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Want To Move Out My Fathers House And Never Look Back

I just want to leave this house. My father makes my life miserable. I can't stand it anymore. He told me to leave. I will do that. I will not let him make me go crazy. I want to leave and I just want to know how. I have so much fear that it is crazy. But I need to do it. I need to leave, and never come back. This is not my house, this is my fathers house. I need to leave and do it as soon as possible.

chicago54 chicago54 22-25, M 5 Responses Jan 24, 2010

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jburns has a point, there are 2 kinds of dad..some are toxic, and u need to get away..but sometimes, their basically good, just lack of communication..he doesnt get u..u dont get him? which do u have? are u trying?
did he tell u to leave and meant it..or was it out of anger and he didnt.
good luck..ur an adult..just think carefully..life never gives u time back..and u only get one father.

I also dislike my father. He does not think, he doesn't care. He never thought me anything good. All he knows is wrong...is sad to say but I wish I was born in a different place, in a different family. I'm in the same situation right now and have nowhere to go, but will pray so I can get a job soon in order to afford for my accomodation. Saddly, my government does not give a **** about temporarily accomodation over here

I also dislike my father. He does not think, he doesn't care. He never thought me anything good. All he knows is wrong...is sad to say but I wish I was born in a different place, in a different family. I'm in the same situation right now and have nowhere to go, but will pray so I can get a job soon in order to afford for my accomodation. Saddly, my government does not give a **** about temporarily accomodation over here

I was an only child. My father and I had a very stormy relationship when I was growing up. So much so that I rebelled at 17 years of age by getting pregnant, quitting school, and eloping. Because of my relationship with my Dad I looked for the wrong kind of love in all the wrong places. I had no self-esteem or sense of worth from being raised by a super-critical and tempermental father. I married 3 different times and was abused in each marriage. My mother was sweet and kind, but very passive. When my mom died 10 years before my father, he and I finally had a chance to work on our relationship. By then I had grown up and he had mellowed some (not a lot - but some). As I got to know my father better, I discovered that he had been shot two times in WW2 and he still had nightmares. He was discharged because of a nervous breakdown. He had been raised on a farm in the great depression era and did without a lot. I also found out that he married my mother with the agreement (he wanted to wait, but mom pushed him into it) that they would live with and take care of his mother who was poor and in bad health and by then was widowed. Mom couldn't get along with his mother, became pregnant right away and insisted on moving. After I found all this out (and more) I could see what made him become who he was. He was a very angry man and had been through a nervous breakdown. I finally found out that our relationship failure was not because there was something wrong with me and was not all my fault. When he died in 1998, I had finally made peace with the fact that I could never please him nor take away his anger, and that I wasn't responsible for any of it when I was growing up. I could finally relax, and try to overlook his faults and could love him during his last years. I'm glad I made the decision to get to know him and repair much of our problems with each other. I made that decision when I became a Christian. I have no regrets.

Been their before theres always 2 options,1) if you want to stay in the house work around it, earn a living there?, liek maybe clean the house, or get a job and out 10 pound towards it, i worked out cleaning helps xD im allowed to stay xD aha, 2) buh if you really want to move coz of the distress then,, id plan it a month before so you know everything is certain about where ur living and so on if like ask other family members or friends maybe for temporary timming untill you get your own apartment, or if he wants to chuck you out sign for a council house, just get him to sign it syaing hes chucking you out xD