I Need Some Encouragement.

Hi, i'm 21 and i weigh 230lbs. I have no self esteem, i hate to look at myself in the mirror most days. I don' think i'm ugly but i just want to be thin. I don't know how to motivate myself anymore because i've tried and failed so many times. :(:(

coxy102 coxy102
22-25, F
7 Responses Mar 10, 2009

fORGIVE YOURSELF , DON'T BE TOO HARD ON YOU , I KNOW THAT ITS HARD , I AM GOING THRU THE SAME THING BUT I LEARNED NOT TO BEAT MYSELF UP , FINE ALL THE THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF THAT YOU TRULY LIKE AND LOVE .

Hi coxy102, I'm 22 about to become 23 and I'm also dealing with a big weight problem. I am finding it very hard to stay motivated and it's just very hard to stay positive all together. But I'm not about to give up and I hope you won't either.<br><br />
I don't know if this helps but I found some weightloss success stories on the internet that were very inspirational to me:<br><br />
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http://weight-loss-story.blogspot.com/<br><br />
http://www.theweighwewere.com/

No matter what, it is what you feel on the inside compared to how you look on the out. I feel like you do (no selfesteem, hate looking in the mirror). Everyone has something about them they wish they could change. Scientificaly the heavier you are it truly is easier to loose weight BC your body burns fat 2x as faster. Start walking, take fish oil, eat avacados, and if you can get an Acia berry supplment (they sell them at sunflower market out here) get that too. These supplments will help break down body fat.

I use to hate running. My legs are always feels weakand I have trouble breathing. Somedays I wake up and feel so motivated to do a jog around the corner and I do go out and jog. The first few mins are great but than I shut down and end up turning around walking back home. <br />
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I decide I better start a expercise that is easy and I can do for a long time. I pick biking and just sit and peddle. It's easy and as time goes on I crank the gear up and push myself. After doing the biking for 1 month, I try runing and for some reason I no longer feel weak legs. For the first time in my life I can understand how it feels like to want to run. All I'm trying to say is, because of 1 month peddling the bike.... my thig and legs get stronger and I was able to enjoy runing without having that feeling I want to quit or lose motivation.

hey coxy102 i can tottaly relate to you im 21 also i weigh a lil bit more than you though im 250lbs.<br />
i also have no self esteem either and can never seem to stay motivated.<br />
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if you would like to talk or anything mail me maybe we could encourage each other through this and in the end we might just end up being 2 hot peices of *** lol<br />
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hugs <br />
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giggles21 x

Thanks Zinco....I'm going to get that book. I think i'm just feeling extra sensitive today because i ate **** after being on a diet for a week and losing almost a stone.

If you have no self esteem (which I can relate to) fix that first! It is the key to everything. A book I used is called 10 Days to Self Esteem by David Burns and it is really easy, cheap and fun and based on clinical studies and it works!!!<br />
The weight is only what the world sees, but you need to fix the inside first.