I Want To Share Some Lessons Before I Leave You

My Last Lesson

By: BobFrost

Written on November 26th, 2010

The last lesson I'll be sharing with all of you is burning bridges. This is the hardest lesson I learned in my life. I have burned almost every bridge up until I hit my 30's. Even then, I still burned some after the fact. It took that long to get it right. Don't make the same mistakes over and over again like I have most of my life. I can't stress how important it is to not burn any bridges during your lifetime. It will haunt and hurt you in the future. Tie up loose ends and sever ties the right way. Don't do as I do, and please, no matter what you do or decide, never ever hurt anyone in the process of ending a tie. Do things the right way and it will come back to you in the future. Burning your bridges only causes grief towards others and leaves a bad last impression that will ripple like a stone in a lake for as long as your alive. Be remembered for the good person you are. Be remembered for the good things you did and let your parting shot be a smile and a handshake. Never hurt anyone no matter how much they hurt you. Nine times out of ten they won't even remember what it was they did. Other times they'll roll they're eyes and get angry for it being brought up. Just follow my words and do things the right way. Don't start anything until something is over. Don't leave a trail of destruction behind you thinking you'll never revisit again. You might not physically, but mentally you will....over and over. Keep your pride and be the better person. Give two weeks notice, tell your significant other that it's not going to work, tell your family that you don't feel it's in your best interest to remain in contact. Do it diplomatically. Be the positive and wonderful person I have told you throughout my time here on EP. Keep your dignity intact. Let people miss you. Don't ever give someone the right to hate you because of something stupid you said or did. Leave them with your shoulders back and head high.

This is my last and final lesson to you as Bob Frost. The other stories with this one should help you along your way and if you follow my advice, excel here and in life. Take yourself seriously. I always wished for everyone to be happy and healthy and I will continue to wish and hope for the best in everything you all do. I consider this story group closed for me. I created it so you guys could have your own thoughts and ideas to go hand-in-hand with my views. Discuss, learn and share with each other. I love all of you very much.

By: BobFrost

Age: 36-40 , Male

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48 responses

OnewithJC

This is a wonderful contribution to the community and something everyone should follow. Are you leaving?

Apr 24
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BobFrost

Pondering?

Jan 20
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openwindows

Pondering...

Jan 15
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BobFrost

Thank you guys!

Jun 5, 2012
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BobFrost

:)

May 30, 2012
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2011A

Your posting is true. And thank you for sharing this wisdom. Best of good fortune to you, Bob. Enjoy a wonderful life. Bye and take care...

May 27, 2012
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TheHiker

Great post.

Andthat's all I really have to say.

Thanx

Rob

May 27, 2012
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BobFrost

:)

Sep 26, 2011
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Kriekki

I learned that lesson the hard way. It sucks but I'm trying to make right that I wronged. Thanks for sharing the love

Sep 26, 2011
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BobFrost

Thank you

Sep 26, 2011
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BobFrost

Thank you Kita...

Jul 26, 2011
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BobFrost

Please do...copy and paste and print and put in in your locker, fridge, cubicle, desk, screensaver...Spread the word. That's all I really wanted to begin with. Learn from my mistakes, shake off the bad, pick yourself up and dust off your shoulders. Look in that mirror and love what you see. Teach it to children AND adults. Show by example. Leave your impression, leave your fingerprint in every soul you encounter..for not me, for yourself :)

Jul 26, 2011
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jessica29

Some of the BEST DAMN ADVICE EVER ..

"Don't start anything until something is over. Don't leave a trail of destruction behind you thinking you'll never revisit again. You might not physically, but mentally you will....over and over. Keep your pride and be the better person. Give two weeks notice, tell your significant other that it's not going to work, tell your family that you don't feel it's in your best interest to remain in contact. Do it diplomatically. Be the positive and wonderful person I have told you throughout my time here on EP. Keep your dignity intact. Let people miss you. Don't ever give someone the right to hate you because of something stupid you said or did. Leave them with your shoulders back and head high."

BOB FROST

Wow.. I mean wow.. If I ever had an "AH HAH!" moment it was just now when I read this.. especially the part of..

"Don't start anything until something is over. Don't leave a trail of destruction behind you thinking you'll never revisit again. You might not physically, but mentally you will....over and over. Keep your pride and be the better person. Give two weeks notice, tell your significant other that it's not going to work, tell your family that you don't feel it's in your best interest to remain in contact."

This sounds like something Dr. Phil or Dr. Drew wouldv'e stated. Hope you don't mind if I steal this and instill these VERY WORDS into my children. You are a very wise man!

Jul 26, 2011
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Lacerda

you have no idea how true your sage advice is. I too burned many bridges in my younger and more impulsive years. I even am a little ashamed to say that I even tried to burn one last year, and the person I had been hurtful to, was so much more a better person than me, she wouldn't allow the bridge to be burned. we are currently in the process of re-building this bridge into one that i am very hopeful will be even stronger now.

I totally agree that although we may never physically go back to that awful time when we hurt someone we claim to love, we will find ourselves revisiting the scene of the proverbial crime over and over again. For the record I would change my name on here as I have also worked through the very confusing time i spent these past few months, and although I have nothing against gays or lesbians, I still feel like i can say with pride that I am straight

Jul 26, 2011
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BobFrost

I'm glad it helped "someone" :)

Jul 24, 2011
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TheEndevourer

I've been hurt before, and i've walked away from those who hurt me.... This piece rings very true to me. Thank you

Jul 23, 2011
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lexuslourve

Excellent piece...it has always been my pleasure reading your post even though I hardly commented on them....thanks for the advice...will keep them in mind...stay happy......and always have that sweet smile on......huggss......

Jul 22, 2011
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sexxydiva

Very good story we can all learn a lot from it! Thanks for sharing!

Jul 22, 2011
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BobFrost

Yeah..it was my last piece of advice...then I got goofy for a while...

Jul 22, 2011
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snowberry75

Hugs.......very good words to follow my friend.

Jul 22, 2011
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BobFrost

That's beautiful Bluebie :)

Jul 16, 2011
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Bluebie

This reminds me of a quote I recently came across "Let the bridges I burn light the path to my future" or something like that. You know that I am a total peacemaker, but I do think sometimes burning that bridge is the best thing. You don't have to be mean about it, but there are some things in life it is just not good to go back to. Not ever. Hugs my friend.

Jul 1, 2011
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BobFrost

Your welcome :)

Jun 15, 2011
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ElvenLady

Thank you for your piece of wisdom :)

Jun 13, 2011
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BobFrost

It isn't...and I have suffered because of it and wanted to warn others not to do as I did..

Mar 30, 2011
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peterpeterthepumpkineater

Great Story --- Very common issue I think.

I have burned way too many bridges and agree not a good idea.

Mar 30, 2011
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BobFrost

Thank you darlin :)

Mar 24, 2011
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BobFrost

Thats why we need to think before we speak and act :) I still haven't learned this lesson LOL

Mar 14, 2011
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amlost32

i know that feeling

i wish i could use the backspace button in the real life

Mar 12, 2011
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BobFrost

Your welcome!

Mar 2, 2011
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