not because you want a guy.

I am not sure that this is your fault. Nobody wants to weigh more than their ideal weight. To help me lose weight, I took Meridia, which is by prescription. It is a good way to get started. It is expensive, but you can get a $20 coupon off of the Internet. This is will power in a bottle. Weight Watchers is another added layer of goodness, because they make you accountable every week. As for meeting your soul mate is concerned, once you feel confident, try match dot come and eharmony. I met my husband on matfch dot com in 2000 when Internet dating was in its infancy. We married in 2001, and I gave birth 10 months later. Also remember, if you keep doing what you are doing, you are going to keep getting what you have been getting. We eat to feel something different. Take things day by day and think how you could feel different in other ways.

Oh Honey I used to feel the same you do. Let me help please leave me a message.

Same problem for 56 years. Turned things around with a membership to the "Idiot Proof Diet", and a membership to Lifetime Fitness. Coolest workout facility ever.

Here's the diet, and you'll like it cause you choose the foods from a list and they are easy to fix:

http://www2.fatloss4idiots.com/?hop=fatburn

It does cost something, but you only pay once for life. I found it to be worth it.

Final tip: Follow the diet and exercise and check the scale EVERY DAY and then write it down. Checking it every day will motivate you to make it through that day. I like trying to lose a pound a day. Doesn't always happen, but by being aggressive, striving to do whatever it takes to lose that pound every day really helps me to stay with it.

Let me know if it works for you:

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I have to agree with heybitch! I have finally began an honest healthy new way of eating. A lifestyle change. I do and will not say diet. I eat my fish, chicken and meat. lots of veggies/salads. but watch my carbs. I have made a point of only eating a certain amount of carbs a day. bread and baked goods...I just did not eat the first two weeks...potato , corn, high starch foods. . I will occaionally have some low carb bread or a whole wheat tortilla and make wraps. Sugar is out (for now) It is unbelievable how many things we eat that have sugar in it. I eat fruits and yogurts. It was very hard at first. I had to get that crap out of my system. The first two weeks I just ate meat and veggies, some dairy (limited) and I just felt better. I stay away from processed foods. Ugh! And if I ever use flour its whole wheat, none of that white stuff _the stuff that has made us a fat nation in my opinion, oh the deep fried crap too! Deep fried nothing in my life. It just isn't worth it. My energy has come back! I have a long way to go, 150lbs! yep a long way, and will keep plugging at it. it is hard especially this time of year...Ice cream :(

We need to talk! Seriously!
You have taken the first and most important step. Admitting you cant do it. You mentioned that you were looking for a support group. Do not be ashamed,, more people than not cannot do this alone and either cant find anyone to be a partner with or are to ashamed and humilaited to admit a need to lose weight.
Yes, exercise is required, and maintaining a proper diet as well BUT,, if you find reasons to skip either,, what good are the foods and the finest workout?
I have helped 2 other women lose weight before and am presently helping another VIA internet to obtain one of her personal goals. Much older then you I think. I was merely someone they had to communicate with about exercise and food intake on a daily basis. When they knew someone was going to keep track, someone was behind them,, someone actually cared that they lost weight,, they had more drive and reason.
Im serious my young friend, we need to talk. Write me if you care to know more. You don't have to live in my town, I can work with you on line.
It IS possible, you just need to take someones hand to walk it!

Thank you for sharing this. I can honestly say I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!!!! I don't have any answers, so if you find some, plz share. I feel like I've missed out on so many opportunities because I'm overweight. It is frustrating. And I know how to eat healthy and how to exercise. I just don't do it and I don't know why! I know it is not will power because I have "enough will to start my own religion" when I really want something.
I will say don't be so hard on yourself about the comfort food and what you call a lack of self love. I believe we have adopted certain habits that now seem, and maybe are, destructive, but at the time they were for our own protection and survival. So realize you're actions may be coming from a place of self love, they're just no longer serving the right purpose and as an adult you need to find healthier ways to meet the needs that food is filling at the moment.
Now if I could only practice what I preach, eh?