Discipline Without Corporal Punishment.
My partner and I raised eight girls to adulthood. We are very proud of our children. They are wonderful people. They reflect the guidance and the principles of decent living that we set for them by word and by our own examples.
Many people have asked us (over the years and recently) how we maintained order without ever having to spank them.
Please bear in mind that this is our opinion. But the opinion is based our experiences as parents.
Discipline should be used to teach a child a change in a behavior pattern that will be harmful to themselves in the long run.
Discipline should not be issued when you are angry. And sometimes that is a hard rule to follow. But we had to set the example on how to respond to negative situations.
If a child broke a rule or did something that was a wrong, that had to go to their father and tell him what they did.
Then the child had to decide what their punishment was going to be with addeums from dad to add to their choice if we believed their decision wasn't reinforceful enough.
Usually the addeum was in the form of a lenghty essay explaining their behavior and what they were going to do to change it and/or much corner time.
Dad would tell the child that they were forgiven and kiss them on the forehead.
Than Dad would tell them if there was a repeat of the behavior, it was his duty as a father to chose their discipline.
There was little repetition of a behavior by the same child. The kiss got so humiliating sometimes, that they would be asked to be hit like there friends were.
We wouldn't hit them.
We were extremely lucky that our influence as parents outweighed any external influences that could have affected our kids.
God smiled on us. We thank him every day.
We love our daughters.
And they love us.