How Soon Is Too Soon?Well, Chase and I are both 18 and have been dating for a year.
When he gets back from AIT in November, it'll be almost a year & a half since we started dating. When he gets back, we will be moving in together and starting college 1 month later.
We've talked about getting engaged after we're both 19 and have some college out of the way. Also, we wouldn't actually get MARRIED until we're about 21-23 and have our careers started. Everyone in the family that I mention it to (besides my sister-in-law) says it is a bad idea and thinks we are waaay too young.
Yes, 19 is a young age to be getting that serious. But I wouldn't be getting married at 19. They also say things like "if you don't plan to actually get married for a few years, why get engaged?" and I tell them the truth. "I want to be engaged for a few years before getting married. I don't see why not."
Then there's always that ONE person that thinks I shouldn't marry him just because he is my first love and I haven't "been around the block" or "tested the waters" yet.
No one in my family has been in my position, dating a soldier and all. It's not the same as dating a civilian. Whenever you already know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, and then suddenly they have chances of being deployed, why not go for it?
BUT. I'm big on having my mom's approval before getting engaged, so I expect Chase to ask. All of it still worries me, though. I don't want to get frowned upon by everyone in my family for being an engaged teenager.
What do you think, is 19 too young to be engaged? Should I ignore everyone else?
If you've gone through something similar, I want to hear your experience. Thanks!
jordancromer 18-21, F 2 Responses 0 Jul 31, 2012