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I Want to Make Friends

Don't Be Afraid

By: lostgirl84
Written on January 30th, 2012
Age: 26-30 , Female
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14 responses
  • Messyah

    Is it possible for you to share those life changing events?

    Feb 10
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  • Wiseguyhobbes

    thanks for sharing, that's awesome.

    Jul 25, 2012
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  • sergari

    Thanks for sharing your amazing story)

    Jun 25, 2012
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  • Snookybear

    Your story makes sense.

    Apr 6, 2012
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  • SmrtGuyUT

    The coincidence of this experience and the comment I wrote tonight and the line from my profile were just too strong to ignore. so without more comment here they are:



    SmrtGuyUT (61-65, M)

    "A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears." -Michel de Montaigne



    From the other side: I just had lunch with a guy I regarded as a friend the last time I saw him 40 years ago. He remembered me as a larger guy, bullying him all the time. We were less than 10 lbs apart. He was a cheerleader and I a "jock". Now he is in great shape, I'm disabled, obese and live in a high level of pain. I used the level of courage I had to stand up for my country, my community, my family, my co-workers, my friends basically those with whom I associated or cared about. I expected nothing in return, not even a simple "thanks". I have no friends, no one who cares about me and now wonder "How do former associates remember me?" Was I a bully? I was small but you picked on me or mine at your peril. Whose view of reality is distorted?

    Mar 25, 2012
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  • SmrtGuyUT

    The coincidence of this experience and the comment I wrote tonight and the line from my profile were just too strong to ignore. so without more comment here they are:

    SmrtGuyUT (61-65, M)

    "A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears." -Michel de Montaigne



    From the other side: I just had lunch with a guy I regarded as a friend the last time I saw him 40 years ago. He remembered me as a larger guy, bullying him all the time. We were less than 10 lbs apart. He was a cheerleader and I a "jock". Now he is in great shape, I'm disabled, obese and live in a high level of pain. I used the level of courage I had to stand up for my country, my community, my family, my co-workers, my friends basically those with whom I associated or cared about. I expected nothing in return, not even a simple "thanks". I have no friends, no one who cares about me and now wonder "How do former associates remember me?" Was I a bully? I was small but you picked on me or mine at your peril. Whose view of reality is distorted?

    Mar 25, 2012
    1 like
  • PSULLY63

    How wonderful for you ! xo

    Mar 20, 2012
    2 likes
  • MtnMama4u

    We live in a world that trains us to be fearful, it is for social control- only when we learn that we have nothing to fear, but fear itself can we be free. Way to go!!

    Mar 20, 2012
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  • TheWicked

    I had this thought awhile ago and it worked for me for awhile, but it seems like history repeats it self and the issues resurfaced again.

    I don't know how it came back up, but I have to try to let go again.

    Reading this kind of reinforced me to try and let things go.

    Gave me a bit of a pick me up and reality check I needed reading this.

    Thanks. :)

    Mar 15, 2012
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    • lostgirl84

      Thanks, wicked. I actually needed to reread it myself :)

      Mar 16, 2012
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  • learning4ever

    Thanks for sharing your story. Fear can be paralyzing. I am glad you overcame it.

    Feb 28, 2012
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  • calvinunmaker

    I am glad to hear you found some of your own inner power use it wisely and it will grow and grow

    Jan 30, 2012
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    • lostgirl84

      Thanks calvinunmaker.

      Jan 30, 2012
      1 like