Because My Life Is Destroyed

The thing that bothers me is you are trying to do better and can't get a break. How do they expect you to get a job and support yourself and your children. As for the dead beat Dad, if he willfully is not paying, I say lock him up. Why should he be out playing while you are paying. Perhaps you could even set up a fund to who ever you owe restitution and we on EP can help. I know I would kick in a little (assuming you can valid your story) to help. Just a thought but many of us are still very generous and like to help someone who is really trying to do the right things in life

Sometimes life has really ****** up ways to make us pay for our actions. Although I do think your punishment far exceeds your crime. I'll pray for you and your family and remember life is far too precious to give up always remember your children. They are your blessing your lasting legacy and your greatest achievement. And when all else fails remember it call only get better.

" But, then again they may do well with out me,"

What the ****? Do you honesty think that your money makes them happy? Are you stupid, or what?

What makes them happy is your smile, your faith, your strength, courage and love.

If you will commit suicide you will hurt them very much. Do you want your children to fall in depression? Do you know how many peoples are poor? Billions! And they suicide? No! I am poor too, but God always help me. Trust him and pray before and after eating, when you wake up and when you fall to sleep. You must be strong. I promise you that if you will pray and have faith in God your problems will be solved very fast. Fight as long as you live. We will die at an age, but 'till then we must fight!



May God bless you, my sister.

Well I know it's difficult with a college ed to get a career with a felony. If you have done nothing else wrong you might want to see if a lawyer could help get to sealed from general background checks. If you are not getting child support, you should go to your state office and make a deal about it. They can get the money for you by garnishing wages plus many will help pick up some of the costs such as helping get you into hud housing or multi-income housing.



There are many families who are poor. Any job is a better than nothing job. It looks better to see someone who is with a job even if you are applying for other jobs. I know several single parent households who do survive off a burger king income. It is a job and job experience can help you get in a better job.



I know in our school the advisers do ask about peoples criminal background to try to let them have fields they will still be able to work in. If you still have your college credits, maybe look into going to take a class towards a field you can work in. It may not be your dream job but it can also help you get into a better paying job.



Don't let go of what you want, but look for ways to change your view and the doors that you are looking at.

I want you to think instead of the possibilities. There is a way out there for you, and you have to believe that you can find it. Even people who have committed really serious crimes find a way of rising above the past and leading very successful lives. Search and you will find. Believe and you will receive.

thats sad and yes crazy...im going thru the same thing plus im on probation i have four kids and the last one i had i did adoption because i knew with this felonie all im guranteed is a life of struggle until i can get my **** sealed but i do what i have to do most jobs i hate an thur low paying even ****** fast food jobs no longer take felons, i respect you an just know that yea were struggling now bhu are kids our top priority always we struggle for them an think about are selfs later... are were never gonna make it and they will end up going down the same busted road and we dont want that right, but i dont know you i just thought id leave a response since were going thru the same things lol were still badass moms... dont let the justice system take that from you lol sorry i blabbed so long . ..

Where are you today? Have things turned around for you? I am in a similar situation though i do not have my youth to blame, instead I made a poor choice to help eleviate the financial burden of my mental health care for my son who is an an unisured adult and was struggling with depression, suicide and addiction.

I too feel the despair. I know i am not a bad person and can do something better but opportunity is limited once you have a felony.

I am praying you are in a better situation now.

You might possibly be able to get your court records sealed. I believe that might allow you to stop telling potential employers about the felony. It might be worth looking into. Expunged records may be possible, but a felony might rule that out. The one silver lining in this cloud is that 15 years ago, the Internet wasn't as pervasive as it is now. People may not be able to simply Google your name and discover your entire history through newspaper clippings.

Do look into expunging and sealing in your state. It might help a lot.