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Im Nervous to Ask My Boyfriend to Move In With Me

I am really loving my man. We have been dating for a little over 7 mnths and he is everything I' look for in a man. He is looking to move in June 09 because his lease is up.  In the past month he has mentioned his move maybe three times to me. (Is that his way of searching for me to ask him?) I want to present it to him that  is just fine for him to move in witth me. I'm afraid of him rejecting my offer, I can use the help of course but; I definetly see a future with him. What should I do?I am 30 yrs old and he is 35yrs old. I tend to get tongue tided when I around him, with butterflies and I have told him that I'm in love with him. Please provide any advice possible! Thanks

lovinmyman lovinmyman 31-35 4 Responses May 18, 2009

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My experience has been that when moving in together finding a new place all together is easier than one moving to the others place. Makes it alot easier to call it our place not his or her place. And can make the other person more comfortable.

HIS TELLING YOU ALOT ABOUT HIS LEASE BEING UP SOON IS PROBABLY A WAY OF HIM HINTING TO YOU THAT HE WOULD LIKE TO COME LIVE WITH YOU. TRY TO THINK OF A MANNER TO PRESENT THE IDEA. DON'T ASK HIM JUST THROW THE IDEA OUT THERE. I BELIEVE YOU WILL PROBABLY GET THE RESPONSE YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IF YOU DO NOT ASK HIM. SOMETHING LIKE "I WAS THINKING, MAYBE YOU COULD MOVE IN WITH ME TIL YOU GET ON YOUR FEET WHEN YOUR LEASE IS UP..??" YOU WOULD BE THROWING A BONE TO HIM NOT EXACTLY ASKING HIM AND THEN JUST LEAVE IT AT THAT AND DO NOT KEEP ON AND ON WITH IT. IF YOU DO THAT I WILL BET YOU WILL GET THE RESPONSE YOU ARE LOOKING FOR...BEST WISHES

i think u should just tell him!

well, this is a delicate situation but nonetheless a situation! I think you should approach it calmly and just say you know the only way to really get to know each other intimately and naturally is to live together. My ex said that to me after dating a couple of days...so I moved in...almost less than a month in...I moved out...I don't know your situation but we weren't together that long beforehand. You probably have a great foundation between the two of you, you should try it! Besides, you two aren't getting any younger, nobody is.