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Don't Be Afraid

I just had an epiphany. The less one fears, the less there is the need to fear.
By this I mean, I always had a fear that every new person would criticize me, judge me harshly (or, as i saw it- see my terrible flaws). As a result, whenever i met new people I was reserved and self conscious. This makes it hard for people to like me, as I am so closed off.
Now, after a series of life changing events, I have grown internally in a huge way. Now I have less irrational thoughts and better self esteem. When I meet new people I am more Open and less afraid. People warm to me more easily, and I have exponentially more friends. Life is good!
lostgirl84 lostgirl84 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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I am curious. How did you grow, internally?

Is it possible for you to share those life changing events?

thanks for sharing, that's awesome.

Thanks for sharing your amazing story)

Your story makes sense.

The coincidence of this experience and the comment I wrote tonight and the line from my profile were just too strong to ignore. so without more comment here they are:<br />
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SmrtGuyUT (61-65, M)<br />
"A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears." -Michel de Montaigne <br />
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From the other side: I just had lunch with a guy I regarded as a friend the last time I saw him 40 years ago. He remembered me as a larger guy, bullying him all the time. We were less than 10 lbs apart. He was a cheerleader and I a "jock". Now he is in great shape, I'm disabled, obese and live in a high level of pain. I used the level of courage I had to stand up for my country, my community, my family, my co-workers, my friends basically those with whom I associated or cared about. I expected nothing in return, not even a simple "thanks". I have no friends, no one who cares about me and now wonder "How do former associates remember me?" Was I a bully? I was small but you picked on me or mine at your peril. Whose view of reality is distorted?

The coincidence of this experience and the comment I wrote tonight and the line from my profile were just too strong to ignore. so without more comment here they are:<br />
SmrtGuyUT (61-65, M)<br />
"A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears." -Michel de Montaigne <br />
<br />
From the other side: I just had lunch with a guy I regarded as a friend the last time I saw him 40 years ago. He remembered me as a larger guy, bullying him all the time. We were less than 10 lbs apart. He was a cheerleader and I a "jock". Now he is in great shape, I'm disabled, obese and live in a high level of pain. I used the level of courage I had to stand up for my country, my community, my family, my co-workers, my friends basically those with whom I associated or cared about. I expected nothing in return, not even a simple "thanks". I have no friends, no one who cares about me and now wonder "How do former associates remember me?" Was I a bully? I was small but you picked on me or mine at your peril. Whose view of reality is distorted?

How wonderful for you ! xo

Thankyou :)

We live in a world that trains us to be fearful, it is for social control- only when we learn that we have nothing to fear, but fear itself can we be free. Way to go!!

I had this thought awhile ago and it worked for me for awhile, but it seems like history repeats it self and the issues resurfaced again.<br />
I don't know how it came back up, but I have to try to let go again.<br />
Reading this kind of reinforced me to try and let things go.<br />
Gave me a bit of a pick me up and reality check I needed reading this.<br />
Thanks. :)

Thanks, wicked. I actually needed to reread it myself :)

Thanks for sharing your story. Fear can be paralyzing. I am glad you overcame it.

I am glad to hear you found some of your own inner power use it wisely and it will grow and grow

Thanks calvinunmaker.