I'm Just Not Good At Connecting...

I think I walk around in the world inside a sort of invisible bubble that keeps people out.  I guess I'm kind of a closed person... till you get to know me.  It's always funny to see how people react to the real me once she is revealed, but only after I've known them for quite some time.  They wonder where "the quiet one" went.

2Quirky 2Quirky
51-55, F
4 Responses Feb 12, 2009

I feel the same way too. Sometimes I try to talk to people when I am at a social function, but I don't know how to keep the conversation rolling. I feel more comfortable staying in my own head then to actually have a conversation with some one who I do not know. Like you, I dont want to open up to just anyone unless I trust you.

2quirky, I feel I am the same way. I am very protective of who I "open up" to. And if I feel that I only want friends who I can connect with completely. I am very quiet until you get to know me.<br />
It can take me quite a while to become friends with someone in real life. On the net it is much easier, but not as fulfilling.

I'll bet you're like me--you spend a lot of time (maybe too much) in your own head. Start by noticing other people and what's happening to them, and then try to say something understanding about their situation.<br />
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This is what I'm learning (slowly) to do, and what my wife does naturally, unthinkingly all the time. And as a result, she has tons of people connect with her who are almost total strangers, and sometimes even the total strangers feel like they want to tell their life stories to her, lol!

get rid of the bubble and don't be afraid of being your self all the time.<br />
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Remember, like yourself and others will like you as well.