I Want to Marry My Soldier
Ok... I need to ask you all a question (mainly the girls :-)! My boyfriend is in basic training now... and I am still waiting for his first phone call. He is the guy of my dreams, and I love him more than anything in this world. When I say we have been through a lot... I am not just saying it (because that phrase is very over used)... To give you all a little bit about us so you can get the picture before i ask you all the question...
1.) I met him in 10th grade when I was 14 and he was 15.
2.) I liked him but he was moving away so he said he did not want to get close to me.
3.) He moved away and we lost contact that summer, but he came back to the area right as our 11th grade year started.
4.) I had a boyfriend at the time, and I dated him for almost 2 years (a little over a year a half.. long story) but he was one of my best friends. He told me that he wanted to date me that year, but knew my boyfriend and did not want to make me unhappy.. since I seemed happy.
5.) I went on double dates with him and his girlfriend during that time, it bothered both of us so we stopped because we did not want our relationships to get weird.
6.) I had sleep overs with this girl... and had to hear about ALL of it... wasn't too bad.. but is when you care about him... it made me realize I did when I didn't know it was still there.
7.) I did early admission at the local college my senior year so we lost contact for about 10 months... I always tried to find him on campus, and never could.... He always tried to find me right as I would leave. He asked others for my number or to get my number but they never had it and never would.
8.) During this whole time he had a track phone with 60 min a month... and him, his mom, and sister would have to use it... so no we NEVER texted, talked on the phone.... and we both did not have facebook... it was just every moment we spent together that held off to the next.
9.) BTW I was his lab partner junior year and we would argue (play argue) so much. We hung out so much that people assumed that we were together (even though I was with my boyfriend at the time... NO I NEVER CHEATED ON MY EX)
10.) The first time I saw him again was during senior check out... I felt butterflies and was so happy (and so was he now that I find out how much he talked about me lol). Yet, I felt guilty because I did not understand the kind of love I had for my ex yet...
11.) the next day my ex broke up with me..... I was heart broken because of the life I planned... not because of him. I am happy about what he taught me, but I know my place is not and was never with him. I wish him the best. (also when I met trevor (my boyfriend) for the first time... the bf I had then broke up with me too.... STRANGE HUH!)
12.) We finally got the nerve to go out on a date.. thanks to our friends.... and I got terrified and ran because I know that words can be meaningful at the time and not work out... and I did not want to plan something and have him be the one who hurt me... I want him to be a WHAT IF... a dream... so that I would not be disapointed.
13.) He chased me down (figuratively of course) and told me I could not get rid of him this time... he knows there is something and wants to be my best friend, protector, and boyfriend.... He took me to meet his family (the ones he still has) which everyone was surprised because no girl from ANYWHERE has gone there.
14.) His mom told me that if he did this.. he must be serious about me, and she could tell by the way her son looked at me... that scared me and I found more reasons to get mad at him to push him away!
15.) I went on a 2 week vacation... to clear my head (other things where going on too)... and my heart told me I had to text Trevor... I asked him if it was too late... He said that he still cares and always has... 2 weeks isn't anything compared to the last 3 years. THAT IS WHEN HE TOLD ME HE WAS GOING INTO THE ARMY.
16.) My heart sank... I asked if I could see him monday... but changed it to sunday (the next day) because my heart told me that I had to see him as soon as possible.... The day I was there he was kicked out of his apartment and he had to come stay with my family.
17.) My dad forbided us to date since he was living in our house... It was either us be together or him not have a home... You know the choice I made.
18.) I went with him to the recruiters when I could, everything except for PT and MEPS haha
19.) He was told (right before enlisting) that he would be leaving in a month from that day. I was so upset because I was told to expect more time.... like a couple months.
20.) He told me he loved me before that.... and I told him the same, but if was hard for me to believe... like it was not happening.
21.) His mom and sister (the only family he has left) wanted to leave our house and move into a hotel... and take Trevor. The last 2 weeks I had with him would be gone... I trusted his mom... and she kept saying how she doesn't know how the military and our relationship will work out.
22.) He chose to stay in my house.... He was going to leave just so that he could date me... but he came to the understanding that it is better to spend as much time as we can than to have a label that is only for other people anyways.
23.) I helped him get his bank account and everything else he needed. I began school and I am a part of 3 organizations on campus, and became so busy during the last time that he was here... and felt so guilty but I knew I would be lucky to have these things to do once he was gone. He would sit with me to do homework etc.
24.) We hung out with his ex that we had the double date with (enough said right lol)... and I was still working on believing him.
25.) Finally my dad allowed us to date... 2 days before he would leave. We have never had alone time... other than little sneaking times when we would stay up in the living room till 3 am just talking... but we were always looking over our shoulder and eventually my parents kept their door open so we could not do that. We finally had our first real date on September 16th (the next day).
26.) I kept trying to push myself away again, distancing myself (I have a habit of that and he knows that... for protection). He looked at me and said I love you, you are the most amazing woman on the planet.... you are nuturing.. kind.. smart... can cook great (inside joke not for real what he wants in a woman thing lol)... and I never want to let you go... I love just looking at you for no reason... holding you in the little moments I can... If you can not believe that than I am not an emotional guy and you know that (have known for a while)... and that took a lot... so there is nothing else I can say.
27.) Everything finally felt right... I believed everyword.
28.) He left the next morning for Basic Training (on Monday... September 17th to be at Fort Jackson by the 18th).
Sorry that was so long....I just get so wrapped up! However, with that background information i would love to hear from some of you more experienced Military SO's to help me with this question! He got to text me while he was in reception for like one hour the other night (since he has not started true boot camp yet (in reception)... atleast not by last night anyways)... and he was telling me about how he is lucky to have me... and he is proud to do this... but he knows he could not do it without me. I won't take all the credit... but its nice to hear. Then he said that he never knew how inadequate the word love was to describe how he feels for me... He can't wait to spend every moment with me. Now this is after 36 hours with no sleep so take from it what you will. LOL
The main part I am questioning is when he said that he knows I have my mind set on spending my life with someone after college... but he wants me to know that now being away from me (this being different since he was able to be with me 24/7 living together before he left) has made him realize that he does not think he can wait 4 years (after his first enlistment) to spend every moment with me... to MARRY ME. He said he knows it won't be soon (over a year from now)... (I finish school *Bachelors* in 2014 accelerated or 2015)... but wants it to be before 4 years from now.
So from all of your guys experiences... is this just the Basic Training/Lack of Sleep talking... becuase I do not what to plan, or think something will happen if he will later take it back like I have had before. He is not an emotional guy at all, so it shocked me... he hates texting to so it shocked me that he was texting that as well (since he could not talk). He had to give up his phone so I guess I am waiting for a phone call with a mailing address... he told me his Company and Platoon and # but idk what to do with that actually. I am sleeping in his shirts, and wearing his high school class ring (that he gave me, but I couldn't wear till my dad said ok) around my neck. Please bring me back down to earth, back to reality. I want to know if that sounds TO GOOD TO BE TRUE!.. or if statements like that are common once they are in basics... or if you feel it is legit...
PLEASE HELP :-) THANK YOU!
1.) I met him in 10th grade when I was 14 and he was 15.
2.) I liked him but he was moving away so he said he did not want to get close to me.
3.) He moved away and we lost contact that summer, but he came back to the area right as our 11th grade year started.
4.) I had a boyfriend at the time, and I dated him for almost 2 years (a little over a year a half.. long story) but he was one of my best friends. He told me that he wanted to date me that year, but knew my boyfriend and did not want to make me unhappy.. since I seemed happy.
5.) I went on double dates with him and his girlfriend during that time, it bothered both of us so we stopped because we did not want our relationships to get weird.
6.) I had sleep overs with this girl... and had to hear about ALL of it... wasn't too bad.. but is when you care about him... it made me realize I did when I didn't know it was still there.
7.) I did early admission at the local college my senior year so we lost contact for about 10 months... I always tried to find him on campus, and never could.... He always tried to find me right as I would leave. He asked others for my number or to get my number but they never had it and never would.
8.) During this whole time he had a track phone with 60 min a month... and him, his mom, and sister would have to use it... so no we NEVER texted, talked on the phone.... and we both did not have facebook... it was just every moment we spent together that held off to the next.
9.) BTW I was his lab partner junior year and we would argue (play argue) so much. We hung out so much that people assumed that we were together (even though I was with my boyfriend at the time... NO I NEVER CHEATED ON MY EX)
10.) The first time I saw him again was during senior check out... I felt butterflies and was so happy (and so was he now that I find out how much he talked about me lol). Yet, I felt guilty because I did not understand the kind of love I had for my ex yet...
11.) the next day my ex broke up with me..... I was heart broken because of the life I planned... not because of him. I am happy about what he taught me, but I know my place is not and was never with him. I wish him the best. (also when I met trevor (my boyfriend) for the first time... the bf I had then broke up with me too.... STRANGE HUH!)
12.) We finally got the nerve to go out on a date.. thanks to our friends.... and I got terrified and ran because I know that words can be meaningful at the time and not work out... and I did not want to plan something and have him be the one who hurt me... I want him to be a WHAT IF... a dream... so that I would not be disapointed.
13.) He chased me down (figuratively of course) and told me I could not get rid of him this time... he knows there is something and wants to be my best friend, protector, and boyfriend.... He took me to meet his family (the ones he still has) which everyone was surprised because no girl from ANYWHERE has gone there.
14.) His mom told me that if he did this.. he must be serious about me, and she could tell by the way her son looked at me... that scared me and I found more reasons to get mad at him to push him away!
15.) I went on a 2 week vacation... to clear my head (other things where going on too)... and my heart told me I had to text Trevor... I asked him if it was too late... He said that he still cares and always has... 2 weeks isn't anything compared to the last 3 years. THAT IS WHEN HE TOLD ME HE WAS GOING INTO THE ARMY.
16.) My heart sank... I asked if I could see him monday... but changed it to sunday (the next day) because my heart told me that I had to see him as soon as possible.... The day I was there he was kicked out of his apartment and he had to come stay with my family.
17.) My dad forbided us to date since he was living in our house... It was either us be together or him not have a home... You know the choice I made.
18.) I went with him to the recruiters when I could, everything except for PT and MEPS haha
19.) He was told (right before enlisting) that he would be leaving in a month from that day. I was so upset because I was told to expect more time.... like a couple months.
20.) He told me he loved me before that.... and I told him the same, but if was hard for me to believe... like it was not happening.
21.) His mom and sister (the only family he has left) wanted to leave our house and move into a hotel... and take Trevor. The last 2 weeks I had with him would be gone... I trusted his mom... and she kept saying how she doesn't know how the military and our relationship will work out.
22.) He chose to stay in my house.... He was going to leave just so that he could date me... but he came to the understanding that it is better to spend as much time as we can than to have a label that is only for other people anyways.
23.) I helped him get his bank account and everything else he needed. I began school and I am a part of 3 organizations on campus, and became so busy during the last time that he was here... and felt so guilty but I knew I would be lucky to have these things to do once he was gone. He would sit with me to do homework etc.
24.) We hung out with his ex that we had the double date with (enough said right lol)... and I was still working on believing him.
25.) Finally my dad allowed us to date... 2 days before he would leave. We have never had alone time... other than little sneaking times when we would stay up in the living room till 3 am just talking... but we were always looking over our shoulder and eventually my parents kept their door open so we could not do that. We finally had our first real date on September 16th (the next day).
26.) I kept trying to push myself away again, distancing myself (I have a habit of that and he knows that... for protection). He looked at me and said I love you, you are the most amazing woman on the planet.... you are nuturing.. kind.. smart... can cook great (inside joke not for real what he wants in a woman thing lol)... and I never want to let you go... I love just looking at you for no reason... holding you in the little moments I can... If you can not believe that than I am not an emotional guy and you know that (have known for a while)... and that took a lot... so there is nothing else I can say.
27.) Everything finally felt right... I believed everyword.
28.) He left the next morning for Basic Training (on Monday... September 17th to be at Fort Jackson by the 18th).
Sorry that was so long....I just get so wrapped up! However, with that background information i would love to hear from some of you more experienced Military SO's to help me with this question! He got to text me while he was in reception for like one hour the other night (since he has not started true boot camp yet (in reception)... atleast not by last night anyways)... and he was telling me about how he is lucky to have me... and he is proud to do this... but he knows he could not do it without me. I won't take all the credit... but its nice to hear. Then he said that he never knew how inadequate the word love was to describe how he feels for me... He can't wait to spend every moment with me. Now this is after 36 hours with no sleep so take from it what you will. LOL
The main part I am questioning is when he said that he knows I have my mind set on spending my life with someone after college... but he wants me to know that now being away from me (this being different since he was able to be with me 24/7 living together before he left) has made him realize that he does not think he can wait 4 years (after his first enlistment) to spend every moment with me... to MARRY ME. He said he knows it won't be soon (over a year from now)... (I finish school *Bachelors* in 2014 accelerated or 2015)... but wants it to be before 4 years from now.
So from all of your guys experiences... is this just the Basic Training/Lack of Sleep talking... becuase I do not what to plan, or think something will happen if he will later take it back like I have had before. He is not an emotional guy at all, so it shocked me... he hates texting to so it shocked me that he was texting that as well (since he could not talk). He had to give up his phone so I guess I am waiting for a phone call with a mailing address... he told me his Company and Platoon and # but idk what to do with that actually. I am sleeping in his shirts, and wearing his high school class ring (that he gave me, but I couldn't wear till my dad said ok) around my neck. Please bring me back down to earth, back to reality. I want to know if that sounds TO GOOD TO BE TRUE!.. or if statements like that are common once they are in basics... or if you feel it is legit...
PLEASE HELP :-) THANK YOU!
By:
Angie0618
Age:
18-21
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Female
