New To This

So I have realized a couple of months ago that I really want new friends. I do have a handful of friends, but the thing is I'm bored with them and most of all, disappointed by them. Theyre not really true friends, except for like 1 or 2 of them. Besides, most of my friends are guys and I really need to make some girl friends because now that I'm a married woman, it's just not very appropriate anymore and other women can relate to things like cramps for example, when men can't. I'm really scared that I'm gonna be stuck with disappointing friends... I really hope I can make some new connections soon.

fernanda89x fernanda89x
18-21, F
4 Responses Mar 14, 2010

I am also in the same boat. I don't have a lot of truly good friends. This is something that saddens me alot. I'm a great person with a lot to give. I stand by my friends no matter what but it seems I never get the same in return. I've tried all kinds of things but haven't really met anyone i can call a true friend. For some reason girls don't like me very much. I'm kind of at a low point right now.

Yes I know what you mean when it's time to make new friends I'm going thru the same thing. It's a hard thing to do because genuine people are very hard to find good luck on your search.

Thank you! I really appreciate the suggestions. A book club is a great idea. =]

Maybe there are positive steps you can take towards making new friends, Fernanda.<br />
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I see from your profile that you enjoy singing... perhaps there is a church or community choir group you could join, or even a karaoke venue nearby? <br />
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You also enjoy books... maybe there is a Book Club near you -your local library could probably give you contact information, or you could find it on the internet. <br />
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And helping people... maybe you have some spare time you could devote to working with a charity group, helping disadvantaged people? <br />
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Any of these activities would give you the chance to meet new people, and as you would share an interest, some could become good friends.<br />
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I noticed on your profile also that you are new to EP and so far you have no EP friends. This may be a conscious policy on your part, in order to avoid "inappropriate" relationships. But I urge you not to discount the value of good honest online friendships with people you can trust. They can really help with support and advice, if you ever need it, and most of EP is populated with genuinely caring and compassionate people. <br />
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The way to find the truly good ones is to read some of their stories, maybe leave a comment here and there, exchange some personal messages. You will soon know who you can trust.<br />
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Best of luck!