I Can't Commit to My Goal

hii,, i so agree with u, iv made sooo many goals to much to even count and i can never commit to it. and i know how u feel when i meet ppl and when i know a guy is looking i woudl smile and he would smile but thats it , i know the reason he keeps walking on is cos of all my fat !!!
so how do u plan on loosing weight, iv started working out and im trying to keep myself far away from sweets as possible !!!!

If you want to lose weight but are not losing weight it's probably because you believe the old myth that a "healthy low fat diet" is the trick to weight loss. WRONG. You may not believe me when I say this, but a low fat diet is the REASON many americans are obese. A low fat diet is by definition a high carbohydrate diet, which causes drastic spikes in insulin and subsequent drops in blood sugar, making you feel tired, sluggish and most importantly HUNGRY all day long. Trust me, I bought into the low fat diet myth for many years, and had to starve myself to see any weight loss that would quickly return when I came off the diet. The other problem with low fat diets- when you do lose weight, about 50% of it comes from muscle, which SLOWS your metabolism. When you gain the weight back, it's almost always fat. So you may weigh the same, yet you now have a slower metabolism than you did before.



If you truly want to lose weight and change your life you need to change the way you eat. Permanently. If you truly want to lose weight you need to cut down on the carbohydrates. You need to eat the way your body was made by nature to eat. Have you ever seen a loaf of bread in nature? No, but chances are you have seen things like vegetation, animals, nuts & seeds, and occasionally fruit like berries. The traditional diet of mankind got the majority of it's calories from FAT. Healthy saturated and monounsaturated fats like the kind found in red meat (NOT lean) pork, chicken with skin, fatty fish, nuts, seeds, and coconut. These foods should make up the bulk of your diet, with cooked non-starchy vegetables (with a healthy serving of butter) on top. You will feel so full and satisfied eating these types of food your appetite will naturally be regulated, and you will find it practically impossible to overeat. Please trust me when I say if you really want to change your life, try this way of life. You have nothing to lose but excess pounds.



The other majorly important thing you need to do in order to lose weight is build up those muscles. Yoga, weight lifting, pilates, take your pick. I enjoy them all, and no I don't look like a bodybuilder, not even close. Your muscles are your fat burning machines. The more muscle you have the more calories you will burn when you are just sitting around. Not only that, your posture will improve, your body will look shapely and defined, and your mood will definitely improve (endorphins!)



As someone who struggled on a low-fat weight watchers style diet for many years and only GAINED weight, and who has now completely turned their life around and can see ab muscles (hallelujah) I'm asking you to please, please try this.

I am not sure that this is your fault. Nobody wants to weigh more than their ideal weight. To help me lose weight, I took Meridia, which is by prescription. It is a good way to get started. It is expensive, but you can get a $20 coupon off of the Internet. This is will power in a bottle. Weight Watchers is another added layer of goodness, because they make you accountable every week. As for meeting your soul mate is concerned, once you feel confident, try match dot come and eharmony. I met my husband on matfch dot com in 2000 when Internet dating was in its infancy. We married in 2001, and I gave birth 10 months later. Also remember, if you keep doing what you are doing, you are going to keep getting what you have been getting. We eat to feel something different. Take things day by day and think how you could feel different in other ways.

Same problem for 56 years. Turned things around with a membership to the "Idiot Proof Diet", and a membership to Lifetime Fitness. Coolest workout facility ever.

Here's the diet, and you'll like it cause you choose the foods from a list and they are easy to fix:

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It does cost something, but you only pay once for life. I found it to be worth it.

Final tip: Follow the diet and exercise and check the scale EVERY DAY and then write it down. Checking it every day will motivate you to make it through that day. I like trying to lose a pound a day. Doesn't always happen, but by being aggressive, striving to do whatever it takes to lose that pound every day really helps me to stay with it.

Let me know if it works for you:

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Thank you for sharing this. I can honestly say I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!!!! I don't have any answers, so if you find some, plz share. I feel like I've missed out on so many opportunities because I'm overweight. It is frustrating. And I know how to eat healthy and how to exercise. I just don't do it and I don't know why! I know it is not will power because I have "enough will to start my own religion" when I really want something.
I will say don't be so hard on yourself about the comfort food and what you call a lack of self love. I believe we have adopted certain habits that now seem, and maybe are, destructive, but at the time they were for our own protection and survival. So realize you're actions may be coming from a place of self love, they're just no longer serving the right purpose and as an adult you need to find healthier ways to meet the needs that food is filling at the moment.
Now if I could only practice what I preach, eh?

Just from self experience, the way I lost weight and kept myself healthy and happy is just by doing the 'health food plan,' which isn't really a diet, because I eat as much as I need, as long as it isn't unhealthy. Limiting yourself from processed food is such a big step forward by itself, and you can also cut your grocery bill in half. That being said, I'm a serious cereal addict - but it makes a really good snack food if it's high in fibre and not just a sugery 'filler'.

You could also have sort of 'rewards,' like, 'if I eat healthy all week, I can go out and buy myself a dessert at a fancy restaurant,' or 'I'll go to the movies and treat myself to popcorn'. In moderation, it's totally fine. It's when your eating it every day, or several times a week that it starts to make an impact on your weight.

Anyway, good luck with this -- it's a good healthy move that will prolong your life.

First off don't eat tons of animal foods like red meat. But you do need to eat protein. After I eat protein I feel much better. We don't want your colon getting backed up. Make sure you eat plenty of fiber. Fresh vegs and fruits. I have joined Weight Watchers and exercising. Walking or using a treadmill and bike riding are good exercises. I am losing weight from this. Make sure when you feel hungry you drink water. Your brain makes you think you are hungry when really you are only thirsty. It is the same urge that our brains tell us. Keep busy. You will lose. One more thing, you are the only one that is keeping you from losing. You are your own enemy. No more negative talk.

Another approach would be to find a guy who is attracted to women of your body type. You might be surprised to find that there a re guys who will find both your face and body "cute." :)

Thank you for sharing. You are soooo not alone. What you have written sounds so much like my situation and you know what. I feel like I'm in the same place where I want to live my life, move my body and most of all try to lesson my physical pain. I'm 43 years old and I need a double knee replacement already.

there s a LOT of disinformation about what a healthy diet really is and i dont think anyone has the accurate truth.

to each his own.

whats a fact is that fat or thin pple have erroneous judgment on food. its inherited from their parents.

also it seems to me that your body calibrates on some type of foods when you re young, so your body keeps assimilating food the same way when your an adult, thus making it more difficult to get results, even with a change of diet.

I d say you have to get really serious about redefining everything you know about food. erase all you know, start blank, filter out all marketing oriented advices, pseudo scientific namings and measurements, and get to analyse the very nature of the food you will be assimilating. try to see the logic patterns behind all this, the cycles from earth to your body, thus getting a better judgment.

Personnaly i see cooking as a perversion of feeding one self. living day by day assimilating appropriate natural food demands a lot of self discipline and organization. I believe its worth it.

I mean all good things that can happen in you life can be brought by others, or by chance, without you doing anything to deserve it. So your helth might be the first thing you want to give attention to. Your body might be the first thing you want to take good care of in your life :)

Wow I stumbled upon your blog and the comments that have been made here. If you don't mind me sharing with you for a moment.

At the age of 38 I took a heart attack. I was 235 and 5'4. I nearly lost my life. I died and they brought me back. It was a scarey time. The doctors told me I had to lose weight. I was so puzzled at why I was so overweight. I gained the weight fast too! 60 lbs in one month. I just bloomed and couldn't figure out why.

I found out later that for women, stress is a real killer. It actually triggers a REAL chemical reaction in our bodies and we will pack on belly fat.

I did what the doctors told me to, and I lost 30 lbs on my own. But I was still too heavy. I ended up going through a plateau where I was bouncing and not losing weight. Then I remembered about nutrition, as I had once been a big nutrition buff when I was younger before I got into such intense stress in my life, and hit rock bottom poverty.

So now my story has changed dramatically! I hope it encourages you. I have lost 7 inches in 2 weeks. There are some tricks and tips I can share with you if you all would like. I am a wellness coach, so if you would like some online support I can certainly be available to you free! I'm not at my ideal weight yet, but I'm getting there and I'm feeling so much better mentally and physically. I'm available to you so add me as a friend and I will be there for you. Its hard to do it alone, but if I can meet the challenges anyone can.

You have no idea how similar we are. But believe me.. it feels like you're describing me in your story. I'm 5'7 and I'm 228 pounds. Haha.. although.. apparently I don't look like I way over 200 pounds.. ppl are always shocked when I tell them my weight. However.. I will tell you I am definitely not the skinny one.
I feel exactly like you.. with the cute face.. but yet.. I'm the fat girl. I could be really attractive and sexy.. but.. the fats holding me back.
I've recently gained weight.. about 20 pounds. and I honestly don't know where the hell it came from. I'm getting tests to make sure nothing medically is wrong.. other than the fact that I'm not eating right and not exercising. However.. I've remained pretty much the same weight for 3 years.. and I don't know what happened.
Anyways.. I just thought I'd let you know.. I can relate A LOT to your story. Even your goals of having a family and sharing your life with someone. That's like.. my goal in life.

I am 5'7" and before I started my latest diet I was 246. I'm sure I was higher than that, but I never paid attention and my scale was wonky and frankly I don't even want to know.

I never had much luck with diets. I did the six week body make over, which was very interesting. I lost a TON of weight rather quickly, and while I was eating all the time, it was rather restrictive on the food I could eat. I felt all I ate was salad and chicken breasts.

I tried counting calories but found my blood sugars were causing massive cravings, and I couldn't stick to my diet.

I have also since found out that when I eat foods high in HFCS that my body stops recognizing that I have even eaten, and I have a black hole where all the food goes directly to my thighs.

So I then started a low GI index diet. It is basically what diabetics eat. I started off eating Nutrisystem foods, which their diet is a low GI diet, but followed the low GI principle and was shocked at how keeping my blood sugars stable by eating small meals high in proteins and fats every three to four hours kept me out of the cookie jar. Weight seemed to fall off me - now not as quickly as the 6 week diet, but this time I was eating foods I really enjoyed and in about a year I had lost over 50 lbs. I went from xxl tops to xs! a 38C bra to a 34b. I still have some weight I need to get off my hips, so I'm wearing a size 12 pant.

but it can be done. you just have to remind yourself which is more important. Your long term health, or your short term comfort.

I think I need to keep in touch with some of you all. I have been going back and forth for a bout 5 years now and I'm tired of it. My main problem is if I don't see results fast enough I give up.

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