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Wow..this group really touches a part of me that IS missing very much.I am a marreid SAHM of 2 gorgeous daughters 11 and 14...married 24 yrs...I personally think my husband is more about in "lust" than in "love"..He tells em he loes em adn I truly appreciate that..BUt theres no connection..sentimental..emotionally...(and I dont mean this in a BAD way) hes like a stone..He's not even mean..He's just superficial and "neutral"..So to answer the groups name ...i DO want to lvoe and be loved passionately...
tarotstar tarotstar 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 10, 2010

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Sometimes, just know ing some one is loving you makes you happy.

thank you fundrummer...you do sound quite similar to my husband...except it sounds like you do a little bit more around the house than him (just sayin) but thank you truly for the insight...

thank you fundrummer...you do sound quite similar to my husband...except it sounds like you do a little bit more around the house than him (just sayin) but thank you truly for the insight...

Tarostart - I think I'm similar to your husband. I'm in place however that I recognize my wife NEEDS this part of the relationship enhanced desperately. See, I used the word "enhanced" - who uses that when taking about relationship? She decided that we need to hold off on the "lust" part for "a while" until we feel closer. Other big issues as well, but I do really love her with all my heart. Our relationship has turned into co-parenting with her doing most of the parenting and me just coping by working to much or spacing out at home. I play with our kids, fix things, run errands, and turn off lights. I'm a good guy, with a good job, say all the right things, but deep down, it's a glass house relationship and my emotionally sensitive wife is crushed while I'm frustrated with rejection and dealing with insecurity. When we fist married - Passion, oh yeah. What was lacking from me however was a true ability to empathize with her. This is what I missed growing up (not a traumatic event, perhaps a lack of one). I don't cry hardly ever, and I keep things simple emotionally (surface). This is safe for me because I have also realized lately I'm controlling. Emotions are not rational sometimes and logic does not apply. Also, using the wrong word in (e.g. enhanced) can seem insensitive. So, there is a look from the other side. I hope it gives you some insight that can help. Best of luck. : )

you need to talk to him otherwise you wake one day both ofyou driffted more a part

People like this are usually this way because of something traumatic happening in their past or a key missing part of their upbringing (not shown enough love growing up etc)<br />
Only he can change that and only if he is really motivated to do so. Chances are, he doen't even see it as an issue.

Congratulations on your beautiful daughters. I hope you are able to find away to get the passionate love you long for. Can you talk to him about these feelings and possible make a connection that way? Good luck.